Need to know, How Do you commonly finish?

Hey everyone,

Suffer from sexual anxiety. having a massive reluctancy to have sex due to the fear to please the girl.
My question tho is in your sexual encounters what is the most way you finish.

1. You (Male) finish before your girl (and she just has to go without getting an orgasm).

2. You get close to the point of climax, but return to foreplay to get her to the point, then finish at approx the same time.

3. You make her climax, and then yourself (the male) climax after that?

I have this crazy fear of need to please, almost that she will not only tell people about poor performance, so understanding this quesiton should help me out alot

 

oh cool, i get to be the first one to post the standard "it takes me at least 7 hours to cum, and i love eating pussy so much that i have to do that for at least an hour before penetration. by the time my 12 inch penis finally ejaculates, she has had at least 532 orgasms."

 

Come on, why do you have to be so mean to the new guy? There is like a hazing period here, I swear. I think I have survived most of it now.

To answer your questions (hopefully) You need to find out what turns her on. Figure that out, do that and hopefully she will orgasm before you do then you won't have anything to worry about. You don't both have to finish at the same time.

 

^that really wasn't even aimed at the new guy. i was just making fun of the garbage that inevitably gets posted in every thread like this one.

 

Ahhhh, ok. Gotcha.

 

Can anyone actually answer the question? Whats most common for your encounters 1,2 or 3?

 

I'll give you my honest answer (modified). I'm a #3 but she usually climaxes 3-8 times to my 1. Last night was 6. I used to be a #1. #2 is fun, it was a fantasy of hers.
Now I assume you are young and inexperienced (figuratively), I'm 40 and been at it for a while. I've also been with my wife for 20 years. There was good advice about learning what she likes and what will get her off. You will also have to learn to control your excitement and pace yourself physically to last the long haul.
Women are emotional creatures, make that connection with them and rest will work itself out with practice, communication and an open mind.

 

Regarding option 1: If you cum before she does, remember, just because you've had your orgasm, it doesn't' mean that she has to go without.

"Even if you can't cut the mustard, you can still lick the jar."

 

Sorry. I guess I didn't realize it was multiple choice. I'm a girl but for us it's always #3.

 

Like another poster said, when we were younger #1 happened a lot. We are in our mid 30s now. We have been together over 17 years and have it figured out. It takes time to learn what each of you need out of sex. Once we learned what turns both of us on our sex got crazy good. Not to sound like what iminmyunderwear was saying but now I have multiple orgasms before he finishes. It's all about learning what she likes. It has gotten to the point that he can make me orgasm without actual sex. It's hard to explain but just communicate and things well be fine.

 

haha I hate posts like that xD

So true that you always hear them!

But yeah I hate trying to time the orgasms too... trying to please a woman sexually is a fair amount of effort it must be said xD

 

So, when I first began having sex (my girlfriend and I were both virgins), I knew how to get my girlfriend off (orally and manually), and she knew how to get me off (orally and manually), but neither of us really knew how to please ourselves (least of all the other) during intercourse. It took us a long time before we figured out how to get off together.

Before we got to that point, I was almost always the one who finished first, so, after we snuggled for a couple minutes and I caught my breath, I would finish her (either orally or manually). We both just accepted that we weren't on the same wavelength yet and chose to enjoy what we had.

 

Of course, I always finish with a huge flurry of fireworks

 

Like others have said, just because you've already cum doesn't mean that she can't. Tongue, fingers, or just fool around a little bit until you're ready for round 2.