need advice.

ok I'm 27 in the army active duty, I have had two hip surgeries and have to get a hip replacement when I'm 30. over the past two surgeries and two years my wife an i's sex life has taken a fall. a lot of the times even with position change my hip hurts like hell, and thus my wife hates to see me in pain. and the pain sometimes prevents me from even trying. we have sex about 5-8 times a month. so on Friday she comes to me in tears as she tells me our sex life sucks and wants to consider other options I.e. and open marriage for just the sex. every other aspect of our marriage is great and wants no one other than me to spend it with, it's just the sex. when we do have it it's great and powerful, however her sexual drive is higher than mine. I need some advice on what I can do or how to take the suggestion. the open marriage would swing both ways I just don't know how to react.

 

try and keep extra partners out of your relationship if possible..
start getting into role play, some wierd freaky stuff, but please, bringing other partners in is bad..dont do it

 

I understand about the "kinky stuff," how ever unless I take gratuitous amounts of painkillers sometimes, the fury and an passion sometimes can not be met. before deployment (before I got injured) I was like a stallion, no pun intended. as of now more like a pony. this is the area of focus, not the kinky. if any member has any knowledge on positions that provide satisfaction for her and less stimuli on my hip I'm all ears.

 

Eating pussy is your best bet.

C/S,
Rev J

 

wow... she must have a v high sex drive!

I mean... 8 times a month should be enough, surely? It's not TONS, true, but it should be enough...

and... is the army/country really worth all this?

Peace, man :daisy:

 

You could make the effort of giving her good oral.

I must say, I can have sex outside my marriage and I do it (so can my husband). This hasn't diminished the love I feel for my husband at all.

The other men only serve the purpose of giving me sexual pleasure. It's like going play tennis with someone.

Even though my man isn't the most fantastic lover I've ever had, far from it, I still prefer having sex with him than with any other man.

 

Talk to your physical therapist, they would know the positions that are least painful for you.

I'm a bit surprised that you on your back, legs together (a.k.a. cowgirl) is painful for you. But, that just shows I'm not a Physical Therapist.

What position do you sleep in?

Missionary is not the only position for sex.

 

Are you serious?

 

I think she should show more consideration for your feelings..... FFS you are in a massive amount of pain!

 

Yeah... which bit do you disagree with?

 

DM, if that position is the one I'm thinking of, are the partners' torsos (more or less) at right angles to each other?

 

So when is the Army going to give you the boot?

 

Talk to your therapists. An OT or PT should be able to help with these issues.

 

I recommend acupuncture for the hip pain.

A sex therapist might be able to help you. You could also get a sex positions book and experiment.