I'm going to rant now so sorry in advance! I just need to get this off my chest! So im in a relationship with a much younger man and to say it politely its very intense with lots of issues that we do sort out but still there are lots of them!! I love him to bits but at times its really hard....... Anyway two weeks ago i had a miscarriage. Now that was a massive shock as i am not supposed to have anymore kids due to a million gynae problems! As you can imagine we were both extremely sad! And still are!!! Over the past few days we have been really close and this morning I woke up feeling great, happy, relieved i had slept properly for the second night!!! WHOOP WHOOP!! When i got home from work ( I have a very important, stressful management job within the NHS working with Cancer patients, and he doesn't work ) we were laughing at a stupid meme video I found that was so me & him!!! I decided to share it on Facebook and tag him in it for laughs..... Let me get this straight... I hate Facebook with a passion, I use it to keep in touch with people who are important to me otherwise I wouldn't use it at all really!! But like most people it has become one of those mehhhhh I will look at it every day to see what people are up to routines!! Anyway as I went to tag him i realised I couldn't because we weren't friends on there! I was like WTF!!! So I went and smoked 3 cigarettes and drank 3 Vodkas because I was immediately paranoid as to WHY he had unfriended me....Let me get this straight too..... I had been wondering for weeks as to WHY i was'nt seeing his posts anymore but never in a million years thought to check we weren't friends anymore! I confronted him as I was paranoid he was ashamed of me or was up to no good ( That HAS been an issue long story ) Trust is an issue with me and not just with him! Again long story ) So I confronted him and he said he had not unfriended me..... I got all defensive and then looked through my activity log not seeing that I had done it....I told him this and he became very angry with me calling me a "Psychotic Bitch" that I had done it, he rushed to my phone and immediately found that I HAD UN FRIENDED HIM!! I didn't know where to look properly so had no idea where to look! I was in complete shock.... Why would I do that!! I vowed I would never do that as in our early days I did and people thought we had split up over a stupid argument over nothing!!! Im proud of him and being with him is important to me so i knew it wasnt me who did it!!! He was quick to say it was when we miscarried! Which by the date it was! He said "Now you feel like a stupid ****" and dont talk to him accusing him of stuff he hadn't done! Now ive been pondering over this for a few hours, which is why i am here!!! Firstly i am sick to death of being called names by him, secondly I am really switched on, never forget a trick! I KNOW I DIDN'T DO THAT! You all may think oh god a paranoid weirdo who does things for attention etc etc.....I feel that's how he wants me to feel! Im questioning everything now! Did HE do it?? I don't know!!! Was I hacked, no definitely not... I said to him why would i be this upset if I had done it, why would i have spent half an hour trolling my activity log if id done it, how did he know where to look so quickly!!!! I KNOW I DIDN'T DO IT!!!! Im so tired of drama, so tired of problems, ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh Vent over
Hi Claire, I'd end it. It's hard to end relationships with dramatic guys, I've found. They keep pulling you back in, saying the right things, but they are crazy making, and it isn't healthy to be in those relationships. You teach guys how to treat you by staying with them, when they act like assholes. This guy sounds like an asshole, so I'd find a way to end it and move on. Go no contact.
