My Mom's getting breast in-plants!

My mom told me this morning "she's getting her boobs next week" I replied with "What?!" ,and she told me she's getting breast implants next week. I'm totally against it and freaked out. My breasts are 34 b and I'm just fine with them. I would never get surgery exspecially at age 40. I guess she finally has the money. But, she's married and old, why does this matter to her? I'm thinking my step dad wants to buy them for her for his own sexual pleasure. Eww ew! I talked to my sister and she thinks it's weird. She says my mom wants size B, but I thought she already had Bs because all her bras say 34b, but her's are all padded, and I wear that size too, but I don't wear padding, I wear a demi w/ underwire. My friend says she's a size B but her boobs are definatly bigger than mine, but she wears size A bras tightly to give her cleavage. I don't know, anyone's mom have boob jobs? What do I say to her? I don't want her to do it. I work with her, what will people think about her after this? Why do some girls like this slutty self demeaning attention???

 

I personally would never do it, but your mother is an adult and it's her decision. If you really think that you need to talk to her about it, do so. But, be nice...don't make her feel bad by saying it's demeaning, etc. Just tell her that you don't understand why, and maybe her reason will surprise you. You really should be supportive of her-even if you don't agree.

 

when your getting in your 40's it can be a very hard time for women.
I am sure I will be one that freaks out. I don't want to get old!!

I bet this will make her feel better about herself!
She is an adult and she may need this. Differant strokes for differant folks!

Not to mention that they can be removed if need be,,, so they are not permanant.

Sounds like she is coming into a new stage in her life ,,let her live,,,she knows the consequences to her choices by now .

 

Hmm. I am the same age as your mama (I'm 42) and even if you are a "B" your breasts are lower and a different shape than they were when you were 22 or so, so they often use the same size implant. Personally, my breasts have been loved and useful to four children. I wouldn't want them changed. I have "battle scars" on my belly from my children, and lower breasts from their proper usage.

Again, it is your mama's money, and her body. But of course, I wouldn't want MY college fund spent on fake boobs for my mama, if I were your age! Maybe she may want to look into meditation, and womyn centered affirmations before she starts having her body cut up, as these procedures (unless they are "reconstructive" like after cancer) are often more for emotional than physical need.

Have you talked to her in a nonadversarial manner about this? As I said, it IS her body.

I hope she decides to do something more worthwile with the money, (implants are EXPENSIVE) but the decision isn't up to me.

Blessings

 

Uh, is 40 "old"? One day you'll be sorry you said that.

Indigorainhemp is putting the best light on the decision to install fake boobs, but as a heterosexual man, I'd have a hard time getting used to them. Call me nature-boy, but when I make love with my lady, it's a pleasure to me to know that we're sharing our plain old human bodies, not bodies plus the output of a chemical factory somewhere. I don't demand un-saggy boobs, or big boobs, just the real thing.

 

My mom got her boobs done in her early thirties, after her divorce to my father. I think it was kind of a slap in the face to my father since he was physcially abusive to her sometimes. Cuz then she was already re-engaged, living elsewhere, taking custody of me and my sisters, and had new big boobs, and a career of her own (which my father wouldnt allow when they were married)

So, to each woman her own. It made my mom more confident. She actually had them redone about five years ago, changed to saline, and upgraded. My grandmother had her boobs done w/ her then, and some lipo....so i say good for them. they look hot and feel good. go for it.

 

*fighting the urge to laugh*

 

Right on, Nature Boy! As a Natural Womyn, I whole heartedly agree with you, and so does my dh!

 

Are implants safe? I guess it was about 15, years ago that a friend of my mom's got hers done. She got really sick after a few years. I think they leaked or something. She really regrets it.


That was a while ago. Maybe things have changed. I can't imagine willingly having surgery that isn't necessary, but that's a personal fear.

 

I know someone who got them actualy I know a few people who got them not to freak you out or anything but one lady I know got them and they put her nipple back on crooked so she had to come back then get her nipple re put right..but shes happy with them. Although it's supose to be very painful for weeks. You may want to be supportive when she's in pain.

 

Well, it's ultimately her decision. I think I would find it weird if my mother got a boob job (she's an A cup), but it is up to her, it's her money.

That said, with any surgery there is a chance of some serious nerve damage. I read (this was quite a few years ago, so maybe the surgeries are better now) that most women have noticeably decreased sensitivity in their nipples. Does she really wanna risk losing nipple sensitivity.

 

As to the first question, I don't see how that is your concern. Being that she is an adult, I expect that she took that into consideration (as in "do I really care if anyone has a problem with it or is that just their problem?").

As to the second question, I sincerely hope you did not take that attitude with your mother. You didn't say she is jumping up to a D cup, she just wants to be a full B instead of barely B. Chances are, she is also concerned about the amount of sag. As much as we may want women to love their bodies no matter what shape they are, that's not easy for many women. All you have to do is look at the popularity of any diet fad to see that. If your mother feels that this is what she needs to do to feel more comfortable with herself, and if your step-dad is OK with it, then all you can do is get over it.

Keeping in mind the fact that she is not even increasing by a full cup size, I think your fears about people noticing are unfounded unless she tells everyone. And, if this were because your step-dad wanted to buy them for his own sexual pleasure, wouldn't she at least be going for a C cup, so that the difference would actually be a bit more noticeable?

 

YES! No one gets "silicone" poisoning from implants, it is an imaginary illness. Most of the implants now are saline, anyway.

But as Apple said, they can put you back together weird, they usually have to move the nipple and reattach it (OWWWW!) and often there is infection. But even if they rupture, the implants are totally safe.

 

my mom has implants and i've always thought it was weird... i was about 11 or 12 when she got them done, which would have made her... 29 or 30 which isn't old at all. she was married, and had 3 kids at the time, and barely a A or B cup, she went to a C/D because it evened out her hips or something.. anyway, i didn't really know what was goin on at the time b/c she didn't want to talk to her 11 yr old daughter about it... i guess. but later on she talked to me more about it and stressed that a person should never ever do something like that for anybody else, just for themselves. and she has great boobs btw... they're round, but slightly saggy... more natural looking than say, a porn stars. of course... i say they're great, but honesly i haven't seen many big natural boobs nekkid b4...

oh well, i am against plastic surgery myself. natural is better... ppl should look different from each other, we should all want to be original.. but instead everybody just wants to look hot. it's sad for womyn especially because we are sooo damn self-conscious of our bodies, since we know how visual men are... but, i like to think men would drool over just about any nekkid woman?... hmm i'm rambling, i need to go to bed...

 

MaggieSugar- This doesn't happen often, but I have to disagree. My Mom had silicone breast implants when they first came out, and one of them ruptured. She has small pockets of silicone under her skin on different parts of her body. She has developed chronic pain, fibromyalgia, and an unidentified autoimmune disorder, similar to lupus. Several doctors have said it is likely silicone poisoning, and I have met several people that have similar circumstances.

That being said, the official research on silicone posioning is inconclusive, as far as I know, and the implants today are supposed to be much safer, much more resistant to rupturing. Who really knows...? I just urge caution.

 

In response to Tigerlily, re-quoting part of my posting from earlier. Sorry Ms T, I'm a fair bit older than you, and already attached. Good luck though! Share what you have with someone who appreciates you.

Call me nature-boy, but when I make love with my lady, it's a pleasure to me to know that we're sharing our plain old human bodies, not bodies plus the output of a chemical factory somewhere. I don't demand un-saggy boobs, or big boobs, just the real thing.

 

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I think all women should get them just for the reason of keeping their men interested and excited.

 

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