Maturbationproblem :(

About the first thing you said: that i may be using my hand in the wrong way, maybe.. i cant tell what the proper way is. How i usually try it ( now im trying to explain as good as possible), i grab my shaft pretty soft at the beginning. Start moving just the foreskin over the tip, till it gets harder. Then my grip starts to tighten (around the shaft). And i just move up and down around the shaft up to the glans. And i've only used mild soap+ water indeed, just didnt find the word i was looking for ^^. At this point im trying what you said early-on, but then slightly different. I just took the teddy and tried to come... which obviously worked because it was the fucking teddy x). But i laid it down like at the first instance when i felt... now im going to come. So im just trying to build this down to the minimum time with teddy and see how i continue from that point.

About the other point you made about my girlfriend. Yes she has and yes we talk about it. But she left 2 days ago for Norway camp for like 2-3 weeks, so maybe i could surprise her afterwards.

About the other statement. I can last pretty long if i just keep going. This morning i tried some ways for 30 minutes, after that didnt work i grabbed the teddy for about 5-10min. So 40min is easily manageble, so i don't really think thats the problem. And yes i Always figured that you cannot be distracted (this is also so with the teddy). Like with my eyes closed thinking about some scene or whatever is the way to role.

Maybe you got anything about the hands you could say? Since the teddy is basically touching the shaft aswell as rubbing over the ballarea, while im laying on it. So theres a slight pressure on the whole area. Maybe theres a way to need less stimulation to archieve the same state?

ps. the echo they wanted to take showed that everything was fine, blood was all fine etc. and about the long posts, so do i x)

 

Perhaps you'll prefer sex to handjobs. Nothing wrong with that.

 

Hmmm... I have one idea you might want to try. Instead of trying manual stimulation then finishing it with your teddy, try starting with the teddy and finishing with your hand. You can do this by humping the teddy until you almost reach the point of no return, then you switch your method to manually stroking your penis. If it works, you'll ejaculate while your hand is stroking your erection, not your teddy. From there on, I think you could experiment and vary things, the duration of your teddy humping, and whatnot.

About the soap... One of the potential risks that come with masturbating this way is the skin of your shaft getting rubbed raw. And this is despite using the soap as lube. A little over a year ago, I used head-to-toe baby shampoo(I know I said "shampoo", but this stuff is SUPER mild, and is intended for washing all over the BABY's body) while masturbating in the shower. What I overlooked was the fact that, because I was in the shower, water could dilute the soap and decrease the lubricating effect. The soap itself is very gentle and I love the stuff, but the skin of my penis still got raw afterward due to friction that couldn't be eliminated since water made it less slippery. I guess you could dodge this problem by using more amount of soap, but then I feel like it's kind of a waste of perfectly good soap, lol.

Good to hear the results of the echo test were fine.

 

Maybe you have developed a fetish for that teddy bear. People become sexually attached to all kinds of stuff. I once made a YouTube video about smoking--turns out that there's a smoking fetish crowd on YouTube.

 

If this can be true, then won't i have problems coming just by having sex with my girlfriend ( not talking about the handjobs or whatever)

 

Just to update the status of this. I've been talking to my girlfriend about this forum haha. She said she couldn't help right now, but she did send me as many nudes as she could make within 30mins haha.
Though this only got me precumming like 3 times today. I also tried the teddy again this morning, though when i thought i was there, i grabbed it with my hand. I instantly felt it like 'fading back into the sack" haha i have no idea why. Only like on the last splitsecond before its outside, i can use my hand.

Any thoughts on that?

 

You have a great girlfriend .

 

Maybe you are just bad at giving handjobs

 

lol this was awkward, my 13 years old cousin was at our house all day. Shes a nice girl, though shes quite wanting fysical attention. So she sat on my lap for 3hours, moving around sometimes in the right angle. This made me precum tho xD, kinda weird. Same happend to me masturbating for the past weeks, is it weird that i can only precum?

 

I wouldn't necessarily say it's weird that you produce pre-cum when you have someone on your lap. Seems like a natural reaction to me. Now, same can be said about lubricating in this fashion during masturbation too, since you're continuously applying stimulation to your penis during the act.....however, this brings us back to your initial concern about not actually being able to get to the next stage which is orgasm. I guess you could keep doing that switching method I suggested before for a while, and gradually increase the duration of time where you finish off with your hand. Just be patient, because this kind of thing can take some time before you can feel the results. At any rate, sounds like you have a very supportive girlfriend. Her pics should get you all worked up, so that part wouldn't be a problem I don't think. Above all, be sure to enjoy masturbating.

