my aunt is a former child molestor!

i hope you are doing okay now.

 

It's true that you don't ever have to confront the perpetrator, ever. Unless you chose to. But I do suggest getting some counseling or guidance from a professional to help you if you feeling really stressed/stuck/dysfunctional about it. Realize that sometimes the feelings come back, when your mind revisits the memories of it. I believe you. And sadly your are not alone. I was in a similar situation as a child, and no one believed me. What's important is to believe into you core being that what happened does define you. One blessing I've gained from my hideous experiences, is the ability to recognize a child being abused, and stop it. I've stopped the cycle, and I've saved others from going through it. It's up to all of us to watch out for others!