Need tips and ideas to please my man.

Ok so I’ve been with my bf for just over a year. I was marrow for 18 years prior to that and I literally on did missionary position. I’ve tried many new things with my bf but I know he doesn’t absolutely love it and I can tell some nights I really suck. I feel like a need a teacher. I watch porn but have tried everything I’ve seen so far. The only advice he’s given me is that I need better rhythm. And I can try one thing one day and he loves it and gets off quick but I do the same thing another day and he’s not into it at all. I need new position ideas or things that really would make a man go crazy in bed. I’ve been frustrated to the point of tears. I’m trying so hard. I want him to think our sex is mind blowing but I don’t know how to get there. He wants a dominant woman who takes control and I’ve never done that before either. I am trying. I ask what I’m doing wrong and he says I don’t know. I ask what can I do better and he says I don’t know. Sometimes it’s realky great and sometimes it just sucks. Suggestions?? Tips??

 

Try the Cow Girl position or Reverse cowgirl position . This places you on top and in total control .Rhythm though is different for anyone. Some like a slow steady rhythm , some prefer fast and others like me prefer it varied. There is no wrong or right way when it comes to rhythm . To set the seen of looking the part of being more dominant then select black lingerie with black stockings. That will let him know that your in charge. If he misbehaves give him a slap !

 

I actually do reverse cowgirl all the time. It is apparently the position I do best. He still doesn’t always love it though.

 

I think you need to find out exactly what he wants then . Cowgirl is perhaps one of he only few positions that places the woman in charge. I can't think of any others at the moment .Is he looking to perhaps add a little kink into your sessions such as use of a blind fold?

 

Yep we use blindfolds and restraints and toys and stuff like that. Not every time but frequently.

 

Okay then perhaps whilst restrained and blindfolded , try teasing him with your toys with lube applied . For example a vibrator or Body Wand used near his undercarriage and then along his length will give him a new sensation .It will probably bring him on the brink and then you can finish him off with Cow Girl .

IMO you probably have all the right ingredients there already its just a case of using your imagination and experimentation in formulating some recipes .

I think it would be worth having a chat over dinner on what he likes and wants to try .

 

Ive done that as well. This is why I don’t know what to do. How can I fix it if I don’t know what I’m doing wrong? And I ask what he likes and he says I like whatever feels good. That is not helpful.

 

What we do approx. every 6 months we do a sex survey on each other. The survey itself was obtained from one of our books . However you could easily cobble one together asking various questions with 3 answer options ie Yes, NO and Maybe . Then you can compare the answers. Yes and NO are straight forward . The Maybe's are the ones that will need more discussion . This way you will have a complete list of things that both of you want to do and perhaps try . It will also avoid the vague answer of "whatever Feels good" as you are quite correct in it not being helpful .The problem appears to be more of a communication one on his part as he doesn't appear to be opening up to you . That's what you need to work on .

For us the sex survey helps to form fixed boundaries which can only be changed when another survey is done .

 

Try an dress up not in some silk thing but cut some pants an a shirt up make yourself look slutty.
Give him a blow job talk dirty. I find the more she talks dirty the more I like it.
Or put some porn on an act out what you see. If you're ok with cum tell him were to cum my ex used to drive me crazy when we fucked an she would start telling me she wanted me to pull out an Cum in her mouth. She would ride in but when I was ready to Cum she would finish me with her mouth loved that.

 

The more I think about this, it is coming more of a relationship issue ie communication rather than lack of technique or ideas .Reading between the lines I am quite sure she would rock in the bedroom and would satisfy many guys . IMO she needs to get her fella to be more open in want he wants otherwise its like trying to find a needle in a haystack in trying to find something that would please him .

 

Do you think this making sex non spontaneous and your taking that part away, it could be why he's not performing the way you want him to, try spontaneous sex, let it pan out, been married 49 years and our sex has never been planned and its good even though we are over 70.

 

watch porn together there are many positions and techniques to observe and duplicate. And the mere watching together (at least for me) just might allow you both to open up enough to maybe add another or fuck in front of another couple which leads to you getting fuckes by a stranger and your man eating his cream pie as you drip it out.

WOW that took on a life of its own.

 

One word answer,........anal.

 

Totally agree. Reading the posts, I don't think what she's doing in the bedroom is the problem. If he doesn't know how to communicate, he's the one who's a lousy sex partner. It takes two, and she sure sounds like she's putting in her share of effort.

 

How we'd all like to be in that position - "oh honey, what do YOU want ME to do tonight....?" Uhhhhh.......you know.....that thing....uh..that thing you, uh, do with your, you know....that tongue thing... "What, I never thought you really liked that....why didn't you just say so?"...

And then again, not every single time has to be monumental. It's about connection and sensation ....... and occasionally cumming so hard you almost pass out.....

 

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You can never go wrong with that....