Need Opinions! Sex Problem

Ok let me start this off by saying that I'm a 21 year old guy who should be at the peak of his sexual career. Here's my dilemma; Every time I'm in a relationship our sex starts out great but within the first month I lose all sexual interest. It's not that I lose attraction I just stop having interest in having sex. Like right now I'm single and I've had plenty of opportunities to have sex but no desire to. Is there something wrong with me or do any of you guys go through this as well? Thanks in advance for the replies

 

There is likely nothing wrong with you, Everybody will go through this at least once in their lives.
That being said, it may be caused by depression, or certain medications.

It's also possible that you are just getting bored with the routine, in which case, taking it up a notch may help. You're young, and probably looking for variety and exploration.

This is just my thoughts on it. I tend to do this myself. Even when I was single, I would go through phases where I wasn't very interested in sex. Usually it was because I was busy with work. Now, being married, my husband and I have an open relationship, which works for us.

 

If you exclude the external factors such as stress and meds, you may want to start thinking about your own perception of what sex means and does for you.

I grew up believing that sex was just one of the basic human needs. Sometimes you need it more. Sometimes you need it less. When I feel like having sex, I go for it. If an opportunity shows up, I am more than happy to oblige. But I do not obsess over it. It is just sex. It does not change your life more than a good dinner does. A friend of mine used to say, it was like winning a soccer game. Coo,l but you still have got your life to live...

Sex in a relationship tends to be a series of repetitive events. It simply addresses the human need for sex.

Some people have a very high sex drive and fit into an oversexualized culture pretty well. The others have a different chemistry, and are wondering if there is something/anything wrong with them. They do not fit in too well....

If you feel that your sex drive is simply too low, go and have it checked. There may be a medical issue lurking our there. If the tests turn negative, go on living your life as it suits you.. The notion that you should be messing around with anyone who is willing just because you happen to be 21 is flawed.

KD