My girl says she’s never came and can’t. Any suggestions?

Iv been dating this girl for about 6 months. She said that she’s never had an orgasm in her whole life. When ever I try to give her one (by playing with her clit) she always says she’s gonna scream, then I stop because we’re at her moms house and we can’t be loud. I want to get us alone and just go to town on her who-ha but haven’t had the chance yet. Any suggestions for making a girl cum that never has before?

 

You seem to be on the right track, you just need the opportunity and she just needs to let go. It might just require a little planning. I hope she is taking care of you, too....

Oh, and by the way, mom knows what you're up to.

 

But then again if she cant don't push it or your end with no women, some women never orgasm and that's a fact of life, again if she cant she cant.

 

Alex, any updates?

 

Some woman never orgasm so don't push her to have one, as it will never happen, sad to say.

 

I had a similar issue in a relationship once. Forget pride. A vibrator was the gateway to orgasm, and after that followed orgasms by oral and digital stimulation. I think that sometimes its a catch 22. Not having had an orgasm makes it harder to achieve an orgasm.

 

Find a place where you don’t need to worry about her making noise and she can let loose.

 

This is more common than men think. You didn’t say how old she is, but I’m going to guess on the younger side since she lives with her mom. She needs to take the time to explore her own body and figure out how to orgasm on her own (less pressure to orgasm when another person isn’t involved and her brain and confidence in it plays the biggest role). Using a vibrator will make it so much easier. Once she learns that, and gains the confidence that she CAN orgasm, then she can help guide you what to do. 2/3 of women don’t orgasm with penetration alone-the clit needs to be stimulated either by a vibrator or her/your fingers. It takes practice to figure out what works, but that’s the fun part

 

What happens when it still doesn't work, You have a women who cant orgasm and there quite happy as they still get sex, it does not stop them enjoying there men, it comes down to what you don't have you wont miss.

 

Few things. One, suggest giving the “orgasmic diet” book a go - it’s aimed at women and does really help. Two, Kegel exercises practiced daily help both men and women become more orgasmic. Do them together! Thirdly, I’d try and focus just on mutual pleasure. If she senses you’re trying really hard to make her cum, it’s going to give her performance anxiety and make it worse.

Last one can be uncomfortable but true: one of the hottest things for a woman is to have the guy that all her friends/other women want too. So, if you really want to help, go ahead, but you may find ( whether or not she orgasms) that she gets pretty darn wet and wild in bed if you double down on being in-shape, improving yourself, being different from other guys, taking up a new hobby (preferably an awesome one that keeps you fit and gets you around other people, and occasionally means she can’t see you when she wants to), being funny, being the guy that gets everyone in the queue chatting/laughing ... and above all, not talking about any of this!! What’s going on Alex?? Nothing really, just decided it was time to get on my A-game...

So, for example, check this out from dr google: “I never had an orgasm until I met my husband, or had sex with him, I should say. I doubt he believes me, because I do a lot. But I never have before, and I don't understand it. I've had a couple guys I was serious with, for a couple years, both of them. And, I never got off. I remember posting questions on here asking this same thing.I can only suggest you try new things. It seems I get off best when I go down on my husband for a while, then I get on top. I don't know, I just love it. I guess, I've never been that experimental or anything before him”.
And this “Once I met my hubby it is every time. This is interesting, I always thought that I may not have been comfortable in my skin and sexuality that didn't allow me to orgasm, but maybe its biological”.

It’s the same women ... different men!! Do you think maybe the first lady finds the guy she married a lot hotter since she wants to give him frequent BJs and get experimental? Do you think the second woman’s biology changed?

I am saying all this because I hope it helps but also because I had to learn it. I had a highly orgasmic girl and over the course of 20 years I turned into a beta chump. I thought she had changed since sex turned into a few times a year event and she was often dry, sore and inorgasmic. And yet, as of the last couple of years, the further I make my way down the road of the A-game guy I describe above, the sex is increasingly wet, wild, frequent. The rule is seeking to be hot enough to cheat, but without actually cheating (not for me anyway). She’s VERY orgasmic sometimes - often after I’ve been away a couple of days or she’s seen a waitress flirting with me (even though I got shit for it at the time no doubt). The second I let the foot of the gas...

 

I agree. Clit stimulation is very important to orgasm even though some people can orgasm with penetration alone. But even in those people during penetration there is always some degree of stimulation of the clitoris which really brings the woman to orgasm. This can be indirect (not by fingers). For men it is the stimulation of the penis head and shaft brings them to orgasm. Clitoris is a mini version (homologue) of the male penis. The clitoris is supplied by more than 8000 sensory nerves (same as for head of penis) which brings about erotic sensations. Therefore women should not feel that they need clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm.

 

The problem here she needs an expert for advice. if under his guidance she may learn how, if the she wont she never will like a lot of women enver know or how to, but there lives still go on and having sex and enjoying it.

 

Possibly she has sexual hangups. Has she seen a therapist?