My boyfriend's jealousy of my brother

Hi,

I’m a 22 yo girl who’s been a webcam girl for half a year now. Before that I had a long distance relationship for more than a year, we’re still together even though my bf (28 yo) has admitted he’s very jealous (understandable).

However, there’s a bit of a dark side to him, first let me give a short background. So me and my bf have had webcam sex many times, and early on he confessed to me that he’s into incest role playing. I’m quite kinky myself and actually gets turned on by it myself, mostly the step daddy/step daughter kind, whereas my bf is a bit more "extreme" and likes both real daddy/daughter and real brother/sister fantasy.

In our roleplays we’ve always played the step daddy / step daughter kind, as that’s been the only one I’ve been comfortable with, but recently we switched to “real” daddy / daughter roleplay as well and well, turns out it was a huge turn on for me as well.

However, so far we’ve never role played brother / sister - the thing is, my room and my bed happen to share the same wall as my brother’s (27 yo) room, and my bf gets crazy horny by this fact, eg that I’m such a naughty girl doing all these kinky things (eg both having webcam sex with him and doing my work as a camgirl), and I like to tease him with this and play along a bit in showing my naughty side because he loves it so much and I love pleasing him.

Despite my bf constantly going on about brother/sister taboo as a fantasy etc the thought of doing anything with my real brother has never occurred to me and I find it extremely awkward to even think about it. My brother is good looking but I’ve never had any feelings for him in that way and I’m sure he feels the same towards me. In theory I don’t mind role playing it (although not in my room when my brother is home) but only the step brother / step sister kind and obviously thinking that my BF or someone else who’s not my real brother is my “step brother”.

Nevertheless, my work as a camgirl has constituted a problem with regards to my brother as I obviously don’t want him to hear me and find out what I’m up to during night (as we live in our parents house and they don’t know anything either I can mostly work at night). While in theory I could just be quiet during my sessions the clients do require some interacting and different sexual performances so to speak, meaning I can’t be completely quiet either. In fact, my perv clients go crazy over the fact that I need to be quiet as my brother’s in the other room, so playing on this is actually enhancing my income. This leads to some risky behaviour on my behalf but so far I’ve managed to be sufficiently quiet (at least that’s what I think as my brother hasn’t said anything or indicated that he’d know about my work). In fact, I must admit that it’s a very big turn on for me as well the thought that there’s a risk my brother could here me pleasuring myself, it may sound grose but it’s the forbidenness of it that does the trick, and I’ve experienced some of my strongest orgasms thinking about that (to the delight of my clients).

Recently, my bf (to whom I’ve never shared any details about my work and definitely not my account info) brought up all this and now says he’s jealous of my brother (?!). I haven’t told him anything about my clients pervy preferences and definitely not about me fantasising about the risk my brother can hear me while I pleasure myself, but somehow he just had the suspicion either way, and he also claims that our shared fantasies coupled with my work and that I do it so “close” to my brother has lead him to be jealous of him. He says he’s jealous of the fact that he suspects me to think about my brother while masturbating and also to let my brother listen in on me working etc. He even says he isn’t sure if me and my brother have done anything else but that at the very least my behaviour could easily lead to escalations of the situation.

Naturally, I was deeply disturbed that he could even think in that way and I of course denied everything because his accusations were absurd. But he says he’s still jealous even though he still loves me, he even claims that he feels helpless against my brother as I’d always choose him first etc. Real crazy talk but it seems to have stuck badly in his head, I guess unfortunately his taboo fantasies have made him sick in this regard.

Of course, I must admit that he’s (and my clients) actually have managed to think a bit differently about my brother now than before. I still would never consider doing anything of sexual nature with him but my fantasies about him / us have gone a bit more intense lately (and my orgasms with that). I’m now considering doing a bit more risky stuff (eg brother sister role play in private session, something I’ve refused to do until now) with my clients in this regard and if only me and my brother are home that would obviously make it even more exciting as I wouldn’t have to focus on keeping my parents from finding out at the same time.

I of course would never admit this to my bf, but I still think my bf is rather crazy to actually be jealous of my own brother only because he happens to share wall with my room and bed and because of my work. I can say as well that my bf doesn’t have a sister or step sister of his own so perhaps his jealousy is a bit more understandable in that sense, but still it’s absurd in my eyes.

I still love my bf and we have actually even planned to move in together (although he’s said I first must quit my job as a camgirl, which I wouldn’t mind although I really like my job and the money it gives me for the moment), we also have an amazing time in bed when we get the chance to see each other IRL. But at the same time, having a bf who’s both jealous of my own brother and apparently doesn’t trust my denials and therefore me is definitely not ideal to say the least.

How would you go about this situation? Any advice?

 

He’s toxic af. Also, it’s not a long term relationship. A year or so is still the getting to know each other phase. You’ve already seen that he’s controlling and has low emotional intelligence/ maturity.
Don’t ever quit a job or hobby that enjoy for someone else. That path doesn’t lead anywhere but depression and spite.

 

Plenty of fish in the sea. Give that one the old heave-ho off the boat.

 

If I could remove one human emotion ,I would get rid of jealousy . No good ever comes from it but an awful lot of pain can be caused by it.