Masturbation, Sex and the Over 50's

Hello
I am a straight male aged 75, married and living in the EU. I am robustly sexually active both with my partner and masturbation. I decided to join HF after visiting it over several months having noticed that there have been threads of sex and masturbation and older men (and women) but not a lot of follow up discussion so I thought I would post on this and related topics such as sex and getting older, attitudes towards our generation, masturbation and gender, masturbation and shame as well as wider sexual and health topics. I hope you will feel like responding and building a helpful discussion. To get things started here are my opening thoughts on sex and masturbation. I will post a more detailed profile soon so that everyone knows where my posts are coming from -

Masturbation and Sex with a Partner are just two alternative forms of sexual engagement and gratification; both, (contrary to persistent condemnation) normal, commonplace, and healthy irrespective of gender, sexual orientation and age. Neither should become routine or follow a single groove. Despite what some cultures and religions claim, masturbation has numerous health and well-being benefits, and is universal . Recognised benefits of masturbation include masturbation include reduced sexual tension, reduced stress levels, aids and improves sleep, can improve self-esteem and body image, is therapeutic for sexual problems, reduces menstrual cramps in women, lowers the incidence of prostate problems in men, strengthens pelvic muscle tone and helps prevent incontinence and is essential in understanding your own sexual needs and what pleases you. All that and more and, of course, it is incredibly enjoyable, free and carries no associated risks such as unwanted pregnancy, STD's and HIV! One UK study (among many world wide found that 95% of males and 89% of females reported that they have masturbated and, given the persistence of anti-masturbation attitudes, these figures are likely to be an underestimation. as one US joke goes - "90% of men masturbate and the other 10% are lying!" In partner sex sometimes you want to take things slowly and othertimes you just want a quickie. Sometimes you want lovemaking to be romantic and sometimes you just want to fuck. Sometimes gentle and sometimes rough. You may want lots of foreplay or you may just want to get on and screw. How you engage, what you do and say, what position you choose will vary with circumstance and mood. So it is with making love to and with yourself. Solo sex may be a long slow process or a quick wank. I may involve foreplay with yourself or just need to reach a quick orgasm. You may touch yourself gently or handle your genitalia like meat. You may use sex aids or not, assume different positions, masturbate naked or clothed. Masturbate with porn, watch yourself wanking or get lost in fantasy or fetish. The possibility for variety is immense and should be embraced. Masturbation can be an alternative to partner sex but in a relationship the two do not compete. Sometimes you will only want orgasm with your partner and just as often prefer to do it yourself. Masturbating does not mean you reject your partner (if you have one) and often sex with your lover will involve masturbation both mutual where your masturbate your partner and/or masturbating yourself while your partner watches or masturbates. The governing factors are that sex alone like sex with another should be enjoyable, uplifting, and (assuming it does not involve anything illegal or socially unacceptable) guilt free. Here's to the magic and power of sex and masturbation!

 

About Me and this Thread
As I'm new to the site and have started by opening a new thread I thought it right that I let everyone know a little about me and what I hope the posts and replies will achieve'

I am a 75 year old male originally from the south of England born in 1949 now living peripatetically in Europe. I am a white, middle class professional educated to post grad level and happily married to a woman I love and desire feverishly. I am straight sexually but have no prejudices about sexual orientation. Contrary to prevailing attitudes which are often voiced here, I do not believe that passing 50+ means that you become stereotypically 'senior' especially when it comes to enjoying every aspect of a sexually active life. We enjoy a vigorous monogamous sexual life, which is varied and highly orgasmic contrary to popular misconception. Whilst age has inevitable impacts and challenges (which i intend to visit on HF), my own sexual appetite has not diminished and I make love with my partner several times a week (on average) and masturbate regularly. I have found that my appetite for sex in both respects, though not as hormonally charged as it was before my 30's/40's, has actually increased in the last ten years and every few months I go through a phase of a few weeks in which I am hypersexual and think about sex constantly, am easily and repeatedly aroused and masturbate furiously, another topic I would like to investigate with your help.

The topics I want to raise include what we have all learned about and from masturbation, our attitudes toward it, the impact (positive and negative) on sexuality and sexual activity resulting from advancing years, shared advice and information, ways to maintain an active and imaginative sexual and masturbatory life, pornography, sexual fantasy and fetishism, the impact of our generation and background, masturbation and guilt, and much more...

 

Welcome!!

 

Hi dear friend, send me PM if you like to chat about fantasies and masturbation.

 

Masturbation is a major part of a person's overall sex life.
For me, it has changed over the years.
As a teen-20s - it was all about getting off. Pull down the pants and furiously go till I came.
30s-40s - Here came internet porn. Fap-Fap
50s - porn is boring. Started to get into being watched on cam, now almost always nude and it is a whole body thing. Not just the dick.

My wife also "assist" once or twice a week - that is always awesome

 

It feels like I might have written these two posts. Wife and I are exactly the same way, except that lately we have a lady fwb.
This lady friend was a non sexual friend of mine for years and my wife took a strong liking to her and now we are three on a regular basis.
This morning I woke up lying between these two naked ladies and they were both laying on their backs. I started stoking their inner thighs to see which one would respond to my touch and to my delight they both did. I sat up and started rubbing their clits and fingering their holes and they both layed there and enjoyed it. This was a first for me and my cock was hard and leaking precum like crazy but I couldn't stop fingering the ladies to jerk myself.
Soon they started finger themselves as I rubbed them and helped bring them to climax. Then they watched me stroke myself and cum on their chests.
This was the absolute best mutual masturbation session that I have ever taken part in. And it all seemed to come about so naturally.

 

Nice thread, Peter. Although some of us may slow down as we get older, clearly for many things ramp up a bit. A common theme that I’ve noticed — in large part because it describes me — is that age may diminish the “hormonally charged” libido (as Peter accurately put it) but that the mind can show its tremendous power by taking up much of the slack. I have more time for masturbation than ever, and my intellectual interest in sex and masturbation and erotica means that I want it more than ever.