Music Tastes Collide

Growing up I enjoyed listening to pop, rock, and some punk music, then as a teenager I listened to heavier material, metal, rock and punk, since then I have not stopped listening to that style of music. I do listen to other sub genres out there, black metal, death metal, hardcore, screamo, thrash, etc. But there are some genres I don't enjoy, which is EDM, Techno, Rave style music. I have heard it and some of it, is ok but I am not so crazy about it that I would go to a rave. Raves and small club type events like them are not my thing.

So now this happens, my Boyfriend likes metal, rock, and punk, but he enjoys raves EDM, techno style of music and wants me to go to a rave with him. But I do not want to go at all because I have heard the music, seen YouTube videos, that scene is not me. So now he refuses to go to any of my concerts, until I go to one of his shows.

I know I won't like his shows I just know it. What should I do?

 

This is the problem with being in a relationship. Well, one of them.

 

Don't do things you don't want to do. Don't make him do things he doesn't want to do.

Very simple.

(or perhaps you could try something new... I've disliked a lot of bands until seeing them live)

 

I know I won't like this event though.

 

is there anything that you are willing to do with your boyfriend?

 

Yeah I have suggested a lot of stuff. But he says since we always do what I want and never what he wants thats getting to him.

 

i feel like that would get to most people.

 

You can't really know what a rave is like by watching it on youtube, I say just try it out. If it's a really expensive massive, then maybe I can understand being more reluctant. I'm not saying they are better necessarily but there is no other music oriented experience like a rave.

 

Just go for the experience and to make another person happy.

For some reason I always end up with guys that don't share my taste in music - I have been to more metal shows than I can count because of this, and I fucking hate metal. If someone you love wants to share a piece of themselves with you then you share it - at least once to show you're willing to make the effort.

And just remember, no one would have fun at raves without drugs anyways so just do some drugs and relax and enjoy yourself.

 

FU I do not do drugs, smoke or drink thank you. And lucky you with you having a guy that likes metal haha. My Boyfriend likes it but he's getting sick of going to my shows and only wants his shows.

 

I'm sorry, but I feel like you should dump your boyfriend. Boys don't appreciate women enough. He should be sucking your dick, not bitching about how you won't go to his shows. Compared to me, he is a pussy.

 

Edited: I just read that you don't do drugs or drink....and if that is the case, a rave is probably not for you.

Does your bf have to go to concerts with you? Why not bring one of your other friends, someone who shares the same taste in music as you? I go to concerts without my husband all the time.

 

I don't have a lot of friends who drive, let alone who like the same music tastes as I do. Or most of my friends are living their own lives haha. My Boyfriend loves raves, EDM, techno, trance, types of music and he doesn't drink, smoke or do drugs either. I don't do those things and never plan too. MAYBE I will go to one of his shows or maybe not I don't know anymore. To me, it seems like no matter what I do, I can never do anything right, I just do everything wrong.

 

Is that what your boyfriend says? That you do everything wrong? If that is the case, he sounds like a fucking dick.

Just OWN the music you love. If someone has a problem with that, fuck them.

I enjoy EDM, however i don't think I'd ever go to a rave. I'd go to festivals though.

 

He has told me before that it was all my fault, but he has had his mess-ups as well. I just want him and I to stop fighting and yet we keep fighting all the time. It hurts me so much, I always find myself crying time and time again.

 

Love shouldn't hurt that much. In order for a relationship to work, in my opinion, you have to let each other be who they are. It isn't healthy to try and change another person.

Why are you and your boyfriend fighting all the time? Is it just about the music, or is there something else going on? Is he pressuring you to have sex with him?

 

Its about me and my attitude, me yelling and screaming at him, he doesn't like being treated this way. Then me, and us doing only what I want to do. And then the music tastes hitting one another. And yes the sex pressuring him being frustrated and asking for sex, when he knows I am a virgin and waiting until marriage but he keeps asking.

 

Honestly, you two seem very incompatible. It doesn't sound like anyone's very happy in this relationship.
Things won't change, they never really do, so don't count on that.
He's going to keep asking for sex, and you're going to continue with the yelling and all that.
You might end up having sex with him, but since you had to compromise on something that is a big deal for you, it won't make you happy.
In my opinion, music is pretty irrelevant, although I am happy that me and my bf have a very similar taste (AND we don't take music too seriously anyways).

 

Also, do some drugs and relax is like the worst advice I heard on this forum lol

 

i don't know, "worst advice on hipforums" is an extremely competitive category. i mean, "do some drugs and relax" has to go up against the likes of "you should cheat on your wife," "you should have sex with your sister," and "if you take a cheese grater to your feet, you will be able to more effectively burn your soles when standing on dangerously hot surfaces."