My G/f moved in with her F/B

Glad things have worked out for you and yr g/f. I'd be pretty upset being the guy on the side, but that's just me.

 

Maybe you should have another girl living with you during the weekdays then too.

 

how many girls have you been with since Nov 2005?

 

that is a lot of guys imo. she gets around

 

it has a dual meaning LMAO

 

We've been together for 8 years (since we were 15) we really do love each other.

I try not to postwhore, although every single one of my posts are in my own threads or on related topic

We started out like the variations you heard of but we decided to spice things up and go for a riskier plan. He asked her to his his gf and then he asked her to move in with him. I then suggested she go for it and be his girlfriend full time. I did feel jealous but its an unexplainable feeling I wanted to feel which also showed me that I still loved her after 6 years at that time. I wanted to feel jealous about knowing that people would soon learn he was her boyfriend, that they lived together, slept together, held hands, kissed while I wasn't getting anything unless she snuck out while he was at work... I personally got jealous but at the same thought it was hot

It was just a temporary thing we had going on, it just proved us how strong our relationship holds. Believe it or not, it wasn't too bad being the guy on the side. I kind of liked banging someone elses girlfriend for once!

That would be so awesome! She's still on a bit of the insecure side so that may not happen for a while but believe me, something will one day.

I've been with one girl beside the gf. We both kind of went behind my gf's back and this happened because we told her about our current lifestyle where my gf dates other men and our friend (her best friend) really liked that idea and asked me if I could be the one to initiate her. This was in 2006

Yes but that's because of me, I happen to be greatly turned on by slutty girls and she has tried hard.

 

Allow me to further justify and rationalize my cuckold status...

 

Open relationships are the only way I roll, but this scenario is a bit weird for me. I have no problem with my girl fucking another guy (or girl), but I wouldn't want her to develop feelings and begin a relationship with that person.

My motto has always been, share your body with whoever you want, so long as I'm the only one who has your heart... and vice versa. But to each their own I suppose.

 

I feel you on that... she got attached to him after him being the only one taking her to bed, kissing her and being her bf for that period of time. Even though its been over a year she actually still misses him although she says in a friendship way.

She hasn't done anything with another guy since Spring/Summer 2009 but she may be starting again with a friend very soon. Its something that comes and goes. She's not always out with other men like most of you think.

 

What kind of solid communication relationship is this???
Dude seriously this is not love..
Love is not sharing your gf with other men.

 

hahaha i agree!lol!

 

I already recognize the line between friend and lover as being an artificial one we create to make things less confusing, but that just makes the whole situation you are in seem that much more unnecessary.

I'm trying not to be too presumptuous, but from everything you've said, it seems like she would be more happy in a traditional relationship (the coming and going of her guys on the side, the teasing about how he gets to keep her on the week about the guy she moved in with, her getting attached to that same guy "after him being the only one taking her to bed", her still missing him "although she says in a friendship way"), so my question is, wouldn't you?

In an earlier post, that I've taken forever to reply to, I questioned you about if you wanted to spend the rest of your life with her, and whether losing her was worth the risk, and you replied that you do want to spend your life with her, and you recognize the risk but are willing to take it.

It seems to me that part of the reason you like this arrangement is because you aren't done carving out your path in life, which I completely understand, cause the future is fucking scary and my feet haven't found solid ground yet either.
But it also seems to me that the reason humans have relationships is to find people to help us build our paths, and that you are leaving her responsible for staying by your side until it's built, instead of letting her build it with you.

And I can understand that you get turned on by her being with these other guys, and I can understand why you may want the relationship open. I just don't get why if you care for her so much, you don't want it to be emotionally exclusive, and know that she will be yours at the end of the day.

 

What do you mean by "starting again"? Sounds to me like you got the game all backwards. You're saying that she gets into full blown relationships with other guys where she's their "exclusive" gf, but that's not the case with you. Doesn't that strike you as a bit odd? I mean, if you get off fucking other guys girlfriends... then why aren't you doing that ? You're supposed to be in an open relationship... but you're not fucking anyone else but her!

It makes it seem as though she doesn't want to be in a relationship with you, but keeps you around as a fuck buddy for when she's single. This makes you nothing more than the ex-bf who she still hooks up with from time to time. Things should be the other way around.

