My boyfriends mom is driving me crazy. I have known my boyfriend for six years and we have been on and off in our relationship... we are young and now we are trying to get serious about journeying through life together. For a while, he lived with his mom. Every time I called to talk to him she would say he was not there, I needed to stop stalking him and just say degrading things about me to me all around. He was not allowed to live there and hang out with me... we hung out anyway. She has chased me with baseball bats, thrown large heavy objects at my car and threatened to shoot me. When my boyfriend lived with his mom she constantly demanded money for bills and always threatened to kick him out. Finally, I convinced him to get a place of his own so that we could have some shot of seeing one another decently on a regular schedule. I ended up moving in with him and surprisingly, his mom was very helpful during the move. She bought us dishes and other household necessities because we were broke from the move. She spoke decently towards me and kept saying she wants to get along with me. I have been living with my boyfriend in our apartment for two and half months. We both work challenging jobs trying to make it in this world. Since we both work we do not have a lot of free time together, which I think is very valuable in a relationship. Well everyday his mom calls trying to figure out when he is off work so that she can come pick him up and he can remodel her kitchen, help her clean her house, help her go shopping and run errands and buy plants for her garden that he will end up tending all summer. Even if he tells a little white lie and says he is working when he is off she just shows up at the house to pick him up, like she did today. It does not seem to matter if we have plans or have little free time together he goes and helps her every time she asks... which happens to be almost everyday he is off work. Then she does little things like invite us over for dinner so she can say things like, well with all I do for you then you can help me out a little. She also buys random things for our house that we do need and uses the same line. Today I left work during lunch so I could home and enjoy my lunch time with my man since he was off work. Well on my way here I passed him riding in the car with his mom. I honked the horn and followed them so they would pull over and I could see what the heck was going on. I said 'what are you doing?' He replied that he was going to buy plants and plant them in his mom's garden. I was a little irritated and did not respond kindly. Then his mom chimed in, 'I am also going to have to borrow $20 for gas!' Borrowing money to his family never works out because they always come up with an excuse as of to why they should not have to pay him back (he borrowed his brother $300 a couple months ago and now his brother does not think he needs to pay that back... that's another story). Anyways, his mother heard that was upset and said to me, well I don't care if you're mad. So I got off work today thinking that we would have a nice relaxing evening together before he goes to work all weekend, but it is not going to happen cause he is still with his mom kissing her butt for whatever reason. I would get over it and accept that the night is not going the way I expected, but this happens ALL THE TIME. Anyways, his mom knows I am upset and at first she was calling me a heffer and other names, but I guess she has calmed down a little now because she just left me a voicemail saying something to the gyst of, "I know you're upset. I do not know why. I do not see anything wrong with me asking him to buy plants for the garden. We should try to talk about this like adults." I will admit that the voicemail rather surprised me... I expected her to be cussing me out, but she was kind. I guess I need to talk to her. All of this is just driving me crazy. I feel like his mom is dictating our lives and he is letting her. For example, our house is a wreck, but we need to go clean hers and help her? And if we do not help when she asks she tells her son to drop dead and never talk to her again and so on and so on. Almost every bit of free time we could have together is monopolized by his mother... and nobody seems to care or think there is anything not right about that but me!! All I know is that this is making me CRAZY!! Advice, suggestions, thoughts, comments??? My own friends and family are tired of me complaining about this to them!!