Hi, Yesterday my girlfriend told me for the first time that she wanted to have sex with me (we're both of age and are virgins). And I was totally own for that until I realized how stressed I am about it. I have several dozens of questions but let me just start with my problem. So I'm an Indian so that means I don't come in with a huge punch down there. I measured last night and I'm like 4 inches long and 4inches girth. I don't know if thats big enough or what not so I'm just putting it out there. So my problem number one is that I don't know if Ill be able to last that long and if so I was thinking id resort to oral sex to help her orgasm after I was done but then I was wondering is it ok to have oral sex if we use lube? Other than that I dont really know how we're gonna do it in terms of what position or what not... Also I dont know what brand of condom I should use but I want one that doesn't ruin the pleasure so can i have some advice on that? And just any tips in general in having sex, also how long should we wait for her birth control pills to work?
IF I remember correctly, it takes a month for the pills to work. BUT you should still wear a condom. Trust me, my first child was conceived while I was taking B.C. pills. (The doctor said it happens more than people realize.) You can do oral to give her an orgasm but don't pressure her into doing it to you. She will probably be too nervous. I'm sure she will another time. IF you are going to perform oral sex, then do so first then use the lube before you have sex. Some women don't experience pain. I'm not one of them. I hated my first time. Actually it hurt the next couple of times we had sex (like it was the first time). I think if she has an orgasm, then she will be relaxed enough for you to have sex. I was very tense and nervous even though I wanted it. Just go slow and be gentle and take cues from her. Spend a LOT of time on the clit. She should be able to help you find it. Have fun! **Put a towel down underneath so its easy to clean up. As for what you can expect, my husband said I was very tight and it was painful for him as well. But I was the one in tears, not him.
