I have quite a few chokers and when I dress up I usually wear one. I like the fact that they extenuate my neck making it look longer and thinner. Not that my neck is short and fat to begin with lol. I've found that men find them rather alluring on a female as well.
I have a friend that felt/feels the same as you with regards to the length of her neck. I suggested she try a choker that was really thin, this she did and it worked for her. If nothing else it's an excuse to go shopping, not that I ever need an excuse
We went to the adult store tonight but they more had like, collars heavy duty leather etc. They're just not as nice. They all screamed "I want to be spanked hard" which is fine, but none of them subtly whispered "I'm somebody else's".
It's more subtle, which I definitely like better too. I wouldn't go to an adult store for a lace collar. Hot Topic might, but you probably don't have them where you are.
Where as I just see the bottom one as more traditional than anything else. I have a couple in that style too.
It is subtle. It's all very conflicting and confusing. Its just easier to lock us together with our leather cuffs, possessions.
I am actually really interested in thr bottom picture now. I saw some in store at the lifestyle shop but they were a little too long for my neck. I asked my wife if she liked them and she did, she said it's a possessive thing and honestly, being submissive that kind of really turns me on. I still have not bought ANYTHING yet. Lol. With my wife's birthday coming up in less than a month, I might start buying things very soon.
I decided I liked this and got it lol. There also red and white ask if I do like it I might try that too. I just know I suit black. I've been trying to get into white more lately like hose and stuff.
I got it, it's cheap.. very cheap but it is cute still. fits my neck really snug which is what I was going for.