I never really accepted that role. I have to be a male version of a prima dona, or something. Initially, I was frustrated because only women who were unattractive to me initiated toward me. Then I realized I can flirt and not lead. That's when I started pulling the trophy types and still felt desired. Eventually I outgrew all of that, and I'm just myself- and if I'm alone, so be it. I only deal with women who meet me halfway.
I may be hated for saying this, but in my experience, women tend to gravitate towards guys who can act like the biggest jerks.
being a jerk myself, i consider it a kindness for me to gravitate towards jerks. but i couldn't help myself. i had to snatch up a good guy while he was available. he's stuck with me, now. at least i'm not harassing all the rest of the nice guys.
Those jerks, gotta love em. Its just that sappy men dont do it for me, especially upon first getting to know each other, and they need to be able to handle my sarcasm and bitchiness when it comes out :tongue: