So, I have a few questions for the ladies.. Sometimes, sex is painful for me, often it's because I'm not wet enough. It's really frustrating, I can start off nice and wet, and it will dry up so fast. It doesn't just occur when I'm not particularly 'in the mood' or when it doesn't feel the greatest for whatever reason. (Maybe sore.) However, sometimes it just.. hurts. Mostly when my boyfriend thrusts all the way in, it just hits a certain point and it's just a sudden, shocking, jolt of pain. Perhaps I could describe it as an ache, but just a sudden jolt of an ache. (I know technically that's not an ache then.. but it's the best way I can describe it.) I'll have him slowly work his way in all the way, in an effort to prevent this, but ocassionally I can feel the ache even when he's going in slowly. I describe it as an actual ache when he's going slow, because at that point he's in there all the way for a few seconds. It's not all the time, though. Sometimes he can go so hard and fast, and it doesn't hurt at all. So, I'd just like some input regarding the wetness issues.. the thing is, I'm not all that into foreplay. The light rubbing over my panties can get me going, but I'm not particularly into really being... played with. He could finger me, but it's often too much (as in, too good), and I have to make him stop. (That leads me into the fact that, it really makes me feel like I have to pee when he uses his hands down there, I haven't had an orgasm before so is that what that feeling is leading up to? I'm very nervous that if I just let that feeling go, I'll pee, and that would be so embarrassing..) Also, what could be the cause of the pain I feel sometimes? Might I not be turned on enough? On another note, regarding my lady functions, I have another question. This coming June, I will have been on the pill for two years. I always start my packs on Sundays, and when the time comes for my period it would always be on a Tuesday. Last month, it started on the Wednesday morning, and after that I was spotting during the rest of my cycle. Then during my period this month, I got it Wednesday afternoon, no spotting as of yet. I find it odd that it seems to be getting later and later, suddenly. Is that something I should be concerned about? Thanks in advance! Some extra information, I've been with my boyfriend for two years, and lost my virginity to him (and he did to me). We will have been sexually active for two years in late June. Not sure if that will make any difference, but oh well!
maybe your boyfriend should go eat your pussy first, get it super wet before he sticks it inside.. days of the month fluctuate and your times the month will never fall on the same day. if they do, its just a coincidence.. put some plastic sheet on the bed if your worried about it,, and let yourself release what isnt pee, youll learn what is an orgasm..
If you've never had an orgasm before it sounds like you haven't masturbated enough. Start doing this - go with the pee sensation when you're masturbating so you don't have to worry about being embarrassed. This usually is the sensation you get leading up to a vaginal orgasm. You really need to explore your own body to learn how to really relax and get into sex. Sex can be painful if you aren't completely relaxed and comfortable. Plus masturbating is a good way to learn what you like so you can show your boyfriend. as far as your periods and birth control, I usually start my period on the second day of the placebo week but sometimes its on the 3rd or 4th day. Dont worry about it, my doctor says its normal.
I certainly don't masturbate often, it's just not nice to me. I don't like it, I guess. It probably sounds fairly pathetic, but I don't know what to do with myself, because nothing I do really feels good. It freaks me out a bit, honestly, I worry often about everything. And when suddenly it doesn't come when it has for the past year and a half, I get a little concerned, lol.
I know this is the women forum, but girl find out what you want and what you like. My first wife had the same issue with a very sensitive location inside. She never felt she had enough lube. We finally found that me spooning her or doggie prevented it from being hit [ I am actually very skinny down there but oddly long]. Lube was a necessity and we used cocuonut oil, or silicone based. These were only ones that worked. It also super helped it she had a vib going on her clit when we started....some foreplay [she didnt like much either], I loved rubbing between her legs, then she started with her vib...when approaching an orgasm I stopped rubbing and slowly penetrated..after the orgasm she was pretty much good to go the rest of the time. NO MISSIONARY for us and if I put her leggs back she was even worse off. Different days and spotting...girl you are just like my 1st wife [rest her sole]. Doc told her she worried too much. It was fine and when she stopped the pill she was just like she was prior to starting the pill. We had been trying to have a baby for 11 months when I lost her and found out basically it is harder to have a baby than to prevent one. Two years and both virigins together does matter...you have experienced a lot of firsts together so keep that up and keep experimenting. My 1st was so worried the vibrator would turn me off like I couldnt do it for her but it didnt...actually it allowed us to FUCK rather than dance around our sexual issues. Good luck and hopefully I find a woman as concerned about you and him as my 1st wife was...Again!
If you dont like experiementing on yourself make it a game for the two of you to experiment with your body. He is a lucky man! LOL...give him the yes no maybe and test it out.
