Need my life to change

You really are the most clueless person in the world...

As I have told you before... I am not a mod, I am not a supermod, I am just a user here...

It wasn't to me that you directed your commments...

 

The comment still stands. Authority really means a lot to you, doesn't it? Should I run to kiss his toes now that I've found out that he is a super-moderator?

 

Okay, let me point this out in no uncertain terms for you.

The rules of the board that we all have to abide under to remain members here, quite clearly state that you should extend respect to the mods... Now, I can understand that if a mod were to overstep their bounds, people getting upset about it.

But considering that the person you accused of this is one of the LEAST confrontational people you will meet here, who habitually refrains from posting his personal opinions in order to maintian that seperation in order to do his job properly, you are 100% out of line.

Especially considering he was only sharing his opinion on someone else's post... not yours..

You took it as an opportunity to call him out...

If he was the type of person you have accused him of being, (or the type you have accused me of being), you would have been banned by now...

He is not, therefore you are not... However, if Skip were to take notice that you attacked one of his mods in such a manner, you may find yourself dealt with by him...

Of course, he may just ignore it and decide you aren't worth bothering with until you push a few more buttons...

You can take all of this any way you wish... I was offering you advice that would make your stay here (however long that may be) more pleasant and give you the opportunity to continue to express your opinion (when it isn't an attack on members or mods)...

 

No- I am human and did hit the op a bit hard. I was trying to be honest but people are not compelled to agree or like my comments. If I'm willing to make harsh assertions then I damned well better be ready for responses in kind.

I think my reply was in part to the word choice that to me seems reflective of a cultural expectation that it's someone else's job to effect positive change on one's life and that people seem to miss the fact that the most important agent of change with their lives is themselves.

You can ascribe whatever motivations to my words you like.

 

There is discretion given in some topics and this particular moderator endeavors to be ever mindful that he is human and is just as prone to making mistakes as the next person.... but this is all a deviation off the topic of the OP wishing to change her life- so in deference to her discussion, let's bring it back to the topic.

 

Well, running away from anything (problems) never works. It will either follow you, or you will be left with potentially life long guilt.

From your second post it sounds like your problem is with others, not necessarily with yourself.

It is nice to be around people of similar ideas and beliefs, but that can also cause life to become a little stale. I find, personally, I sometimes learn the most (or at least new things) from those I don't share much in common with, or even those I tend to not be very fond of to begin with.

Don't get too hung up on what people eat, how the dress, what they like/dislike, whether or not they understand your food choices, etc. That stuff is all irrelevant. People are people and those things don't define who or what a person is, their words and their actions do. So what if someone eats junk food, as long as they're a good person you can get along with. Or if someone doesn't "get" why you choose to not eat meat, who cares, there's much more interesting/important things to get caught up on.

As for finding more like mind people, look for a public activity; most libraries/community centers will have booklets or handouts on what community activities/courses are going on. My city gives out a free 200 page booklet on all the community activities going on. There's painting, guitar, hiking, wine tasting, bead making, etc, etc. Find one that appeals to you and attend the group. You might meet some like minded people.