Need help with virgin girlfriend

Actually honey, if you read your own shite again very carefully you'll see you did.

 

actually darling, not once did i refer to you as the OP.

 

Well, I was gonna say I haven't a clue about virgins, having never encountered one.

But with all this advice and bickering here, I would agree with the extra lube, just stick it in.

But, if it causes so much pain where that is not possible, maybe the girl should be checked for some underlying prob, such as vaginal spasms or other factor causing the pain.

But that is not from experience with virgins, just reading up on probs ppl have with sex.

In that regard to my experience with non-virgin women, did you do foreplay, use a finger to make her wet and loose? Use a tongue to make it even more aroused? Worth a try.

 

From someone who had some trouble the first time, and had the great fortune to have run into an experienced partner who managed things pretty much in line with komland's suggestions, I can say that she'll likely appreciate that a -lot- more than 'just stick it in'. In fact, following that advice, you're pretty likely to only have sex with her the once, if stories from a number of others who've had less pleasant first times are any indication.

Fingers are also a pretty good idea. I've been with a virgin girl myself, and fingers working up to oral, working up to toys seems to work fine. Don't know that a bunch of lube would be that helpful though. In fact, considering the specifics of the problem would likely hinder more then help.

 

Good stuff Autumn...

 

Seeing as your memory seems to have a 5 minute threshold, allow me to remind you. You said I 'fail at what should come naturally in life' clearly inferring I'm suffering from the same probs as the OP...

Apparently you're a girl? Quite a stunning lack of senitivity you've shown on a subject you should be sensitive to...

 

well, we all know assuming makes an ass of you and me

had you made the correct assumption, you would have realized i was flaming your shitty and not-so-well thought out advice. but if it helps your ego to think you're correct, by all means. whatever makes you happy, sweetie.

and yeah, i was a virgin girl once but it isn't something i'm sensitive too and isn't something i ever thought i was supposed to be sensitive too. oh well.

 

That's a picture of the poor lass after she heard your suggestion.

 

says the sex warrior. listen to him

 

interesting comment coming from a virgin who apparently sits and twiddles his thumbs in his free time.

 

Aren't you both virgins??

 

i've had substantially less sex than i should have in my life, but no, not virgin. you're not helping my argument here though...


actually, it doesn't matter anyway. i mostly just come here to make jokes and mock the desperate spammers; i don't claim to be a sexpert. this virgin is trying to pass himself off as a "mature man with experience" in order to trick random hippie girls into sucking his e-cock.

 

Most women do not necessarily enjoy the first few times, so be patient and try again.

Also her being at ease will make a difference as she is less likely to tighten her pelvic muscles which will not make penetration comfortable at all. As was suggested by a couple of posters. Try a little of all but please be gentle.

If she is athletic she may also have a tighter pelvic floor. So take time and you will both eventually enjoy it.

 

You're going to have to ease into experiences like that. It's quite nerve-wracking the first time, especially for young girls. You might have to explore other methods of pleasuring each other and moving around sex organs (if you haven't already) so that you feel comfortable when that time comes. Believe me, it will go in, and if you get familiar with each other before sex, the first time will be much more enjoyable than the normal, awkward virginity losses that you normally hear about. =]

 

How did you do it ?

First time people have sex they are probably apprehensive.

Going straight for the hole is a mistake.

Date her, cuddle her, kiss her thousands of times before you even think about penetrating her.

Penetration is the last thing you should be doing.

Kissing and cuddling her really gentley and in a very caring way is so important.

Never try to penetrate if she is not ready, make sure she is dripping wet before even contemplating entering her.

So you need to kiss her really gently in a caring way do it very slowly.

Your mindset needs to be that of a something that is going to take time.

If shes not ready do not do it.

Don't force it because you just want to fuck her as quickly as you can, this is the wrong approach.

Do a few hours of kissing, cuddling and caressing take your time to undress her be romantic and caring.

Hold yourself up to her vulva and just leave it there make her push herself onto you not the other way around.

So she should be wet if not dont do it

So if she is wet push very gently and very slightly towards the opening but do not ram it just let it touch up against her.

Keep teasing her until she pushes herself onto you.

She'll want it if everything is right so dont coerce her just tease her until she rapes you.

 

Here's a radical thought....maybe ask her what she wants??

If she answers "I'd like my similar-looking female cousin to be present. Oh, and can we watch porn while we're at it?" then marry her....

 

Lick it before you stick it bro

 

I agree with TIB, you need to do more foreplay. Try cunnilingus and possible fingering, whilst working your way up from one, to two, etc.