Masturbating in bed next to my wife

I wouldn't be offended, but I know he masturbates. I do know a lot of women who would be upset, although I don't really get what the problem is.

I do agree you should talk to your spouse. Ask if it would upset her. Sex between a Husband and wife is important and I hope you both find more time for each other. I know it's difficult when they are young, but I hope she sees the importance. If she is upset about you masturbating, hopefully she'll see sex needs to be a little more frequent.

I wish you the best

 

my wife is a heavy sleeper so i used to put my hand in her panties and feel her bush as i jacked off.

 

My wife has seen me masturbating but when she does, she goes to another part of the house. She doesn't have a problem with me doing it but doesn't want to watch it.

She won't discuss this with me or want to talk in general about this subject. However, she will only masturbate herself when I will be there to perform oral on her and caress her through it! I don't mind this as I love oral and I don't get to see her pussy enough anyway. I love watching her body's contorsions when she cums!!!

I have got her to do oral on me to get ready but her oral is only mechanical with no feelings or interest in it and I feel this and am unable to cum. She will get tired of doing oral then leave me alone to finish. I've tried to discuss the oral issue but she flatly has said that she is not interested in doing it and refuses to try to learn what would turn me on by it!

I wouldn't dare to 'use' her body while sleeping by touching her and masturbating. I have masturbated while beside her in bed but no touching and with barely any noticing that she is even present. I use my fantasies instead.

 

Occasionally I wake up hard beside my wife and I masturbate without worrying about what she thinks. Just to get it out of the way. She doesnt care, she usually says something to me later in the day "Thanks for waking me up"!!

 

If I am helpless to have sex with with husband due to periods and he is hard, I usually myself masturbate him. It satisfies us both: him sexually and physically, me mentally.

 

My wife and I both do this regularly. We have both loved wanking since an early age (me 13 and her 9) and before we got together we both used to masturbate at least once a day (to be honest for me it was more likely to be twice or more). Then over the years I had a couple of female wank-buddies (at separate times) who I would get together with every couple of months to watch porn and masturbate together.

When my wife and I first got together, for some reason we didn't admit to each other that we were such avid wankers, although we did have a good sex life together. After a while I woke up in the middle of the night to find the bed shaking a bit, and her fingers gently working away at her wet pussy. I started wanking myself at the same time and we both had a great orgasm, and then we talked about it for hours, before both finishing off with another great wank, this time with the light on and watching each other. That was so hot!

Now we have a very open relationship as far as masturbation. We both do it regularly, mainly in bed together when we don't feel like full-blown sex. Sometimes only one of us is interested (maybe the other one has had a hard or tiring day), so the one who is feeling horny will wank to orgasm while the other watches or just goes to sleep. Because we both love masturbation there is no guilt about it - it's absolutely fine with the other one that we both often feel like wanking and feeling free to get on with it is all part of our relationship.

My wife's favourite thing of all is to have me suck on her breasts while she masturbates with her fingers or occasionally her Hitachi. I love doing this so she just has to say something like "Darling, will you suck my breasts while I have a quick wank" and I am instantly erect. I suck her breasts until she has an orgasm, then she generally likes me to ejaculate onto her breasts while she rubs the cum in. We then both go straight to sleep with the bed and our room smelling deliciously of our mutual sex juices.

Nowadays I still wake up in the middle of the night from time to time to find that she has woken up in a horny mood and felt the need to take herself in hand, with the bed shaking gently, like the first time, and often I just lie there until she has come before I either just go back to sleep, or more often I take my cock in hand while she is frigging herself and I start wanking gently, coming hard shortly after she does. We then roll together for a hug and a kiss before falling back to sleep in a very satisfied relaxation.

 

millions do it - perfectly normal, actually

 

I'm getting hard just listening to you say that you love to hear a man moan. I even moaned a little sitting here. I plan to moan a lot more in a few minutes. I agree with most of the posters that there's all kinds of ways of dealing with availability mis-matches and libido mis-matches. I am intensely happy when my g/friend masturbates and she licks my nipples and fingers me a little when I do. We watch erotica together and sometimes I read erotica to her (DELTA OF VENUS - Anais Nin, being one favourite).

