My take on sexuality, gay-straight-bisexual.

My entire life, including now, I would say I am straight. I have absolutely no interest in having sex or a relationship with a guy. In fact, with any 'regular" guy it is a repulsive thought.
Going back a decade, a gay nephew on my ex-wifes side came over along with my her sister/husband and hang out. He would sometimes bring a friend. For a good part of one summer he had a friend that was effeminate. Not the "flamer" gay type that make themselves more a parody of a woman, but genuinely effeminate. He was also blonde and not very hairy so his legs looked shaved.
I found myself getting aroused when this young man was around. Confused by it, I even masturbated with thoughts about having sex with him.
Like a lot of guys, I would love to have sex with a convincing shemale. But again, I do not consider myself gay.
So I thought about it, and come to think that it really isn't male or female... it is femininity and masculinity.
I am attracted to femininity. The mannerisms, the look, the long hair, hairless body, the curves, the pretty face.
But what happens if a male has many/all of these attributes? I would be lying if I said there was not an attraction there. But at the same time, again, the thought of ANY kind of sexual romantic connection with a regular, masculine male is absolutely never going to happen. No way, no how.
So what do you think? Is sexuality always defined by male or female (or both)? Or is it more about femininity and masculinity?


P.S. - This has nothing to do with today's "trans-confusion" where people expect you to go along with their fantasy that they can be whatever sex is in their mind. That is ridiculous
I am talking about sexuality, not gender..

 

Here is an excerpt that I feel applies legitimately. Sexuality is not static - it's fluid.

 

That is a pretty good summation. As long as it refers to sexuality, and not gender.

 

Yeah. I'm pretty sure they're specifically referring to sexuality, but the gist of the text is geared toward gender (hence "Gendered Worlds"). The researcher (Fausto-Sterling) probably studies both or it wouldn't be in my book. And that excerpt is from a chapter entitled "Sexualities".

 

I think that a rock group, The Kinks, sort of explained all of that to me back when I was young and in a very macho type military outfit.

https://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/kinks/lola.html

I probably heard it, and liked the sound of it, numerous times before it occurred to me what it was saying. I made up my mind then that, if I met a person, liked them, and found them sexually appealing, it wouldn't really matter what was in their panties.

 

I Have Always Judged Sexuality Based On The Amount Of "Fluid" Exchanged Between Partners......

Not The Amount Of Static......



Cheers Glen.

 

Yeah well.. you understand that in the end he did nothing with the tranny?
He realized she was a man and pushed her away, but still thought about her.
Just sayin.
I know that song of course, years ago I looked it up. It was based on an experience of the bands manager who danced with what he thought was a girl, but when they left the club he saw beard stubble and did a major WTF?

 

You're correct. And in the song the Tranny was abusive too. But what made me think was, what would I have done when I realized, not what that particular situation resulted in. I believe you missed my point.

 

Basically, I live by the saying”To each there own”. I don’t judge others sexuality. Just don’t push yours on mine. We have many friends who are gay, lesbian, bi, threesomes and FWB sharedhouseholds, and are happy for them. They don’t flaunt their liberations or ride in the next parade.

 

I think it was that same sort of thing that made me feel okay about my friend back in H.S. He wasn’t masculine at all and became even more effeminate when he would come on to me. It was very difficult to resist sexually, he would make me hard even when he just whispered things to me when we were hanging out in our group. Once alone three was no way I could resist the temptation although I was terrified one of our friends would find out. No one knew back then or even suspected he was gay.

 

And that is really it isn't it?
One of the things that became known to me in internet chat rooms years ago, and again now in online forums such as this one that has "sex forums" within them, is that a lot more men have "interest" in a cock than I would have ever thought possible.
Straight guys, willing to speak honestly, would admit to venturing into gay porn when they were masturbating... why is that? Some out of curiosity, or at least began with curiosity, but they come back.
The popularity of shemale porn. I read somewhere a year or so ago is the 4th most popular viewed videos. There is a reason for that.
We are sexual creatures. And that really comes into play, I think, once folks get into their 40's and 50's.
Once you have had intercourse with a woman a 1000 times literally...you can get a little bored with that. Couple that with many men having a wife with a waning sex drive...he starts looking around.

 

I'm a butt sexual.

 

Sexual attraction is complicated and some guys may find a specific male arousing but still have no desire for homosexual sex. Maybe it’s the feminine it androgynous look. I say don’t analyze it, enjoy your dreams.

 

I find myself attracted to feminine women and masculine men. She males do absolutely nothing for me. Go figure.

 

I am not particularly interested in shemales or transvestites, however I find attraction with males who like to cross dress, but like they know they're males and just being sissies is what they like. This attraction is amplified with a small lil sissy clitty. of course the more femme they are the more the attraction too.

 

i'm just attracted to women who aren't attracted to me.

 

Shemales and transvestites are usually just professional crossdressers that's all..

 

I'm just not sure about the big fake tits is all. I like em when they're small and maybe they're on hormones, or just small subtle inplants, but the massive fake tits i dont even like them on women so certainly not on my sissy boys

 

Interesting.
See that would tell me you are a true bi-sexual. Attracted to both femininity and masculinity.
But it is interesting that you prefer the sexes to be in the "expected roles".

 

I love females. Everything about them. I also am extremely attracted to trans girls.
I’m not attracted to man at all. I do however like penises. I enjoy giving head and receiving anal. Having said that, I’m repulsed by the idea of kissing or cuddling with a man. I don’t enjoy looking at naked men. That’s why transgender girls are so attractive to me.
I stopped trying to label myself a long time ago.