Need advice on my new relationship please

Okay. So I am 19 and have just started seeing an older man (43). I am a total bottom and he is a top. I have never been with anyone older than 25 before.. it is so different. The age gap makes things a bit confusing for me, I feel like I don't know what I should do to please him (even though he said I do a great job). I also don't know if I should date him. Can anyone give me advice on dating older guys? Maybe some tips on how to be a better bottom too haha stuff that drives you wild as a top or stuff you do to your top that does.

Any help would be very much appreciated haha

(and yes, I know I should ask, I would just like to see opinions and advice before I do haha)

Regards, silly confused gay bottom lol

 

Give up on the idea of trying to please your top. A good top knows how to make you please him even without you trying to do anything in particular. True, people do change over time, but no top, young or old will be thrilled with a 'dead board bottom' who just bends over, and does nothing. Follow his hints, and you'll be both having a great experience.

Dating someone who is much older can be confusing on many levels. It is confusing enough even when you are dating guys in your own age group. Yet, a good, honest talk can resolve the issues at hand.

No one can tell you if you should be dating him or not. This is your life. So, you call the shots.

Tell us what is leading you to think that you should or should not date him?

KD

 

Thanks for replying haha
I'm not sure exactly, its just stabbing at me.. its very confusing lol. Like the age difference makes me wonder about like further on down the track when we both are older.. I dont want him to be bored of me because he is older (like as in has probably had way better than me.. and plus when you get older, lots of guys sex drive drops... sex isnt everything, yes.. and I don't want to seem like all I want is sex to him). Like he's obviously much more experienced at a lot of different things, and me being younger am not.. its just feels very foreign in a way.. with guys closer to your age it just seems easier to know what to do (in sex and relationships) but with older guys im not sure.. I don't want to overstep a line or fall short either with him..

 

Start viewing this a mutually beneficial relationship. You have the vigor of the youth. He certainly appreciates this. He has a greater life experience than you do. This how the things are.

Be honest. Put on the table what you have. He'll probably do the same, and both of you can have a good life if you honestly exchange your attitudes, knowledge, approaches to things, etc.

No one knows his future. You are no exception. You are not promising to stay in a relationship with him forever. If it works for both of you, enjoy it. Once it stops working, try to find solutions. One of them may be to go your own, separate ways, too. This is very much true for ALL relationships.

You are still a very young guy. You have not signed anything on the dotted line. So, go, have fun with your BF, and enjoy your life here and today.

If you believe that your life will be better with someone in your peer group, no one is holding you...

KD

 

That's a big help, thanks KD. I'm staying at his place tonight, I'll have a talk with him and let him know how I feel, see what he thinks. Thanks ^_^