My first orgy experience

My boyfriend has a huge sexual fantasy about being sandwiched. He wants to fuck me while another guy is fucking him. I'm not sure how I feel about guy-on-guy anal. It doesn't turn me on like everything else, but I don't think I'd mind it. I wasn't sure how I felt about them fingering each other, but now I'm okay with it.

We did it again on Friday, actually. It was really not as good as the first time because we were worried about people walking in, and we didn't get undressed really. Plus I felt really neglected. P was the same way as last time. I feel extremely sad about his insecurities and I want to help him so badly. My boyfriend and I are trying to gradually make him open up.

Thanks for reading.

 

To me that would be sexy as heck. Just imagining the pleasure he's getting from both directions. mm.

 

I'm glad that someone shares my extreme interest in this. All of my girlfriends are turned off by guy-on-guy, but to me, it's very arousing.

I have such a crazy sex life for a girl my age.

 

Really? Some of my girlfriends quite like guy-on-guy too. Gay male porno is my favorite kind of pornography, primarily because the male actors are attractive. So many hetero pornos have ugly hairy behemoths as their "actors".

I like sexy men. So I always thought it would be obvious I'd like sexy men getting it on. I was surprised the first time I got the response 'Ewww, that is gross!' from another girl. I always assumed all other girls liked it too.

 

Yeah, same! My best friend loves it, but even SHE thinks that I'm strange for participating in a 3-some while in a relationship. Honestly, it would be weirder if I WASN'T, because I wouldn't be as close to the people.

Anyway, I was discussing this with my boyfriend. We both agree that guys in gay pornos are WAY hotter than straight. Mmmm.

I have a question for you. Do you think in our situation (both of us are bisexual, more attracted to the opposite sex) it would be cheating for us to hook up with the same gender while the other person isn't present?

Before I set the boundaries, P and my boyfriend hooked up, and I got pretty mad because I consider it cheating. He doesn't (of course he said he'd never do it again once he realized it bothered me so much) because it's different with a guy for him. Would you let your boyfriend hook up with guys? I feel like it definitely pushes the limits and crosses over into the "open relationship" region, which I don't want.

 

So long as you are not going behind the others back I do not think so at all. I think what he and P did was cheating because you didn't know at the time. I don't think its cheating now that it happens and you approve of it.

Perhaps this would work: You both have veto power over the others same-gendered partners and they and your BF have to meet prior to any sex just like he has to introduce you to his prospects prior to them getting down without you.

I wouldn't call that "open" necessarily, perhaps a little more permeable than traditional relationships though.

 

I don't know... I have no problem having 3-somes, but I just feel like it's not right for him to be with P when I'm not there. He says he wouldn't do it with a girl, but I don't understand how it's any different for him to be with a girl and a guy if he's bisexual. I wouldn't hook up with a girl while with him, even though he condones it.

They're going to Spain together soon, and I think I may allow them to do stuff then. I'm thinking about it.

 

It's not different, really. Although I generally prefer men over women too I have this saying: I don't really see that much difference between the genders, they both can be made to beg using only your tongue.

But... at the same time I definitely wouldn't allow my boyfriend to have sex with another woman, but I might allow him to do another guy. I suppose its just the feeling (maybe unjustified) that another guy isn't going to replace me but a woman might. If he asked to have sex with a woman while I wasn't there I'd be like 'Well, what the fuck am I then?!' but if it was a man I'd be like 'Well, hrm... I can't grow a dick for you... I definitely understand the need for periodic penis injections and maybe we can work something out.'

Although I'd prefer 3 ways so I could see them go at it and participate.

 

Yeah, I'm the same way. I asked him why he felt the need to be with another guy if he was already with me, and he said that there are some things he desires that only I can give him, and others that only a man can give him.

I really really like the thought of him and P. They are so incredibly hot. I just wish we could make him open up and feel more comfortable around me. I just feel like if I let them do it in Spain, he might just do it all the time and I'll feel left out cause I love having 3-somes with them. And I just love him.

 

One of my bigger fantasies is to be getting pounded by a hot guy while going down on a gorgeous woman. I guess thats the equivilent of being "sandwiched" and it turns me on so much. Especially if they're both a little aggressive.
I've played the scenario out in my head so many times. I imagine my oral skills would deteriorate the harder I'm getting fucked so the girl grabs me by the hair hard and says something like: 'I didn't tell you you could stop!' and uses my hair as a handle to put my face exactly where she wants it.

