Hi. I'm 44 and my wife is 39. We have been together almost 12 years but just got married Sept 2014. She has quite a few psych issues and is on meds for them. The problem is, they take away her sex drive. I'm very sympathetic to her situation but we have had sec 2 times since we got married. However, lately she has been masturbating to quite " just need to get off." I'm a little insulted but mostly hurt that she doesn't want or can't be with me, yet she still needs "to get off." I know we need to talk about it but not sure how to bring it up to her without hurting her feelings??? I don't initiate because she has told me she loves me, but her meds zap her interest in sex. I don't want her to feel like I'm pushing her into something she can't get with, and I certainly don't want "obligatory sex." Any advice ?? Thanks in advance.
Any possibility that you can approach her in a tender, caring and loving way and initiate some sexual arousal? Then, in a gentle and honest way, tell her you are there for her for support and sex. If you can get that little sexual face-to-face arousal thing going in bed maybe you can express your feelings and tell you're there for her. Maybe you could also talk about the medication. That doesn't sound good that it depresses her sex drive. Something is wrong there.
