The wife and I have been married for 20+ years, got together right at the end of high school. Happily married and have had a pretty vanilla sex life most of it. We have a vibrating cock ring, few vibrators, handcuffs, blindfold, and a few years back we got one of those under the mattress restraint setups but haven't really gotten its full potential as we are both mild mannered and not very creative. But the last few months we've both gotten more interested in trying some new things like light BDSM. So here is my idea to spice things up a little and test the waters...curious if it sounds cheesy or HOT? Leave a note in her closet at 6am that says "I'm gonna have my way with you tonight, be back here at 9pm for further instructions". I'll put the note on a hanger with our blindfold, handcuffs and a recent purchase that she doesn't know about yet (nipple clamps and crotchless panties with a top that holes slits cut out for easy access to the nipples). Will be interesting to see her reaction to those??? After work, dinner and kid is in bed...second note in her closet will say "Take a shower and shave (completely smooth) she normally has a landing strip!!! My plan is to pin her against the wall with her arms up, make out for a bit. Then spin her around, put the blindfold and handcuffs on, pop her on the butt (whisper in her ear, how do you like that?), kiss the back and side of her neck, reach around to the front and rub all over etc etc to keep things slow and tease her as much as possible, maybe try to pull her hair to turn her head towards my lips for a kiss and access the side of her neck better (she loves it when I kiss/lick on her neck). Then spin her back around and put her against the wall again, rub ice on her nipples to numb them a little and perk them up, put the nipple clamps on and ask how they feel? Keep her against the wall for a bit while I kiss/suck/lick her neck, stomach, thighs and play with the chain connecting the nipple clamps. Keep her standing and remove her panties for some oral and more teasing before I direct her towards the bed where I'm considering just leaving the handcuffs on and bending her over the bed and doing her from behind...just not sure if that is too dominant for her or not??? Most of this is way out of our comfort zone, especially all combined. But my thought is if she likes it, it should be AMAZING for her. I've also considered right after putting the nipple clamps on just walking away to go get something from another room and leave her by herself for a few minutes, just not sure what the right amount of time is for that, I want it to be hot for her, not boring like she is just standing there waiting forever!!! I'm open to suggestions on all of the above. I want to just blow her mind with this from the minute she gets up that morning.
Sounds good to me. I'm actually just about to spend some money on an 8 point restraint kit for our bed, I'm just researching the longevity of the restraints. Don't want them to break like my spreader bars. Anyway that's a lot of new stuff you want to try and may be a little overwhelming if it's out of your comfort zone. While this is all good in theory, you also have to get yourselves in the right mood to put it into practice which I have a tendency to believe it is easier said than done for lots of couples so personally I feel you're better off role-playing a scenario where you aren't yourselves as this can help bridge the awkwardness. Create names and identities. Have fun!
Thanks for the advice Irminsul. I was afraid it might be a bit much, I'll tone it down for this time and add a piece each time after. I'd like to get some spreader bars as well but that might be a 2020 idea, lol. Neither of us really get into the roleplay thing, for some reason that stuff sounds hot when you read a story but actually saying it out loud sounds really cheesy. I had considered letting her read my idea but then that takes away the shock factor which in my mind is what will make it so good. We bought a game recently that had 90 cards with all these random things to do to each other while tied up, we've enjoyed most of the cards and that is where I got the idea to try to put all of the things together into one. The other issue is neither of us is really dominant or submissive in real life or the bedroom so that makes it tough as well.
