Need some stoned advice on the ex

Alright, so I have this ex(just in case it needed to be stated) now long story short, she fucked me over bad, summed up in had her ex move in with her after some other sketchy rumors had, didn't tell me(ironically it was my other ex that first told me this), I tried to trust her, she broke up with me like 3 months after this so she could get engaged to the other ex not even 7 weeks after we broke up.(yes thank you for the I would never cheat on you speech months before).

But about 3 weeks ago once I heard about that and the result of certain substances giving me this awesome unknown feeling of self esteem, she sends me an IM just making a joke about whatever my away message was, but I decide I should finally say what I should've been saying since months and months before, but since it didn't matter anymore I came to the conclusion the only effective way to say what I wanted to say was "oh hey, you can go fuck yourself"
And the conversation went on for a while, she kept asking why I was telling her to go fuck herself, but I was getting ticked at that, cause we could've been fine, I wasn't looking for an apology, I just wanted her to actually say and acknowledge to some degree what she did since she knew obviously the general reasons of why I was, but she didn't, and I got ticked, then she got more pissed because I wouldn't say it.(also plus the fact some of what I learned now and back when is stuff she assumes I would never be able to read/know of, livejournal will come back to haunt you people)

Question though finally is, we had been good friends for years before we dated, and we dated because we both had loved each other for a while beforehand. And now I realize having completely cut her off from my reality just makes things to me more depressing then it was originally. So do I talk her again or would it be better in the long run to not to.

 

i wouldnt. i dont think itll ever be what it was, and trying to get it back well just prolong your depression. getting over it sooner would be better than later imo

 

people usually dont be your friends if you tell them to fuck off.

 

i have heard that before from my ex many times.cheated for 4 years that i know of during our 8 year relationship.i heard many promises from her.


but remember they are all sisters!!and as far as the c u next tuesday goes,they are all born with one and some grow into it sooner than others.

you gotta do what feels right to you.when my ex was finished with the head games and told me she found someone else i told her "theres the door,when you walk out dont walk back in.dont call,email,or IM me,ill do it when im ready if im ready.i was never ready.she tried a few times and i told her to go fuck herself.in a way i wish i didnt sometimes.i dont know if it was a good thing or not.

if you still want to be friends with her,thats up to you and you only.if you think there is a chance that the 2 of you could possibly date again,think it threw real well before making a decision.you and only you know if its possible on your end or worth your time.take peoples advice but think things through real good before using it.give yourself time to get over the depression first!!!

 

oh and they all think the grass is greener on the other side wich i think my ex is stating to realise isnt true.ive had to talk to her the last week.had to see her in court for her to give me custody of our son cause the new boyfriend cant handle him.my boy set the guys dashboard on fire in his vehicle.he made her get rid of him.he left her and told her to get rid of the kid before he will come back.i have a funny feeling in the back of my mind that she may be lookin to come back to me.98% of the time when i have a feeling like that,im right.in a way i hope this is the 2% that im wrong,but then i hope im right.cuz yes i do still love her after a year and a half.after all shes done to me in the last year i still love her and would take her back.everybody needs a wake up call,whether they will answer it or not is up to them.

 

sad story man.

ex girlfriends are a trip. one of my ex's also cheated on me during a 2 yr relationship (kinda seems theres a trend here). theres always a part of you that will take them back, idk maybe its male instinct trying to get the pussy back and we had our share of relapses into a relationship. more or less a one night stand which pretty much shows you what kind of girl she is.

then again its a blow to your dignity taking a cheater back.
but you need to move on imo. there will be another girl you feel the same about that wont treat you like shit i didnt think so but it took a few years to find hre.

 

haha cool kid :cheers2:

 

It is never good to burn bridges, in my opinion. But, I wouldn't put myself around her if she generates negativities in your mind

 

nah man, I wouldn't start talking to her again

you might be happy for a little while, but odds are you'll get fucked over again.

 

its not about getting the pussy back.its the way i was raised.if you start a family you do what you need to do to keep it together.children should be with both of thier parents no matter what.if you start a family you dont just decide to get up and leave cuz you think there is better out there.its not good for the children at all.it fucks them up.and im sure some you have personal experiance with this as do i.i never had my father.and its fucked me up hard.id rather loose my dignity and take her back if the chance came along just for my son.wich i have done many times when she decided to move out while i was working.id leave in the morning and everything would be normal and come home to an empty house and a restraining order.

the kids get put right in the middle of the bullshit.this country makes it easy for women.all they need to do is pop out a kid or 2 leave the father/s and collect enough child support so they never have to work again.and the courts allow this.honestly if they are gonna decide to leave on thier own with the kids it should be thier problem to support them..i didnt throw my ex out or anything.i tried to make things work.but all she wanted was the child support.she didnt think of the kid,instead thought with her wallet.it fucked him up bad and as you now see i have custody of him and also a mess to clean up.i have to try to fix the damage she done to him somehow.

 

thats what i said but cant have him thin king it was ok to do.

 

Why would you consider going back to someone who has already shown her willingness to violate your trust and screw you over? I had you pegged as being way more intelligent than that.

 

X2

 

Do you mean "going back" like trying to get back together with her? Cause I don't mean that, that's not even an option anymore considering she's engaged. I mean we were really good friends for years should I try to revive that or not.

 

Well I'm a bit guilty of skimming so I may well have missed that.

I think being screwed over as you described would completely ruin the friendship- but that's just me. You have to draw the lines for yourself. Does it make you look like a pushover and more importantly- do you care? Did how the relationship unfold alter your view of who she was and did it change anything about what you based the original friendship on? At very best I'd be coldly polite... but I'm a vindictive asshole. You may aspire to have greater character than me- I highly recommend that.