Hey, So I was recently working away and I was reading about the area and read about a local nude beach. It is something I'd never done before so I thought why not and went down. I got there, went and found my spot, stripped off and chilled out, I was a bit self conscious at first but soon realised nobody gave a f--- so relaxed and went for a swim etc and it was a very good relaxing experience. With out sounding too cliche I genuinely felt liberated to be lying in nature and my first skinny dip in the ocean was cool. I am a young enough dude in fairly good shape and I noticed early on that the demographic was mostly older single men, there were a few couples of different ages around. I didn't really think much of it. Throughout the whole day I was there I got a couple of friendly if shy smiles and the only comment I overheard was from the male half of a male/female youngish (clothed) couple who were walking by which was probably said a lil loud by accident... it wasn't offensive so I didn't care. I went home and having enjoyed my first experience of a nude beach I started doing a bit of google research and came across the general consensus that men alone on a nude beach are "meerkats" and either all off bumming each other in the dunes or harassing lone women. I also found a blog from some dude saying the beach I was on was a notorious gay beach full of deviants... So to cut a long story short... after spending all day at the nude beach by myself without incident and leaving feeling relaxed and positive I spent 30 mins online and have been put off going again for fear of being labelled some sort of deviant To all nudists... if you see a lone male guy chilling on a nude beach butt neked just going about his own business, having a swim, reading a book, trying to get rid of his bright white arse, do you immediately assume he's only there for deviant purposes or is this just an example of internet paranoia blowing things out of proportion and nobody really cares as long as you are not running around with a stiffy shouting "look at my boner everyone!" ???? (much like if you google a runny nose you instantly find out you have full body cancer) Genuine question, would appreciate a few genuine answers from seasoned nude beach goers Thanks
Not all single men are "predators " or gay on a nude beach as you said. But there are some usually in a certain area which you would want to avoid. That being said, many can't get their spouse/girlfriend to go for different reasons. Just be aware and don't be shy telling them off if they get too close or roam around you. Enjoy your time in the sun and don't worry about others unless you're annoyed by their behavior..... cheers
I go alone to the nude beach , as my wife and kids hate the sun and the sea. That leaves me free to enjoy both in the nude every summer. (They are not aware that I am a summer nudist, but my wife has never commented on my lack of tan lines.) I klike the feeling of being free when swimming nude in the sea,and the sun on my body is nice and warm all over. I frequent a beach used by singles and couples , straight and gay. Its live and let live. Nobody talks to me unless its people I recognise as regular beach users , and I don't talk to those I don't recognise. Most of the females are accompanied by a male or they arrive in 2's or 3's , so there is no problem with them receiving any unwanted attention. I classify myself as a bloke who enjoys social nudity in the company of like minded people. We are all naked at this beach , and nobody bats an eyelid if you are alone or not. My motto is enjoy the sun and the sea naked as it feels so good. I take a sandwich and drink with me,and enjoy my nude time.
Single men at any nudist venue are not easily trusted and are often unwanted. At a typical nudist resort (in the US anyway) a single man is always suspect. As a single man who enjoys nudism I've learned to be aware of this. I try to behave in a way that does not make anyone uncomfortable, to the extent possible. It's just the way it is, most people are more comfortable as a couple and in the company of other couples. Spend time at any nudist discussion forum on the 'net and you will find discussion of the "single male problem".
Rick, I've experienced the same issue. I've been to nudist resorts and home parties. Being a single male, people are not very friendly. I"m there to enjoy myself and to meet new people just like they are but there's always that stigma there. A couple nudist resorts in my area do not accept single males. I can understand the problem they've had with male perves but you can't place us all in the same category.
I've come to accept it for what it is. Here is the thing about nude resorts.. It's a business. For that business to work, the most important thing is that women can be comfortable. If women are not comfortable the business will not survive. That means married, attached, and single women. Also of course if its a family nude resort then parents must feel comfortable with their children there. We all know and understand that far more singe men will visit a nudist resort (or "camp", whatever) then single women. And if the ratio of unattached men to women (attached or not) increases too far then the women (and many men) become uncomfortable. It's just the reality of the thing, and really its no different than a clothed social situation in that regard. That's why when I do find a resort that welcomes single men I do whatever I must to avoid any behavior or situation that may possibly cause anyone to take notice of me or become uncomfortable.
The image of the man by themselves on a nude beach as being either a pervert or a man looking for other men is the reality of UK and US venues far too much, not so much in Germany or France where nudity on beaches is more widespread.
As a single older woman who occasionally goes to a nude beach alone, I immediately notice single men, too. But what I notice more than single men is men in groups. Men in groups make me far more uncomfortable than single men. The single men don't concern me because I always stay near mixed groups of people. In fact, I enjoy chatting and visiting with the single guys. I'm quite aware that they're probably checking out my bits behind their dark glasses, but that comes with the territory on a nude beach. At my age, there isn't a lot to check out anyway ... Back to the original question ... in my nude beach experience, which admittedly is limited, there were always separate gay and straight sections of the beach. I think if you adjust your expectations to accommodate that, you will have less uncomfortable moments. Gay men don't bother me. Even guys jerking off in the bushes with binoculars don't bother me all that much. I don't mind single men approaching me to chat. What I don't like has nothing to do with sexual orientation or relationship status. It's when people act as though the beach were their own personal playground, with no consideration for anyone else. Frisbees landing in my drink, music loud enough to be heard in the next state, dogs misbehaving or leaving messes in the sand ... those are the things that bother me.
Hey guys, thanks for you responses So I went again this time to Tyagarah beach near Byron Bay australia. I read all the stories online about it first how it was all people bumming in the dunes and sexually harrassing everyone and decided to ignore it seeing as last time it proved to be completely false..... ... and no issues whatsoever, didn't see any "undersirables", there was quite a varied mix of people spread out a long the beach, i found my spot, went for a skinny dip in the ocean, read my book, got a sunburnt arse... I saw a few people going up into the dunes but to be honest i think they were just looking for shade. There was a young gay couple enjoying the beach perfectly respectfully, older couples, younger couples, singles, families. and to pensfan who said "if your not acting like a deviant why would anyone think you are?" You are corrrect I didn't once feel like people thought I shouldn't be there. I found my own spot and did my own thing and nobody could care less. I didn't impose on anyones space or do anything to make anyone feel uncomfortable so why should they... and it's not as if I had anything to hide as I was in my birthday suit All in all a 2nd positive experience, flying in the face of the internet scare mongers
I really don't think a man who sits alone and minds his own business is ever going to have a problem. I've done that a few times at the Ledges in Vermont, and it's fine. I don't mind exchanging a few words with other guys like myself, either--we're there to enjoy the same place in the same way, so why not.
it can be rather boring if you have to be alone to be nude. Quite often, the approach you use to tell somebody you are a naturist will have a big impact on how they respond. Some techniques work better than others, and will depend upon the people involved.
