need some relationship advice

Discussion in 'Relationships' started by uptighthippie, Sep 27, 2013.

  1. uptighthippie

    uptighthippie Member

    I'm thinking that this place could help me im losing it in the mind. I need a sexual relationship and I cannot get one . I used to have a lot of sex with my old gf but that was almost 3 years ago could you see the insanity. Very desperate looking for some decent advice to get me through this. this un chosen celibacy is killing me inside.
     
  2. kurona

    kurona Member

    I would assume... you cant score on your own. also id assume, prostitution is out of the picture. i would say, ... theres always parties everywhere... its just all play no need for bs or dramatics, find them and you'll score. if you were in my area i can tell you but yer not i think...
     
  3. uptighthippie

    uptighthippie Member

    oh cool that helps I just don't want to seem awkward or put myself in a dangerous situation
     
  4. uptighthippie

    uptighthippie Member

    like hookup with a girl then after find myself fighting her bf, that would be awful
     
  5. Alternative_Thinker

    Alternative_Thinker Darth Mysterious

    Do you want an actual relationship, or do you just want to fuck? If the latter, then you might as well masturbate and deal with it. If that isn't enough(I guess it isn't seeing as how you're ranting about your lack of sex life here), then you'd need to look for girls who are single, willing, healthy, and available for no-strings-attached sex. Good luck.

    Now, if you want a RELATIONSHIP, then you'd need to alter your strategy a bit(or a lot?) because a relationship is about much more than sex. It's about two souls connecting, bonding, and creating the energy of love. Not lust, there's a difference. Love. If THIS is what you want, then you focus on the communication part with the other party. You get to learn about them, and find out whether or not they are compatible with you in various aspects. Sex becomes more than sex, and it begins to take on some spiritual nuances almost(for some couples full-on spiritual even). It becomes making love.
    If this is what you want, then you need to wank a few times to calm your dick first, then breathe deeply to calm your mind. Then you go out there into the world and start meeting all kinds of people until you cross paths with the right girl. Good luck.

    In the meantime, I say masturbate. In reality, three years of celibacy isn't a big deal. You're just really really horny at the moment. You'll live.
     
  6. Wow, seriously, are you sure you dont have a vagina?
     
  7. Alternative_Thinker

    Alternative_Thinker Darth Mysterious

    Well, in a way I do. My girlfriend's that is. And she, in a way, has my dick, too. ;)
     
  8. nectar

    nectar Member

    So Sweet.:daisy:
     
  9. Just_a_woman

    Just_a_woman Member

    It can't be that difficult to find a one night stand to scratch that itch. I find it very easy to find men when all I want is sex.
     
  10. uptighthippie

    uptighthippie Member

    I would rather have a relationship right now and scratching that itch solo is getting old oh I'm sorry I'm not celibate no no no I wank all the time but I've slowed down so much a steady woman would be awesome, I wanna find sex i just have to stop being so lazy
     
  11. BrotherHobo

    BrotherHobo Member

    Has it occurred to you that in order to have some kind of normal sexual relationship, you might need to first establish an emotional relationship? That would mean trying to meet a woman, be attractive to her, actually establish a genuine affection between the two of you and eventually a trusting, loving relationship that might lead to a sexual relationship.

    But if it's just all about you and your dick, do the women of the world a favor and just hire prostitutes. They're professionals and at least some of them are not addicted to drugs or infected with god-awful diseases. Much like their customers, they are definitely not interested in entangling emotional ties. For them, it's all about MONEY, instead of all about getting laid. Sex with customers is just a means to an end--filling up their bank account. It's sort of the female version of "wham, bam, thank-you-ma'am." Expect to pay up front, and don't expect them to actually give a rat's ass about you or your well-being. They are in business. They'll be in and out of your life as fast as they can get an orgasm out of you, and the sex can be just as steady as you have the money to pay for. Kind of like hiring a plumber or getting the oil changed in your car.

    You don't seem to be too interested in meeting other people's emotional needs anyway, so why not just simplify things? Pay cash. Don't expect any empathy.
     
  12. uptighthippie

    uptighthippie Member

    yeah I guess a nightclub is a good place for me just trying to be financially stable with my life so I can be there for a wife and children so they will be living life carefree. That's probably just foolish of me
     
  13. Hedgeclipper

    Hedgeclipper Qiluprneeels Nixw

    I have the same problem -- For me it's because I only really find sex fun when I get to do it multiple times with the same girl and really get to know her... intricacies. I like being in relationships, but my standards are too high, and I'm always sort of saying "it's too much effort... If you get involved with [this[/i] girl, you'll miss out on the one you actually love..." and it just keeps going like that. I always start little flirtatious thigns with girls and sometimes have sex but never really bring it to the stage I want to anymore.

    dope comeback. Why is considering love important considered so feminine these days?
     
  14. Alternative_Thinker

    Alternative_Thinker Darth Mysterious

    If you're trying to be financially stable, and are interested in having a relationship with someone, then you would need to:

    1 ) earn money

    2 ) meet the right girl who is compatible with you

    I don't know if, by "nightclub", you're referring to the place you (wish to) work at, or the place where you hope to meet women at. Working at a nightclub(as a bartender? bouncer?).....well, that's a job, you get paid, so it's an option I think. I wouldn't perceive it as a permanent career, but it can be a "passing point", if you will.
    Nightclubs as an environment to meet the right girl: probably not in many cases. Clubbing can be expensive which may conflict with your current situation of trying to become more financially stable. Besides, I've found that having an intimate/deep conversation while clubbing is often difficult to do with all the loud music and people dancing. I personally would rather meet people elsewhere, for example at a coffee shop, where I can actually have a decent conversation with them.

    The prostitution idea, again, would mean spending money when you want to be saving it. And with no emotional connection to develop or nurture, how much better would the sex be compared to masturbation? Wanking may get old, but at least it's safe(unless you do so in an unsafe manner), pleasurable, free, and it can take the edge off your horniness.
     
  15. Alternative_Thinker

    Alternative_Thinker Darth Mysterious

    Thanks. Well, I DO have many female friends, lol. They are good teachers, and my girlfriend recently proved to be among the best(albeit for somewhat off-topic reasons). But anyway, perceiving love to be important in itself is neither feminine nor masculine as far as I'm concerned. It just means you believe in love. Many men believe in love, women ditto. :)
     

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