My partner has had a very promiscuous past

I am in a relationship with a wonderful man of 60 and I myself am 59 years young and have had a very turbulent promiscuous life style since my early 20's.
I have been very open and honest to my partner and he was asking me about my number of partners I have had, but I am very reluctant to tell him the actually number, because it is very exceptional.
I dropped hints in the beginning of our relationship that I was comparable to Samantha from Sex and the City but she was still pretty tame compared to me, and he looked very surprised. I also told him that I kept a journal of my adventures throughout the years. I think I have a couple of hundred photos on my cell phone, and that's not even all of them.
Also told him that I worked as an escort for a few months, found out at the time that it was satisfying my needs and soon I started entertaining men at my home where it was very easy money too at the same time!
I am very open about my past, also told him I have always had very young men, there were a few men that were 19 years old when I was 34, told my partner about the threesomes and a lot where I lost the count of one night stands. I just want to open and honest about my past.
So we have been together for almost a year and the relationship is amazing as I have little experience with long term relationships, yes I admit to that.
Our sex life is beyond words as we are exploring BDSM, yes I am very submissive.
As my partner and do not live together and see each other in the weekends, I have been tempted and catch myself flirting with the younger men in my neighborhood fantasizing about everything you can imagine , oral sex to threesomes again!
I cant help myself because I really love my partner.
Its the urge to do this and also the adventure that keeps getting to me, don't forget I have been living promiscuously up until 2019!
Are there any other women out there with the same feelings ....
I would love to hear if I am the only one and share ....

 

Peggy Lee,
I’m not a woman, but be proud of yourself for being so honest with your man. You may want to discuss the possibility of “Lifestyle” with him. Threesome and foursome fun with others. This could satisfy your urges and enhance your relationship. Communications is paramount. My wife and I recently opened our relationship to others. No secrets.

 

Also male here, but with related experience. As to my wife and I (35+ yrs). From the beginning I've known that she'd had only one male before me. A guy who basically used her as a semen-pouch 3x week for two yrs. then dumped her. She began to realize that I was treating her properly, the relationship developed and we later married.

Over the years, I've managed to drag out of her a few of the details, but several months ago I started asking more specific questions about how he did her, etc. (It's a not-uncommon husband-curiosity thing). Again information just trickles out, but two months ago she asked me, "What about you? How many women have you been with?" Oh, shit. She has always had a weak self-image and I knew if I told her the truth (about 68-70 ladies) it would pull the rug out from under her confidence.

So, I kinda-sorta dodged the answer. I answered with, "Well, .....several". And then proceeded to tell her the stories of the four women who, over the years, I'd loved but then had unceremoniously dumped me and utterly broke my heart. I thought by accenting the hurt I'd felt it would soften the number for her. There was also the one she'd know about just before 'us' who I described as one female I was so very glad to break it off with and get away from. This seemed to work, because she didn't ask about any others, but chased the rabbit of the emotional content of what I'd told her.

So I wasn't dis-honest, I just left out specific numbers and accented other parts. And how rewarding it was to be in our relationship, even with our ups and downs. So, you might try that approach. There's no point in wounding someones ego and self-image just to state hard data.

Oh, that part about still feeling the urges for 'exploration'? Oh, yes, that is always there. If I get flirted with (even at my age, distinguished-looking and chatty), the urge to follow up is there. But, ....nah..... I like what I've got going.

FWIW. FYI.

 

If I were your partner I would greatly appreciate your honesty. I love women who are experienced sexually. The inexperienced are very reluctant to try new things. I love getting freaky!

 

My wife was quite promiscuous when we were dating in college. I was at a different college and only saw her once or twice a month, so she was free to date other men. After we married, she was honest and told me that she had lots of sex with those men. I appreciate her honesty, and her past never had a negative impact on our relatoinship.

 

Hello thank you for your honest reaction. That helps me alot as I sometimes feel guilty from my past.

 

My wife has told me snippets from her past and although erotic for me the thing that gets me going is the closeness i feel when she has told me things. Being honest is great and never feel ashamed or guilty for things ypu have done in the past. I think frank and open discussions will be the way forward. Although my wife hates discussing it,, so pick your time well. He is a very lucky man

 

Your past is your past. You can not change it. Even if you wanted to. He has to understand that what you experienced in the past does not mean that you will do the same now Times change and so do people. If he wants a number be honest and say that you don't really know. And that it does not matter because you are with him now.

I know that my wife had a lot more experiences then I did. I never found the need to press her for numbers. It all happened before we met. So as far as I was concerned it did not matter ..It was old history

 

Hmm, nice subject I have been married 3 times and had numerous other relationships, However whilst I am happy to talk about these things (past sex life) my wife of nearly 44 years will not, and it bloody annoys me! I would love to hear about her past life, she was 27 when we met, and I know she had other relationships but she refuses to talk about it.

 

Your partner has or you have - your title is misleading. Not sure what you're asking either, who else has had a turbulent past or who still desires sex with others? I'm at the complete opposite end of the spectrum. Only had sex with my wife and only ever will. Sure I desire others and always will, that's normal. It depends if you want to act on it with or without your partner's knowledge - that's up to you and possibly him.
When it comes to the past some people obsess over their partner's past - some want to know details, some prefer not to know. Personally I hate knowing that my wife had others before me but I love her and will maybe get over it some day. It's hard but that's just me.

 

My wife is 60 and I am 61. We met in college and have been married for 35 years. She was known as the blowjob queen as she sucked and swallowed countless guys. To this day she is the best of the dozens of women i've bedded.
My 60 year old fb is great in bed as is my 51 year old fb but the mrs. is the best. I have a 24 year old who i play with every now and then but she is still learning but swallows too!

 

I never held a woman’s past against her. Doesn’t matter how many men she’s been with.
All I ask is that I get that same work her previous men got.