Need a woman's advice, please!

Really hit it off (or so I thought!) on a first date with someone I met online. We had a few drinks at a bar, and although I was already physically attracted to her, I quickly discovered that we have a lot in common and that I really liked her personality. She seemed to really be into me, too, feeling up my arms and chest, holding hands, and encouraging me to ask her for what I want, so I told her tastefully that I would love a chance to get physical if she was comfortable with it. Neither of us were heavily intoxicated as we had only a couple of beers apiece over a four-hour period. The date was going well!

We decided to leave together to make this happen. She gave me a ride to my car, which was parked on the opposite side of the building, and we started making out before I got out of her car. It was literally the most passionate experience of my life.

After a few minutes, she unzipped my pants, put her hand inside them, and said she wanted to give me a blowjob. The parking lot was not crowded but people coming in and out of the bar walked right past the car and could see inside. What a dilemma! Not wanting to be caught doing something like this, I tried to convince her to go to her place or mine, but she said she was afraid that if we did that, she would not be able to resist having sex with me. We ended the session a few minutes later (without the blowjob) and agreed to meet again in a few weeks.

I am very puzzled by this situation. I really like her and would love to date her more (and of course get physical) but things ended a little awkwardly and I think I might have hurt her feelings. I would have loved going back to her place or mine but would still be just as ecstatic just getting another date with her even if the making out, etc. never happened. Any advice about how I should proceed or insight into what she may be thinking would be very helpful. Thank you in advance!

 

Thank you!

 

Thank you!

 

"...agreed to meet again in a few weeks.". Really? Why not the next day?

 

Well, the next day was Thanksgiving and she said she was going out of town for the weekend, but dang would I have loved to have seen her the next day. It also seemed odd she was willing to go down on me in public but didn’t want to go to her place or mine and have sex. I since texted her a couple of times thanking her for the date, etc. Kind of confusing but damn was it hot. I wonder if it’s a mind game, to hook me or something? Or maybe she doesn’t like me enough. No clue.

 

Thank you Papa Smurph! I appreciate y’all’s comments. I hadn’t really considered that there might have been a comfort factor for her as far as leaving the public place for a private one, even though it still seems a bold move on her part being so physical in a public place.

I sent her a short text today complimenting her and thanking her for such a passionate and hot experience. She hasn’t replied yet and I won’t press her again but if/when she does reply, I’m going to have a really nice date set up this upcoming weekend. Thinking a good option might be something during the day with as little pressure as possible for her to feel obligated to come over or invite me over (maybe a pro basketball game?) if she expresses interest.

Again, I really appreciate everyone’s input. I am recently single for the first time in 25 years and struggling to relearn how to do this stuff lol. Hoping for the best and I’ll keep you posted!

 

Well, it’s been a few days since I messaged her and no response yet. Must….resist….urge….to….send….more….texts LOL. Won’t be the end of the world if I don’t hear back from her but damn I really like her.

 

I think you should have taken the blowjob.....you're a stronger man than I.... Whatever you do, don't hound her. You've made your intent known, give her a few more days for the debris to settle from the holiday. And if you do meet up again, don't turn it down again. Things have gotten a bit more casual in that department in the last 25 years.....to some it's practically a good night kiss..

PS, we're a little short of women here....

 

Thanks. I am regretting the decision too…I mean why the hell not, public or otherwise.

 

It kind of goes along with the "never waste a hardon, never trust a fart.....and NEVER turn down a blowjob." Ah, she'll be back.....just play your cards carefully.

 

Well, still no word from her, four days after my texts. Hanging tough. Maybe she ended up deciding by she doesn’t like me. Oh well. But still, damn.

 

Wise words right here!

 

Maybe she felt rejected, hence her failure to reply?

 

Thanks Papa Smurf. Not sure if truer words have ever been spoken than your last sentence! Appreciate your advice.

 

Maybe she's just a bit crazy, like most women....