No it is not. The dirty dishes are in plain sight, that they need to be washed now (rather than immediatly before they are used) is not in plain sight. The hair in the shower drain doesn't need to be taken away as long as the water still flows. On the other hand, once you have explained it to him, "unnessesary" cleaning is a cheap easy way for him to make his wife happy. Men and women have different definitions of "clean." Try phrasing it, "I would like...." rather than "You never...."