Don't get me wrong, I may hook up with a girl from time to time who has a steady bf, but that doesn't make her my gf. That just makes her one of the girls I hook up with. You would think as a man, if you respect yourself, gf status would be something a girl would have to earn; at least that's the way it is with me. I'm not chastizing, but why would you allow a girl you call your gf, to give her heart to another person? I'm just wondering where do you draw the line on what she can get away with? If there is no line, then you just allow her to walk all over you.

 

in response to

Originally Posted by OneChordWonders
how many girls have you been with since Nov 2005?

i posted this image..



it also meant, he's gettin played like uno, a broken record, an old atari game, hopscotch.. you get the point.

did you buy your gurl some roses for valetines day? or did her other men take care of that

 

What does solid communication have to do with this? In fact, a relationship WITHOUT a solid communication wouldn't be able to do what we've done. If you disagree with the lifestyle thats fine but you make no sense. please don't tell me we don't have a solid communication because my girlfriend and I have a very honest relationship where we tell each other everything. Its how we've managed to be together for 8+ years, our relationship is based on honesty from both parties.

xxaru, by starting again I didn't mean starting a new exclusive relationship with a new guy. I meant that she is most likely going to start having sex outside of the relationship, and by again I meant it as in because its been about 8 months since she's had sex with a guy other than myself. For the record, she's only had one exclusive relationship with someone else. I never said I got off in fucking other guys girlfriends, please re-read what I said again. What I said was that she snuck out while she was his girlfriend to be with me in other words, for once I was screwin' someone elses girlfriend as oppose to it always being MY g/f getting screwed. And that was suppose to come out in a humorous way but that didn't work lol

As for your final portion of the post, it took 6 years into our relationship to get into that aspect where she actually fully gave herself up to another man instead of just the casual sex. We both decided on it after some pillow talk. I'm a risk taker but I'm a very confident guy, I don't mind challenges and I kind of like it when my girlfriend gets me all jealous. This was a good way for that. If you think she's walking all over me then I guess that's your belief but I was the one to suggest her sleep with other guys followed by her trying something more extreme such as dating exclusively. We did and got it over with, she hasn't done anything in a while, its just something we'll do once in a while to spice things up a bit. If we end up looking at it from your perspective then I guess I enjoy being walked on, I guess I happen to like knowing my girlfriend's body is not exclusive to me just dont confuse body with hearth because that was a one time thing.

Dude will you stop post whoring with your uno bull already, its not funny at all.

How the hell am I getting played when its all in the open? She's allowed to and I'm 100% fine with it

 

The biggest part of the thrill of cuckholding is knowing that you've duped the man so well, he can't even see it. Or in this case, he defends it. This chick is good.

 

Perhaps I misinterpreted your posts, but it certain comes off that way to me. You even just said “for once I was screwin' someone elses girlfriend as oppose to it always being MY g/f getting screwed”. What does that mean to you? You’re obviously getting off on this arrangement somehow… and it’s not by you fucking other girls (cause you’re not fucking anyone else but her by your own admission). I guess I’m just not understanding why you’re even in an open relationship to begin with.

I never confuse body with heart. You didn’t specify that the relationship was a 1-time thing, and your posts give the impression that it’s not. In your 1st post you said your girl was available for relationships with other guys.

If you’re in total control here (as you claim to be), then where do you draw the line? You still haven’t answered that question. What could she do with another guy that would cause you to end the relationship with her? Again, I’m just trying to understand your mindset here.

 

dude stop having all these excuses for yourself
and your so called relationship..
get fucking real dude..Your in denial your gf has moved on
and you havent..the only way you can keep her is if
you let her fuck other individuals..
if this is so ''normal'' for you then why would you post
this???? dude get some help and get through your head that
that isn't love..
Your making your own mental hell.. I feel sorry for u man
your going to through pain and its numbing you and
you cant even think straight.....

 

hahah i agree...

 

this doesn't seem to be a sincerely open relationship. I mean yeah you are ok with it, but she is insecure about you being with another girl after all the trust you've shown her, after all the acceptance? even if you are turned on by slutty girls i hope you realize she is dominating you. even though you welcome it, you should be getting some too, rather than thinking about her fucking other guys all the time. if that is really what turns you on why not have threesomes and witness her being fucked by another dude? i agree with whoever said that in open relationships, feelings need to be limited to only one person. right now it seems like she is having her cake and eating at a buffet of others while you are stuck to her left over original piece.

i mean good for you, i just want you to see what i see and maybe stand up for yourself to get some pussy too...or idk just make it a fair relationship...idk