As the Irish say - more power to your elbow man - even though they're talking about a pint (a real 20oz pint) of Guinness XX, with a head so rich you have to chainsaw it to get through to the black - aaaarrr

 

That's a pretty arousing post, man. You're going to have people wanking and jilling all over the world with that one. I'm going to have to change my bikinis in a minute

 

I think it's HOT!
I also think if a guy "Asked" me if he could fondle me while I'm sleeping so he could masterbate would be extra HOT! OMG what a fucking turn on that would be! The problem is, I would wake up and watch and then I'd jump on! Lol

 

I would not be offended. Especially if i knew i was turning him on. Talk to your wife. Tell her how your feeling and together come up with a solution. If both parties are willing to give a little it would work out

 

For many years I didn't know my wife knew I masturbated. Surprisingly, I did it more after we were married then before we were married. She worked full time and did the bulk of child care. I worked 12 hour days almost every day and being a night person I needed four to five hours of sleep. Needless to say, our timing was off. To help take the edge off I would masturbate in the bathroom almost every night when I got home from work. That is when she heard me orgasm and realized I was masturbating. Eventually, once a day was not enough, I would also masturbate late at night when she was sleeping. After a few years of masturbating in the family room late at night while watching adult movies, unknown to me at the time, she come to see where I was and what I was doing. She was not happy. She thought I was addicted to porn and masturbation even though I had plenty for her. This went on for many years. She eventually let her presence know to me while I was masturbating late at night. Many times she let me know she was not happy about, what she thought was, my obsession. Recently, she told me when she discovered I was masturbating in the bathroom and when she saw me in the family room. I was surprised that she knew and didn't tell me about the bathroom and that she watched me in the family room. She continued with the amount of paper towels next to me and asked me a lot of questions about why, how and when I masturbated. Her last question was if there was any time I masturbated that she did not mention. I did not want to lie and I told her about masturbating in bed next to her while she was sleeping. I said, I would put my hand left hand on her and very slowly masturbate. Surprisingly, she was okay with that. She said, I was with her and not watching other women on TV. I still masturbate next to her in bed. Now, when she sees the towel on the floor she smiles.
All I can say is, I wish I knew she preferred I masturbated next to her instead of alone while watching movies.

 

Ugh, this is so hot! There's something so exciting about having to stay really quiet while masturbating. One of my fantasies that I've been willing to play out, is for my husband to lightly tease me while I'm asleep, and see if I wake up or not. So far, he always wakes me up. :blush5: This is soooo hot. I highly recommend doing this. lol He usually does it on the weekends, when we don't have to be up early the next day.

 

Yes. Not uncommon for me to wake up during the night for various reasons and have problems going back to sleep. My wife normally sleeps either nude or just her panties. As I lay there I can't resist putting my hands on her and feeling her bare put or the silky feelings her panties and the next thing I know...I'm stroking myself. Just when I'm ready to release I just cuddle close and let the pulsing take over and oozing between us. She has awoke on occasion and sometimes not. But she always assures me either then or the morning that it is OK.

 

I’ve done it a few times. It’s hard not waking her up when the bed is shaking. She woke up once as I was doing it. She nudge me and said stop it! You’re shaking the bed! Then she fell back asleep.

Another time I was touching her as I was laying in bed masturbating. She woke up a bit, I was hoping she would have helped me finish, no such luck.

We have an agreement that, if one of us is passed out from exhaustion or drinking, we can take advantage of one another. Of course it would be things we’ve done consensual before.

 

Sounds like my wife and i, but she puts up with the bed shaking as she knows I need the release. If i am wanking next to her its usually such a turn on on I'm pretty fast

 

Nothing to feel bad about masturbating on bed by the side of your wife. I have done it several times. I actually enjoy caressing her sexual organs and masturbating.

 

Our sex life crumbled when my wife hit menopause, I understood but needed release, so we talked about it & she said "just jerkoff on me". So I did every night for years.
I sleep in a separate bedroom now & when she feels horny she pops in for an orgasm .

 

My ex and I use to do this together to switch things up. Just touch each other with one hand and ourselves with the other. And I know that I had masturbated while touching her while she slept and she had woken up and wanted me to keep going.

 

I haven't read any of this sooooo yeah if I'm in bed masturbating next to my wife I'm probably going to have sex with her.