New to this as a bisexual bottom . Where do I go to meet others. How do you know another bisexual man. Best free apps or dating sites used . I'm in Rochester, NY . Please help me
Richard, good luck. The rest of us bi men are asking the same questions. I've had some success with squirt.org. The free version is limiting on the number of emails and other features. Also, doublelist.com is free and can be regionalized.
I think part of this is being open to the cosmos. This means both having a certain awareness of opportunities that are not obvious, and presenting yourself as available in subtle enough ways. Keep in mind flirting is not fundamentally heteronormative. But take my advice with a grain of salt. I have not had any success myself, so this advice is so far only theoretical. But maybe it's a start.
Try fabguys website. I’ve used this many times and it has variants in a number of English-speaking countries, including UK, USA, Australia, etc. You get to read reviews from when guys have met up to ascertain whether it’s the sort of thing you’d enjoy with another guy.
I have used Adam4Adam. Surprising number of Bi guys online there. Some I just chat with; while others are there to play as well. Have also met some great gay guys open to Bi guys.
My best luck at finding bisexual men occurred when doing outdoor recreational stuff. Bi-curious men tend to lurk. Straight men tend to have an invisible wall, But true bisexual men tend to communicate better with other men. So, I just look around and see if an interesting guy is willing to communicate, either verbally or non-verbally. If the chemistry is good, things can quickly move toward intimate contact with an experienced bi man who wants to connect. The problem I have with internet connections has been the lack of natural selection for chemistry, plus you can end up having to deal with ultra-tentative bi-curious types who never get off the launch pad, other than maybe feeding their masturbation fantasies.
One time I was at a swimming pool where I was very focused on learning some techniques. I walked to my vehicle and was approached by a young guy who asked how I was doing and tried to talk to me while I was walking to my vehicle. I was so oblivious to the fact that he was probably hitting on me because I don’t normally look for guys hitting on me and then once I finally realized it I felt like a dumbass and wished I could have found him again because I’m pretty sure I would’ve been down for it. Sometimes you just have to pay attention to what’s going on around you
Big mistake in something I wrote here. I wrote flirting is not fundamentally heteronormative. What I meant to say is the assumption is flirtation is meant to occur between members of the opposite sex, and hardly anyone expects it to occur between members of the same sex, especially males. So if you're a guy hitting on a guy, the other guy might not catch on as he would if you were both of the opposite sex. But flirting is not fundamentally of a particular sexual orientation.
I have used Craigslist and Silverdaddies. Silverdaddies seems to be the best for getting to know a guy first. I haven’t ever hooked up spontaneously with someone I have met randomly in public. It would be fun though.
I sucked a guy at an all man party one night. Later he ask if I would do him again. The party was breaking up so we didn't have time. Why didn't I ask him for his number? Damn, he had a nice cock, too.