Ahhhhh... some day.... soon, I hope.

 

I would love to go down on a woman. I have this other sexual fantasy about being with a girl who has never been pleasured properly and has never had an orgasm. I fantasize about completely blowing her mind by giving her her first orgasm, and I imagine her pulling me up from between her legs, my lips covered in her juices, and kissing me passionately.

Mmm.

Also I sort of have this rape fantasy about being on my knees and getting fucked by my boyfriend from behind, and giving head to another guy (P, maybe) at the same time. I'd want the other guy to hold my head and thrust into my mouth.

I would never let it happen though. I would feel SO degraded. I think it's only hot in theory, and not in reality.

 

Why not? Thats not necessarily a rape fantasy, just a plain getting fucked fantasy. You want them to use your body. I, and many other women, have the exact same fantasy... fuck if I had two guys I knew and trusted I definitely would try to make it reality. I don't think I'm degrading myself because I want to get ravished.

If your fantasy is like mine it ends when they both cum at the same time, P's hands on either side of your head gripping your hair tightly and securely.

 

God, that sounds amazing. I was just thinking of him. I want to have another 3-some.

 

Yeah, I have the same fantasy, Narco. When I fantasize about it it's degrading because I get turned on by that, but there's no reason it has to be. Why not see it as empowering, because you're such a hell of a woman that it takes two guys to please you?

I'm scared of going through with it because of the possibility of disease or screwing up a friendship, but I fantasize about it so much - and my guy does too - that I'm sure it's only a matter of time before something leads to something else with someone.

 

I wouldn't do it because I know it would make me feel horrible afterwards. It's one thing when you're in a three-some with two guys that treat you like a goddess and pleasure you. That's not degrading. But having two guys use your body like that is totally degrading, even if it gets me going when I think about it.

 

um...next time can i come...??
lol

 

What do you mean by trust exactly?

 

wow, narco, you've had some seriously hot experiences! thank you sooooo much for sharing! i have to admit, it got me quite horny... very hot!

i think what jia suggested about the semi-open relationship sounds like an awesome way for you to handle your situation. i'm in an open/polyamorous relationship, and so i don't mind him being with other people, even if i don't know about it at the time, though i trust us both to be very open and honest and at least tell about it later.

and i'm a big fan of multiple partner sex... though so far i've only done it with women. we'll see what happens in the future!

 

When I asked him why he felt the need to be with another guy if he's in love with me, he tells me that there are some things only a man can give him and others that only I can give him. He wouldn't hook up with another girl, but he doesn't see being with a guy as cheating I know about it. I guess it isn't, but it's still not something I'm comfortable with.

While the thought of him and P together is a huge turn-on, it makes me feel sad inside because I want him to myself, you know? It's different when they're both there. He said he'd be okay with me doing sexual things with another girl, but I just couldn't. I don't expect him to do it, and I hold myself to the same standards.

 

first off, please don't take anything i say to be a slam on you, simply because i have different views on relationships. that is NOT my intention. but for me, the word "cheating" implies that you "own" someone, or that loving you means loving only you. i have a hard time understanding how loving someone means you cannot love anyone else. or how loving someone else diminishes the love that he feels for you. it seems really restrictive to me. (and this is a new thing for me, i'm still working it out for myself too!!!)

i DO, however, really understand the worries that the other relationship might take away from time spent together. that is always a concern for me with my relationships. but i don't think it necessarily has to be a complete brick wall... just something to make sure you have huge communication about.

again, i'm not trying to bash you or your feelings... i'm just giving you an idea of how things seem to work best for me, in hopes that it helps you in your own decisions. because ultimately, the decisions you make have to be based on what it is that YOU want from the situation. and if the situation is not how you WANT it, try and figure out what you can do to help make it how you want it. and if that includes needing something from him that you're not getting, talk to him, and find out if it's even possible for him to give that to you.

but ultimately, you are the only one who can EVER make you feel happy. your happiness and fulfillment in life depend on no one else. trust me, it's not an easy thing... for anyone, and certainly not for me. but it's what i try to keep in mind! i hope this helps you some in your process.