One of the freedoms we shared was masturbating while the other watched and learned. I loved to watch my wife use a dildo/vibe and get herself off. She would watch me jerk off , but she thought it was boring, until the explosion of cum. She didn't get bored when I started to use toys on myself. I thought it was a great idea on how to learn what the other likes and gets off on. Did you have any restrictions on what you or your partner did?
Usually not always my wife is right beside me helping out. She sucks on my nipples while a stroke my penis. She also applies the lube and she is always very generous with the lube.