 

Dude, it's pretty messed-up to be doing this to a 13-year old. I don't care who she is. If I could get your real name, I'd turn your ass into the authorities.

 

*facepalm*

Holy jumping to conclusions! He said it was his COUSIN, and he said it was SHE who wants attention. Now all of the sudden, it's messed up to have your family member on your lap? I mean, wow.

The OP's producing pre-cum is merely a physical response to having someone on his lap. No one has full control over such physical reaction. It can happen, and it DOES happen. Just because she's his cousin doesn't mean it's automatically wrong to become physically aroused when she sits on his lap. Besides, it was SHE who sat on him and was moving about on his lap to consciously, or unconsciously, or perhaps subconsciously, cause and sustain his arousal. He hasn't done anything, and you're all worked up as if she was your own cousin who got raped. Seriously, calm the fuck down. smh

 

How about shes my cousin, i've known all my life. Aswell how about i obviously had my pants on, so did she cause we were watching tv? I dont get it how sitting on someones lap is even close to "doing something to a 13yo".

 

It's still messed-up. You mean to tell me that every father who has a good-looking daughter is OK to get a woody or have pre-cum when she is sitting on his lap? It's you're relative. If you're having that reaction, it's because you're thinking thoughts you shouldn't be. I done with this topic. Wow.

 

In many cultures, I hesitate to say most but that is probably the correct adjective, marriage to cousins is expected. I had an Indian co-worker and he was telling me about his arranged marriage and that his grandmother and his wife's grandmother were sisters. I am guessing that these marriages involve something more than just woodies and pre-cum. I had to pause a second and think. That would be second cousins. In fact, most of human history has probably involved us mating with relatively close relatives. There is an innate aversion to mating with close relatives, but that aversion is directly proportionate to the closeness of the relationship. It drops of pretty quickly; I would say probably exponentially but that is just a guess on my party. There is also a direct relationship between familiarity and attractedness. You are probably going to be familiar with your relatives. Hence, there will be an intersection between these two functions and above that intersection, the attraction will be greater than aversion. You gotta get your evolutionary psychology straight.

 

Any father who has ANY kind of daughter, good-looking or not, should NOT be afraid of having an erection, or of producing pre-cum, when she sitting on his lap. Erections and pre-cum are natural bodily reactions, somewhat akin to farting if you will. But this is NOT even about these reactions occurring between fathers and daughters. The OP's was talking about his COUSIN. That's number one.

Number two, you're making assumptions that, if you get aroused upon having your family member on your lap, then, and in your own words, "it's because you're thinking thoughts you shouldn't be." Really? How absolutist of you. So, by that logic, one who gets an erection upon experiencing water splashing on one's penis in the shower must be thinking erotic thoughts about the shower, or water!

Number three, what you're saying also reminds me of the thought crime concept. Your own mind is one realm in which you can do as you please without harming others. Fantasies are fantasies. It really isn't anyone's business to butt in and make an issue of someone else's fantasy. One should NOT make an assumption that, just because someone is having a potentially illegal fantasy, they will go out and act it out. Hell, I have illegal thoughts, I think most people do, and if they deny that, then I think they are being hypocritical.

Number four, the OP hasn't even said anything about "thinking thoughts he shouldn't be" in the first place. You're the one who butted in and somehow created and filled in the gaps with your twisted imagination. If anyone's really perverted around here, I think it's YOU who automatically assumes something bad is taking place even upon hearing something rather trivial.

I think it's for the best. You don't sound like you have the backbone required to argue your point. And for the record, no, it's NOT as messed up as you think it "still is". This was an involuntary thing at least on his part. And you want to give him hell for it? People like you are the reason why innocent people are convicted of rape even when there are evidences that can reverse that verdict. People like you simply ASSUME one thing, and stick to it, and say "I done with this topic." Case closed, innocents thrown in jail. smh


Sorry OP, back to the original topic, lol. xD

 

Putting ages aside, isn't it curious how it seems to be accepted that siblings will often grow up together & experiment with each other, where that is outright incestuous, yet having a natural bodily reaction to a cousin is viewed as totally unacceptable, yet sex & even marriage to a cousin is perfectly legal.