my hubby and i made the mistake of telling a few people that we were trying to have a baby. now, of course, everyone and their dog knows. one of the odd things that i have encountered is how many people have the nerve to tell us that we don't really want children, and that we will be sorry for essentially ruining our lives. i guess i am shocked because first of all, it's not like we were doing a survey to see what everyone thought we should do. our mind was already made up. it seems to me like one of those circumstances where if you can't say anything nice, you shouldn't say anything. secondly, i guess i am surprised how many adults i know that willingly had children, and now apparently think their kids have sort of wasted their life. i am not naive enough to think we are "ready" for kids. i think if you waited until everything was just right, you'd never have them. but...after 4 years of marriage, i feel that we are in a position to take the plunge. we have always wanted children. did anyone else have people dumping such crappy unsolicited advice on them? how did you handle it? i am, after all a married adult. we aren't living with parents, or anything like that. my husband has a good job...etc etc. i guess i can't exactly see what the objection is. it's as if people think that it is not a valid desire to have a family, people keep saying that we'll be missing out on fun. isn't there anyone else in the world that thinks that having a family could actually be fun, and not an 18+ year prison sentence?