Need some encouragement please my situation. I have wanted to be with a guy for 20 plus years but have never because of the stigma and lack of opportunity. I have chatted with numerous guys and cammed with guys but have never been able to go through with actually meeting a guy. I have an opportunity to meet a guy 20 years older than me ( I am attracted to older) he fits my criteria as he is married as well and very discreet which is the most important. He has only been with 3 guys and is very careful so he is disease free which is also important. He has a nice cock as well and will not pressure me to do things I am not comfortable with so he is exactly what I am looking for. I really want to experience another guy and know what it feels like and hope I don’t chicken out. Please give me encouragement and advice to experience my first man?
I didn't really realize until my early thirties that I was bisexual. Prior to that I had the occasional gay fantasy while masturbating but once I came I was disgusted. Once I confessed these fantasies to my wife it was like a veil being lifted. I enjoyed my fantasies more and felt good afterwards. I used to start out thinking about women until one day I led off thinking about a man. Women entered my fantasies less and less. Graduated from handjobs and blowjobs to anal fantasies and then (shock and horror) kissing and caressing. Now I watch strictly gay porn and gay fantasies. I am 49 and had my first gay encounter at 43 in a jackoff club. I met a guy a year later and blew him twice. I do four things to my wife in bed. Kiss her mouth, eat her ass, finger her ass, fuck her ass. My wife knows I am now gay and is fine with it. She also knows that one day I will find a gay lover and stop fucking her. Pandemic and my need to lose more weight is stopping me from having a gay lover. My point is, don't wait. Don't be concerned that the first guy you meet is right for you. It has been the same with women anyway. I don't regret meeting my wife and having a family. She knows that regardless of anything else I will come home to her, every night. She actually encourages me and was aware in advance of each encounter I had. I DO regret the fact that my homosexual desires were not stronger earlier in my life when it might have been easier to act on them. And for the love of God, don't worry about labels. Who gives a shit whether you are bi, gay, or whatever. I came to the realization a few years ago that I am gay and just thought, ok, that's cool, and embraced it. I told my wife and she was totally cool about it too. She knows the only way I can fuck her is by masturbating thinking about men beforehand to get good and hard for her. So yeah, go for it dude!
Go for it. I waited 30 years to begin meeting guys because of my own fears and reservations. Life is a hour that goes by very quickly. If you have met a guy that is patient and will to take time, then go for it at your own pace. Once you break through ice and allow yourself to relax and experience the moment, I’m betting you will find it exhilarating. Good luck!
I agree, i wish i had started giving oral much sooner in life as i enjoy it so much. This has progressed to giving and taking anal now too.
I understand what's holding you back. Most men do - it's how society raised us. But just remember - the other guy is nervous too, but since he's experienced already knows how good it feels. He will make you feel comfortable. Most men wait way to long to act on their desires. It's difficult, especially for happily married guys. We feel guilty. It's normal to feel that way at first. but if you take the tie to develop a good relationship with a nice guy, it will change your life for the better. Sounds like the guy you're communicating with might be a good fit - just go for it!
I always lean towards older men than I am. It just feels better mentally for me. I have had a few younger guys, but it felt awkward for me. At any rate, if you want it, do it. We only live once!
You're at the very point thousands of other men have been so being nervous or having second thoughts is normal. If it's something that you truly feel you must experience you have to "Go for It! Allow him to take the lead and just go with the flow. Let him know you are nervous and if it doesn't feel right just say so and end it. But if it does feel good then by all means reach out to him and embrace the moment.
Only you can decide if and when you are ready.That said, I'd encourage you to go for it. This sounds like as close to perfect for you as you are ever likely to find. Besides, true "readiness" for anything is an illusion. Most of the time, you prepare as best you can and then you roll the dice. It sounds to me like you are there. "Everybody place your bets. New roller coming out!" Do it brah! Good luck!
I'm here to see if you got enough encouragement to follow through what you wanted....! Did you..............?
