meeting the one

So do lots of people, they just fail to tell their spouses...or they live in Utah.

 

I was talking about love not sex

 

i dont know how he made you cry but i do know that when your in love that person has the power to hurt you a lot more easily, because you love them anything they do against you will hurt more. like if by bf calls me stupid it would hurt more than if my brother did. but one cry over a little fight shouldnt be a strong enough shake up to rattle the foundation of a well built relationship. making a loving relationship is about learning how to respect each other, forgive, communicate, and well your striving for that there will probably be some tears along the way.

 

Too right, my last girlfriend threw her cell phone in my face

had I not been in love and utterly indifferent to the idea she would ever do that, I might have seen it coming.

 

there are many "ones" and they all feel different, at least in my experience. the "one" right now: if you can feel like you will get through the best and the worst with that person

 

i've always wanted to be with myself. i suppose i knew it when i didn't want to die, or change who i was.

what does this even mean?

the first time i ever met my old friends was probably pretty awkward, as most of my initial meetings are.

meeting old friends for the first time after after not seeing them for a while is also awkward for at least a little while.

i suspect meeting old online friends for the first time would also be rather awkward, at least for a while.

 

I agree, meeting people is awkward regardless of whether they were old friends or not.

 

Interesting.

 

when I first met my wife I couldn't stand not seeing her.
after a few years of marriage with all the fighting I couldn't stand not seeing her even with the fight.
22 years later she is the most amazing person that does some unbelievably stupid thing.

she told a friend of ours "he was worth fighting with"

 

Like meeting an old friend for the first time, what it means to me. a paradox, love is metting an old friend, the one u meet, is for the first time, love never leaves you tho ur forever finding it. As for the one u will never know, as said before its what fells right at the time, time is nothing be forever free. Close ur eyes it might help u see,

 

I'm not really sure. a few times I have thought I felt that feeling, but it turned out otherwise

 

I'd imagine it's a kind of zen situation; they are the one because you are with them forever, not the other way around. They are the one when you say "yes" to their marriage proposal and wouldn't have it any other way and it's all that matters and you live happily ever after. Everything else is just try-outs, right?

Don't look too hard for signs of "the one", if they are, it will be. Until then you will know love in many forms to come.

ps. you know it's me anyways

 

writer, I always appreciate your input

duuuuhh

 

Damn, I don't know! But I knew it almost instantly.

 

that's called infatuation.

granted, it is possible to be lucky enough to be infatuated with someone who is actually a great match for you, but you don't know it that fast.

 

Then I guess I got lucky. That happened when I was 14 - I am 26 now and most happily married to him.

 

Yikes..I think finding one person that you can fall in love with is rare enough.

i think its possible to know right away. That applies to different types of relationships. I experienced an immediate connection with most of the closest people in my life.

I think its just something you know, and its always a gamble. A feeling isnt a promise of forever. But when someone is right for you at a certain time in your life, you'll just know. I know thats really cliche, but its true. Its like two puzzle pieces falling together.

If you have to ask, its probably not it.

 

i still don't buy it. if you know that someone is right for you before you even know anything substantial about them, either you're psychic or extremely shallow.

amyoxl, you got very lucky. congratulations.

 

When you're both open, honest and brave enough to explore every facet of eachothers mind, great and not so great...you spend a long time and a lot of energy doing so, you go through pain, and at the end of it you still like eachother a hell of a lot.

It feels like being at home, but never dull. This is a rather large home. There's always something new to discover, but you're always safe.

It's when you can easily operate as one mind. You respect, support and encourage eachother as individuals completely and without question, but when it comes down to it you're one. The important decisions are made as one, all is shared equally and entirely, and rather than being stifling, this is the most liberating feeling in the world. It means you can say whatever you want to say, show every single part of yourself. It means you never have to keep a secret again. You can talk and talk and talk and it never gets boring or awkward.

It's not a duty and nothing is expected except honesty. It just flows and enriches. It makes you stronger, better, brighter and fulfilled just by being what it naturally is, without some massive whirlwind romance and drama thing. It's not all glitter and roses, we're human. But when you've found "the one", tough as it gets sometimes (it gets very tough) you always give your best and know you're getting the best in return, and a life without that person would be ridiculous when the other option is this glorious sharing, understanding and learning.

 

I stayed socially isolated for years due to anxiety, but meeting my boyfriend wasn't awkward in the slightest. I understand the "old friend" thing, although it's not a helpful explanation for those who haven't felt that. It's trying to get across the total lack of awkwardness due to the exciting new familiarity of the situation I guess. You know, it's obviously new and exciting, but the persons mind is such a great match for yours that there's that air of familiarity due to the natural understanding between you. It isn't anything psychic or mystical any or crap like that.