My boyfriend hit me.. am I stupid for forgiving him???

I would go get some help for your man. If he has issues with anger, then he needs to go talk to someone who can help him with his anger. It sounds like you love him very much and that he loves you. And I am not saying he has to go into extensive counseling or anything but just a few classes to find out what is causeing his anger outbirsts.
I have a friend who's ex had major anger issues to the point it just started off as yelling at her.....months later it turned into throwing glass plates accross rooms at her, them he was punching holes in walls and threw all of her clothes in a garbage and poored bleach on everything. She got away from him but he still stalks her to this very day blaming her for their break-up.
So be careful! And get some help for the both of you, it may help more then you know.

 

sounds to me like you are booth insane. maybe you deserve each other. just do the rest of the world a favor and dont have kids they may come out even more messed up than you two are.


grabbing the wheel or arm of car driven by another person is insane and not only puts yours and his life in danger but also other cars or people walking.

i was raised to never hurt a women, with the exception of if she started it. my mom told me if a women is dumb enough to think she cant beat up a man she deserves what she gets. and after 35 years i still have not had to hit a women.

 

get out, any "man" that hits a women isn't a real man, its a downward spiral from here. end it while u can

 

so many differring opinions in this thread, it's amazing...

I don't really have much to add to what's been said, but not even one person has commented on what led to the physical abuse. Every couple has arguments, but screaming and hurling insults at each other is abuse as well, and both of you were doing this. Just about anyone who's been in an abusive relationship can confirm that this is how bad goes to worse. Something mean is said, screaming starts, emotions run high and someone snaps.

No promise will ever stop that from happening, and without it the chances of it happening again (and even increasing in frequency) is just about guaranteed. Anger management will help, but I'd recommend actual couples counselling; you two not only need to learn how to control anger, you need to learn how to effectively communicate to each other.

 

Uuummmm....my comment a couple threads above commented how in my friends relationship it turned physical after awhile. Started off with just yelling then turned into throwing shit, punching, etc.....
I am soooooooo glad she got out of that situation and so is she.

 

it's not always true that if it happens once it'sll happen again. My husband (before we were married) was very drunk and flpped out at me. He wasscreaming and slapping me and ended up shoving me through the window on our front door. Glass everywhere, quite a fun time. He instantly snapped out of it and was apologizing like mad. I of course didn't believe him at first, because isn't that what we're always told abusive partners do? They freak then apologize, over and over. However, i ended up coming back & giving him another chance and we have now been married for nearly 2 years and nothing even remotely close to this has happened again. Maybe i was lucky, I don't know. just be very careful and rely on your instincts on this one hon.