my boyfriends dog is a burden

Invest in professional training. Whatever the cost it can't be more than the emotional/psychological burden you're suffering right now, not to mention the property destruction and your fears of the dog possibly attacking somebody. You'll be glad you did it. Hitting the dog with a shoe and saying "bad dog" won't do the trick. If it did the pet training industry would've gone out of business eons ago and nobody would make a fuss about the "dog whisperer".

Also, pick up some good quality chew toys to help with the chewing/destruction issue. My recommendations:

-Kong toys (made of a very durable rubber)
-Tuffy toys (durable stuffed/material toys)
-Antlers (like it sounds, boutique pet stores often sell naturally shed elk/deer antlers. Very very durable for strong chewers.)

 

The dog senses that you don't like it. I sense that your the one with the jealousy problem. Try to see this from the dog's perspective. Dogs are animals, unreasonable, irrational. You are the newcomer. You need to establish your place and reinforce it, frequently. You are not a dog. You have the capacity for reason and logic. This is only an issue in your human relationship if you allow it to be an issue. The dog is capable of good behavior. The dog is capable of being trained and learning its place in the grand pecking order. Your Boyfriend AND YOU, have the ability to resolve this, without getting rid of the dog. If your boyfriend isn't responsible enough to train the dog and make it behave appropriately, then you should put on the big boy pants and do the right thing. My advice, if you really care about your boyfriend and this relationship, you'd better reconcile yourself with this animal. You need your ask yourself, if he would be willing to so readily get rid of "his baby" to make you happy, how readily would he dispatch you, if you started to become problematic? I urge you not to make this a "it's me or the dog" issue. Your boyfriend, even if he goes along with it, will only resent you for it (deeply). Sure, it's easier to just get rid of the dog, but it's also a irresponsible and a shitty thing to do. If the dog is aggressive, that aggression isn't going to just resolve itself, it needs to be stopped, the sooner the better. If your boyfriend is an irresponsible owner, then do the right thing and become the responsible owner yourself. If you both are incapable of being responsible pet owners what on earth makes you think you'd be capable of being responsible parents?

 

That is my life. I absolutely fucking hate dogs to begin with and my boyfriend has two dogs and they're the most horrible dogs that I have ever been around. And now that I'm here, my boyfriend thinks that it's my job to take care of them and do shit for them. So when we wake up in the morning, I have to take these dogs out and walk them separately because they will run away and they can't be walked together. I have to feed them. In the ten minutes that it takes me to get to work, they have shit all over this house. They piss on the couch. They chew up every fucking thing they can get from chewing a roll of toilet paper all over the house, to textbooks, to electronics, remotes & cell phones. I was nice and bought them a doggie bed because I told my boyfriend that I don't want the dog in the bed because I bought a mattress topper for him to relax when he gets home because he works a hard job and it cost like $150, so I bought them the doggie bed, they chewed the fuck out of it and had foam shit everywhere so now he lets his huge pitt bull mix in the bed and there isn't enough room for all of us and some nights I end up sleeping on the couch because I can't pull the dog out of the bed and my boyfriend could sleep through a nuclear explosion.

tl;dr

I fucking hate dogs so much they need to be destroyed

 

I'd take a dog over most humans...

I know I'm currently feeling like some humans should be put down.

 

I'd be fine covered in 50 cats, rabbits.. even piggies.. I love little piggies. But dogs are such a burden and a turn off for me.. maybe not little dogs.. like I had a yorkie that I gave to my grandmother that I trained to use the litter box.. that was ok

 

You hate dogs, Why on earth would you get involved with a dog owner? Your boyfriend is a child and doesn't deserve to have a dog. He sounds exactly like 90 percent of the pit bull/mix owners I know, who have absolutely no business owning this breed.

I'd encourage you to find another boyfriend, one who hates dogs as much as you. I'm completely amazed that someone who hates dogs this much would get involved with a dog owner? It just confounds me.

I feel so sorry for these dogs.

 

The dogs are taken care of, they just aren't trained. He didn't get the pitt bull until after I met him, he bought the pitt bull because he thought that she would be able to 'teach' his grandmothers basset hound how to be a better dog. But no matter how sweet and nice and people friendly the pitt is, she's so damn bad and all she did was pick up on the bassets bad habits. I tell him every day that he needs to get rid of them.

 

WTF? He bought a dog to train a dog? I'm sorry, but your boyfriend is a fucking idiot. The dogs aren't the problem, your boyfriend is the problem. I hope you can convince him to find some responsible owners to take them in. Good luck.

 

dont taze me bro..

 

100% right on everything here. I am a cat owner and love cats. I could never get involved with anyone who hated cats, it would just be a total no-no. If I ever have a relationship, a mutual love of cats would definitely be a mandatory requirement for any guy I was with. It is perplexing why anyone would knowingly get involved with someone who shares their life with and loves a kind of animal that you hate.

