Masturbating in bed next to my wife

I wouldn't be offended at all. I'd be flattered.

I hope in time she can work less.

 

Yeh my husband does this if he knows I'm really tired, I can sometimes fell his hands on me and moan gentle that probably turns him on more. Also I have done the same thing to him and I put his hands on me hoping he will wake up. It does work and its very stimulating. Talk to her make sure she's not offended she may wake up and help out one day

 

I'd continue doing what you're doing, but finish in bed next to her. Nothing wrong with that. Who knows, maybe every once in a while, she'll finish you off instead.

 

Hey Man, My wife and i masturbate often either together or alone. Quite often i wake and and just go hard wanking beside her, and often she does the same. While im wanking she rubs my arsehole or my nipples (not every time) but i feel so excited wanking beside her. I love it.

 

I do this quite often. The marriage is sexless and so this is one mode of release. She's aware but never acknowledges it happens. The noise of my hand on my slippery cock can' t be missed and I deliberately ejaculate right there. I may clean up or just leave it with the aroma. So, I guess I'd say my wife isn't offended since she never says anything when I'm positive she's awake and listening.

 

Just wondering as its not talked about she may be not comfortable with it?

 

the center of the issue is getting away with it. That's what creates the arousal tension. Another truth is, you really don't want to know what your wife thinks or anyone else, well let me expand- in your state of mind right now, yes, you are curious but, lying next to your spouse, horny, tomorrow night, you will be in a different state of mind and getting away with it is part of the juice. Getting an answer or permission changes the dynamic. if your wife knew and approved or disapproved, that would change the dynamic...leave it alone. You really don't want to know if you're normal or not, neither does anyone else... that's peripheral pacification.

 

If the OP talked to his wife about this, she wouldn't get creeped out if she woke up unexpectedly. She might not like it, but at least it wouldn't surprise her.

Also, if the OP feels guilty about masturbating to stranger porn, his wife might let him take some pictures of her to help him out. (Masks or framing could keep her identity secure, just in case).

I'm guessing that the wife isn't disinterested in sex, she's just tired. When talking to his wife, the OP needs to be careful not to blame her or make her feel guilty about being tired.

 

OP, I don't consider that sick or bad in any way. And I've been in the same place myself. Typically if I'm going to masturbate I'll do it before I come to bed, but then again she goes to bed earlier than I do so I have that option, maybe you don't. So yeah on the times when i do wake up say in the middle of the night hornier than hell I will slowly and without shaking the bed masturbate with one hand and gracefully put my other hand on her leg, hip or whatever.

However unlike you I'll typically try to bring myself to climax right there, but usually one of a few things happen. One I climax and all is well. I keep a tissue box on my side of the bed, so wipe, throw over the side, roll back to sleep and clean up in the morning. Two the ability to masturbate to the point of climax ends up shaking the bed till either, three she wakes up, drops her drawers and say "Make it quick" to which I stick it in her and cum as quick as I can. Or four she wakes up and is pissed and says "Go in the bathroom" or "I just want to sleep." Since it's kind of a 50/50 gig, half the time I want to wake her up just to see if she's willing, and the other half I'd just assume to climax on my own so I don't wake her.

These are the tough choices in life...

 

My boyfriend has done this before several times. Sometimes when he thought i was asleep he would beat off and occassionally grip my ass or reach for my boobs. Im usually a very heavy sleeper so i have slept through his groping before. Other times, i just like to pretend to be asleep while i listen to him moan, its incredibly sexy. Then i usually "pretend" to wake up and we end up having a quickie before going back to bed.

So i dont find it offensive. Id really rather that my partner got off on me than some whore on the computer with fake boobs. But thats just my opinion

 

I wouldn't be offended. I'd just be bummed that I couldn't watch. Like someone else said, each couple is unique though. Depending on her personality, she could be really pissed. You know her better than any of us do.

 

I don't think it's so bad... why not talk to her about things more though? I mean surely it's best to have a heart-to-heart about all this stuff, right?

 

My friend did tell me that he masturbates in bed next to his wife quietly. Sometimes, it ends up with her finding out what he is doing and it turns her on and they end up having sex with each other.

 

Here is my own point of view/experience. As long as the man is real about it I find it an absolute turn on to watch my man masturbate. However were I find it offensive is when he knows I've been so turned on and wanting to have sex and he doesn't. Then I wake up to find him masturbating... something is seriously wrong with that.

That's what I find offensive and friends of mine have agreed. It's not the fact they do it because I find it very arousing to watch my man do it however when it chooses that above actual sex with the love of his life well that's very offensive.

 

I don't understand not having sex when you have a willing partner.
I've masturbated next to her when she was sleeping and I knew she was to tired so I didn't bother to try to wake her.

 

Couldn't agree more

 

good luck with that:mickey:

 

That's different obviously because you know her well enough to make that call.

There were times I said I was tired and when I was fast asleep and a hour or more later I felt him pressing up behind me. It did turn me on and I would whisper to him, "it's OK." and he would penetrate me. There were those times where I was truly tired and well yeah he handled it himself.

The key... communication. Lots of it

 

Not so much now, but for many years I would 'do it' to myself on nights we didn't fuck (my sex drive is much stronger yhan hers), but I would always cum lying right there beside her.

 

You lot are driving me wild with this thread!!
I'm literally dripping wet.
I would love to wake up and catch my bf wanking off, especially if he was moaning... I love to hear a man moan, I can orgasm just hearing how much pleasure a man is giving his self....
Oh to wake up to a hand on my boob or bum aswel would be such a turn on, to know that he was so horny and I was helping in that...
I've often pleasured myself while my bf sleeps next to me and OMG! The orgasm is INTENSE! Like nothing I've ever felt before, the first time I did it I came 4 times, each time was out of this world.. I rub my clit really really slowly so as not to wake him, it adds to the anticipation no end. I have to hold my breath so I don't make a noise, and then breath out into the pillow every now and then, a little moan sometimes escapes.
By the time I'm done I am so wet, and I have to go to the bathroom to clean up. A few times I've finished off in the bathroom (or started again) so I can pick up the pace and make a bit of noise...