MERGED POSTS!: Myths, Legends, History PLUS, advice on how to talk to your parents.

You should ask them why they wear their hair the way they do. Then they should realize what a silly question it is and move on.

 

I fought the law and...well, IIIII won.

My parents are the most conservative people on this planet. So I told them I was getting dreadlocks and of course, it was "No, you're not." "That's disgusting." "They look terrible and dirty." ect ect ect...

I informed them that it was was I wanted, explained that it was important to me spiritually, that it wasn't completely permanent, and dug up as many photos of gorgeous dreads as I could on the internet. After giving my parents the slideshow and speech I let it set in. Next day we were in town and I asked if we could stop by Sally's to pick up a metal comb, rubber bands, and wax. (Do NOT use wax! That was a misstep on my part which has been corrected.) We went in, she bought the stuff for me, shaking her head all the while...she also bought me several pretty scarves and headbands.

As she put it to my father, "I'm not buying my daughter a crackpipe or alcohol..I'm not paying for her bail or her abortion. I buying rubber bands. I think we're pretty well off as far as daughters go." The whole time I was making my dreads they just shook their heads, alternately laughing and asking "Why? Why would you want to do this?!"

Today my mom admitted that they were cute. "Just a little bit." HaHA!!

 

A couple of years ago while I was helping a young friend along in the dreading process, she confessed to me that her parents were dead-set against the new hairstyle until after they met me/saw my hair. That made me feel good!

 

man thanks guys. i might convince my mom to let me have them now! as far as i know, my dad doesn't have a probem as long as there not dirty. but from what i've heard having dirty hair is bad for your dreads.

 

ahhh i want dreads so bad my my dad absolutely hates them! he says the get maggots and stuff in them after years. im planning to just let them happen the real messy way then convince him to let me get them done properly.
great forum

 

the messy way is the proper way

 

how long does the whole process take at a salon?

 

HAHAHA, how sad am i. I actually got my mom to do the backcombing of my dreads for me.

 

yeah same here. My mom hates my locks to. She said "if anyone screws up her sons hair its going to be me!"

 

Way to stand up for your dreads. I wanted them back when I was eleven or twelve and my mother refused to listen to me.. of course I was twelve and wanted to live in the tree in our backyard, but anyway, I've been thinking about getting them again, but I'm slightly worried I won't like them once I have them. PLus I have an oily scalp and someone told me that would be bad for dreads. My question: is this true or random "I think I know it all, but I don't" crap? <3

 

i was in the grocery store a few days ago. there was a boy, maybe 10 or 11. he had AWESOME dreads. they were a little longer than shoulder lenght. his mom was talking to the cashier about him. " yeah and now he's class president! they love his hair." the kid just smiled proudly. the mom wasn't dready at all either. if i see them again i plan on commenting him on his hair.. maybe high-fivin' his mom for being so cool and open enough to let her kid express himself.

 

I have the same problem currently. I can get the dreads if I pass this year in college...damn I hope I will

 

lol.... to be honest mine said a flat out no, At new years i went round a m8s for a few days, then me, and a few of my hippy scaby lookin dirty m8s came around my house to get some food, half of my dreads done with me wearing a hat, they were all cool about it, for some reason, I got SOO confused, maybe it was because i had guests, or they were scared of them

parents, confusing creatures, so get them, i mean if they try and cut em out say url get theres out, be a rebel you only have 1 chance!

 

at the park yesterday a BALD dad asked me how i got my hair to dread. i explained it to him. he told me his son has been asking for dreads, but since he didn't know how to do it he hasn't dreaded his sons hair. how awesome is that? a parent asking someone else how to dread hair! his little boy looked to be about 5 or 6.. i hope to see them again at the park so i can help them with his dreadies. DAMN IT, I LOVE THIS AREA!

 

where bouts u live? I love in somerset and there is quite alot of cool dreadlocked people but then lots of small minded people who hate it,

 

yea, tis a better word

 

i live in the santa cruz mountains in california.. and yeah we have a mixture of cool hip folks and people that are mainstream weirdos

 

lol. dread people are the normal 1s for sure! eavryone else with short hair are jst crazy

I love being told to get a hair cut! and my girly dready m8 loves it when people ask her if shes taken them out for the prob, thinkin they come in and out in a day

 

I don't know much about this, because I actually work for my dad :& But I'd assume that goes along with almost any body mod... like if you have visible tattoos or piercings.

I knew a girl that had a monroe piercing, and got a new job under the condition that she completely removed the piercing.

I know the way the world works and all, but in all honesty, I think not getting hired for things like that, are dumb... especially considering that body modification (tattoos, piercings, dreads, whatever) are much more prevalent these days.

95% of the people I know have either tattoos, piercings, or something to the affect.

I also think its dumb when places ask you to put a band-aid over piercings... that looks twice as obnoxious as a little stud on your face.

Whatever. I'm not contributing much to this thread, just ranting a little

 

im going to add to your rant. I dont think dreadlocks are a form of body modification at all... infact cutting your hair and gussying up everyday is more body modification than letting your hair grow in its natural form. just my 2 cents.