Masturbation secret...

I wonder how many people are very secretive about their masturbation because of shame or guilt? Do you feel relaxed discussing it with your partner or friends?

 

My wife knows and is ok with me getting myself off. I have a male friend too that i get off together with.

 

As man masturbates and our wife's masturbate, together we masturbate but when we masturbate its a secret just the same as wife's, self masturbation is something we both enjoy because we know the way we like it and we know how to keep it going so it lasts, just the same as our women can keep it going its called edging and both sex's love it.

 

Nothing to be ashamed of and it's natural. I have produce content for others to watch and I feel no shame in it.

 

It isn't a matter of shame or guilt, but rather a common bodily function that others don't want to hear about. I don't bring up the subject of masturbation for the same reason I don't discuss evacuation of my bowel or bladder. Nobody but me would really be interested in the details.

It comes up from time to time in conversation, but not all that often. I think that's because there isn't much variation from person to person in technique, and people tend to talk about what's unusual. What goes on in the mind varies greatly from person to person. What happens with the hands doesn't vary all that much among men, nor among women.

When my son reached puberty, I had a talk with him to let him know it was normal to engage in self pleasure, but that he should do it in private, and clean up afterward.

 

I and my wife rarely admit to it to each other, though we are getting a lot more open about everything nowadays. Shame cos I'd love for it to be common and to join in or watch together. Think it's just embarrassment.

Never talked about it or shared with friends though - nothing beyond a dumb laddish joke. Again, sad that I didn't manage to get closer friendships where it could be more open really!

 

My spouse knows I masturbate and encourages it. She doesn't want to be a part of it so I masturbate privately when solo. There is no shame or guilt involved. Never has been. I have very few male friends that are close enough to where we discuss our sex lives in detail. Masturbation details are something we don't share.

 

Yup - I'd kind of like to have that sort of relationship with male friends to be open enough to discuss, but nah never happened and never going to once you're past a certain point of friendship!

 

Its when your past that point things should be OK to talk more openly.

 

I know that seems to make sense, but strangely it's too awkward to change how we talk now! Like it's been set this way for many years. Well we'll see!

 

Remember guys are more open when we talk, women are the same when its women to women.

 

I dunno, in my experience at least, guy talk is jokey or not intimate anyway. Decidedly not open. But it's cool if that's not the case for you, probably better tbh!

 

I masturbate pretty much daily. I don’t report to my wife every time I do it, but she knows I do it (maybe not how often). She has some medical issues that cause her to not be in the mood as often as me, sometimes it’s better than others; but she has no problem with me getting off when the mood strikes me.

 

Do you and your male friend get off together in person? Just curious. I’ve never done that, but have met a few guys online that I’ve exchanged emails with, sending each other pics of women we jerk to and sharing fantasies and whatnot. Kind of a jerk off pen pal. lol

 

I've recently started masturbating regularly after rarely doing it in order to try the taoist multiple orgasm technique, that is to orgasm without ejaculating. I'll sometimes give my wife an update to say how it went. In terms of shame/guilt not now, although I am disappointed if I actually ejaculate. I did have shame as a teenager but that has long since past.

 

So many great answers Thanks guys and gals. I’m trying to leave guilt and shame behind me and enjoy myself more. Sometimes I think it would be nice to freely discuss masturbation with a buddy in real life as we are here.

 

I know what you mean, discussing with my old friends would be totally off the scale impossible, but it would be nice to be that open with a decent mate!

 

Send me a message if you ever want to chat more about it. I don’t particularly feel comfortable discussing it with my male friends, but will talk about anything with people online.

 

At 82 years of age I have NIL memory of ever feeling ashamed or guilty about masturbating.

Even after about 8000 specifically masturbation events, I still have no trouble talking about my masturbations to a couple of close mates as we compare notes on our favourite hobby.

I now live alone and porn and masturbating keeps me sane!

 

You give me hope that I will be still sexually active in 15 years. Good for you and keep it up (pun intended).