 

So they are not properly taken care of cause if you don't train a dog someone's gonna have a problem.

 

They are taken care of. They're pretty much just barnyard dogs that live in the house because they have no rules from their owner.

And I tried so hard to get him to get rid of them or at least give them back to his dad.. the person who gave him the dogs in the first place

 

If you have an untrained dog in the house you are gonna have a problem.

 

They're not completely untrained.. they know that they are not supposed to do it.. they show remorse when they are caught and they are disciplined and I'd say maybe 4 times out of 5 or 9 times out of 10 they let you know they need to go outside.. the other times they run back into a room where nobody is and shit

 

I'm not sure you're understanding what constitutes a 'trained dog'

 

^ that's the damn truth.

aceouses posts: "got a dog to 'teach' his grandmothers basset hound how to be a better dog".
"I fucking hate dogs so much they need to be destroyed".

Dear God...the stupidity and overall sorriness of BOTH of you is astounding.
Those poor dogs...

 

I just hate dogs, that I can't help. If I would have known he was going to be getting the pitt and his grandmother with the basset, would have been a totally different story.. it's not sorry or stupid to hate something.. just because it is a dog means nothing, a something is a something and you wouldn't want pests around your house, would you?

And yeah.. he's not smart. He figured that he could train the pitt better than the basset so that the basset would pick up on her good habits.. but there are no good habits to be learned

Like I said, I've asked him multiple times to get rid of them.. give them to a better home, back to his dad.. but he won't.

 

It's not that hard to train a dog. The time and money invested is miniscule compared to dealing with a destructive dog

 

I agree...but that would take time. Just like being a good parent...I know MANY that give it a lot of lip service but little actual time/intention/thought/action. Just a lot of bla bla bla.

Not unlike it seems as has gone on in this thread...lots of thought as to how much one "fucking hates dogs", and not so much as to what to do about it. Think...for every thought and key stroke that was put into replying and typing here and/or just general griping and justifying their actions, time and effort and planning and action could have been going into working with those poor dogs.

 

I don't know how I'd react to the original OP's situation, with the mixed pitt that was showing her the teeth. I certainly don't want to sound sexist, but I only know 1 single woman that could work with a dog like they NEED to be worked with to "fix" them or "train" them or whatever when a dog starts showing her teeth. And I have watched/been there when more than one man has worked with dogs on this. It absolutely scares me shitless...it wasn't my dog and I promise you I left even though they told me "it was fine to stay." I can't deal being around that.

Anyway, to me if a dog is house-trained or not isn't a little deal - but it's also not such a big deal-breaker to me. My own personal experience in things similar: my own dog began to jump on me if I fell and we were walking and I had him on a leash. Well, now he "walks" leash free in the fenced-in back yard daily, 2 to 3 times, AND that was a sort of "big problem" : but, I knew we had to come up with something/a solution to that. I really love Jack, the insane border collie, but that had to be dealt with. He acted like he hadn't done anything, and couldn't understand not being around me every second later. I was deeply shaken after the last time he put a half-ass attempt into attacking me. He was never walked again or put on a leash by me again. I have fallen since that time around Jack but he wasn't on a leash and whatever...it was no big deal. That was his "only problem" that affected our personal relationship, and I cannot imagine what me falling triggered in him.

When he arrived here he was a little over 2 yrs old...and I have no idea what he went through prior to walking up on the patio. That was about 3 years ago that he rather suddenly began flipping out when I'd fall and he was on-leash. There has never been another serious (or possibly daily) problem...except for just this: he will NOT get in a car. period...unless I want him to just snap and have to put him down in the front yard trying to get him in a car...which I don't. He's been here a bit over 8 yrs. Unlike y'all, I both love(d) my dog AND I knew I would have to do something different. I couldn't re-train him, so I realized soon enough I would also be the one to change...meaning no more on-leash walks for Jack and me.

My point here is to both of you that have stated that you don't like dogs, I say you need to seriously give them up. Tell your respective boyfriends that you F'IN DON'T LIKE/HATE DOGS. You should not do the animals that disservice. I truly don't mean to judge because everybody didn't even like Jesus. I surely don't think everybody has to like dogs. That is on a philosophical, logical level. This person typing is Lynn that is a human that loves her dog and all animals (and even trees) and can't comprehend simply hating an animal. period. I just can't fathom it.

I know this...dogs aren't stupid. And if you don't like them, they will eventually not like you. A dog will give you more of a chance than you'll give it...usually and in the long-term. You would do yourself more good if you just at least tried and gave that dog a chance. Grow beyond yourself and give another being a chance. Love something without expecting something back. Do it freely. Anything you give will be given back...this I believe.

When you start out jealous, well then...that is a whole 'nuther kettle of worms.