My boyfriend won't smoke with me

i think you and i really are coming from about the same place as i feel exactly like a lot of those things you said, but you and i think the same things in different ways.

and of all the things you said, and this is for you OP, role reversing is KEY in relationships, not enough ppl think about how the other feels and thats the greatest tragedy of our day

 

Quite the opposite of what marijuana does.

Sounds like he might like getting heavily, introvertedly stoned, and doesn't want to with you around? It can make some things awkward and hard to read... I dunno.

If you always smoke lots of pot, he won't have a choice, though

 

Yes, I like to be the change I want to see in the world, so I always try to live by my ideals. I can empathize with your difficulties in this area, but I was a bit surprised by the whole fairytale reference. I laughed when I read that love is fickle though. That was funny. Of course love is fickle, life is fickle.

 

Maybe he gets sketched out and feels weird around other people when he's high.

 

i went through a period like that. i was so sick of caring for everyone else, letting them cry on my shoulder, and never having a shoulder to cry on myself. (wah, wah, you wrote a song about your dead hamster, and i listened to your ridiculousness, but you couldnt be bothered to listen to my problems, which far surpass the loss of a rodent. abbreviated from a true story.)
sometimes not being reciprocated makes you feel like you dont have enough love to go around, but it is a renewable resource. if you feel addicted to other people loving you then you either need to be more lovable, but again, the definitions of love are diluted in society. so if you seek true love (love that is true, not a soul mate thing) you have to know what you are looking for.

i think a big problem is the words themselves. i love bunny rabbits. i love chocolate. i love you. these are all different versions of a concept. you could say "bunny rabbits warm my heart, chocolate is blissful, im enchanted by you." so you could verbalize the specifics of your feelings, but its too much hassle for most people.
"Cherish is the word I use to remind me of your love"~madonna

i have a love for all people, it is a general love. if i know you, i love you. it takes a lot to lose my love, but that doesnt mean hate either, just an absence of love. i also do not dismiss the importance of old love. the past cannot be changed, and a love, once loved cannot be erased. it is permanent in your history. you may not feel it as strongly, but the love exists already. what we should have is a way of distinguishing what kind of love we are talking about, but the kinds of love can only really be defined personally.
i embrace the nature of love, even the part that most would argue about- that love is merely a way to keep parents together long enough to raise our inherently weak offspring. theres nothing wrong with accepting that, it does not cheapen love, it gives it an actual purpose. my son rarely asks why, he asks "whats it do? whats it for?" usually in combination. knowing how or why things are the way they are is important to understanding the thing itself.

cherish, adore, admire these all have separate meanings that all fall under the guise of love. they are loving feelings, in the category of love. the flippant use of the word love without understanding is the only thing that cheapens it, and it originates within. you cannot demand love, it must be given, gifted to you. the only love you have control over is your own, and you have to love yourself first, and understand that love as best as you can.

 

my wife annoys me when Im high.. but since im high most the time. She annoys me most the time....

I leave her with these lines.

And lovin' a music man
Ain't always what it's supposed to be
Oh, girl, you stand by me
I'm forever yours
Faithfully

 

lol, I've been smoking pot for six years, I know that, I was kidding.

 

you know i have a very strange history with love. i usually have intense loving relationships, but when im not, its usually a 6 months to a year before i find someone else.so whats weird is that literally all my friends that are girls come to me for advice when it comes to their relationships, they tell me "get out of my head" cuz i can always tell them what they are thinking about the situation, then i tell them how to resolve a situation, that shit bothers me cuz i cant seem to make any of my relationships last (probably cuz i do what girls do and generally choose the worst girl for me, some bad girl)

i feel like that too, i always compare love to a tank of gas, you cant go on forever with one tank of gas, so every so often you need to stop at a gas station, or in this case have a loving relationship

i was just talking about this, the word itself is becoming worthless in this society

tis is probably the second hardest thing for me, because of my feeling of betrayal sometimes its this constant wound that never heals, i know i should let it go, but its not that easy, especially when the feelings are almost as strong today as when we separated. sometimes(key word) i wish i could be like one of those assholes that dont care about how others feel, and move on without a second thought, but i cant, i get attached easily.

and THIS is the hardest thing for me, all of my failures kind of settle into self-loathing, i start questioning everything ive ever said, ever done wrong, and i replay them over and over even shit that happened years ago. obviously i have my own issues and i probably need some medication (i cant do therapy, cuz i dont trust them, and therefore cant take it seriously) but i suppose thats a topic for another thread lol