Probably no chicks reading here. Shame, I'm not even sure what the attraction is. I'm thinking it's just a turn on to try or get turned on because it's sex. Either way I'm hoping to find a nice cock to suck to see if I'm any good at sucking cock or I get off on it. Hoping some guy with a hot cock lies to reciprocate the act.
Married guy here; met another married guy in the same situation - we can't get together as much as either of us like with schedules but I do enjoy sucking him off and he's quick to return the favor
Old Mike who serviced me at times, (and taught me to enjoy cocks) used to just mention in a bi chat group, that he sucked men off, particularly married guys not getting it. He had a lot of men take him up on it and he'd suck them dry. Somehow they heard by word of mouth as many weren't on the chat group. Mostly they were straight and used him as a public sperm dump, while all the while being sort of in denial.
This question was posted several months ago but I'm dying to share this, so I am going to answer the question. I posted an ad on Double List - which is similar to the old Craigslist personals - I wrote specifically what I was offering and stated my target audience; Married men who are sexually frustrated. I received a lot of replies - to my surprise - and a lot of them went unresponsive after their first inquiry. However, I did manage to connect with 4 men who were interested in what I was offering. I'm pretty happy about it. I've had good experiences with each of these men - each unique and different in their reaction and their interactions with me.
I think if it's a regular thing then you are in denial. Haven't done it but try it , OK you let a guy suck you off once. I get it. An itch to scratch or an urge to get a load away in a warm wet spot. An opportunistic Blow Job, who doesn't like a blowjob so long as you can accept it's a guy sucking your cock. I wonder how many look for regular blow jobs from men after the first one. I wonder how many men are put of by guilt or find they are ashamed of being with a guy and never let it happen again. I wonder how many will opportunistically take it again if opportunity presents. Some of the regular cocksuckers here might know what they have seen from their experiences with straight guys. I think if you continue to seek it you are in part considered bisexual. Labels aside youdo it once to try or or a kink factor, Taboo or curiosity. If you repeat the behaviour or seek out guys to suck you off it's in some way you are wanting to participate in male on male sex. Partly Bi, I don't know but if you continue to it's about the men not just sexual frustration. Who cares in the end , yes live in denial because you don't want to be Gay, or even out to O your friends that you like blowjobs from men. But it's is not exclusively straight behaviour.
Yes I kept going back and participating because this was the only enthusiastic encounter I'd had in so long. I don't do categories. I also wasn't stopping the opportunistic horny encounters because someone thought of a word to categorize it by. Many were just users and that wasn't me. For 11 years I've tried to fix she and I. Still trying. Running out of options.
Here's what I can tell you based on my personal experiences with other married guys. 1) They are sexually frustrated with their wives and a mouth feels better than their hand. 2) A blow job from another guy doesn't equate to "cheating" in their minds. During my Craigs List days I hooked up with approximately 80 married guys in my area searching for cock suckers or other married men wanting to mutually suck cock. About 50 of them were once and done. 20 of them were regulars for mutual sucking for 5-7 months as the remaining 10 would contact me just for a needed blow job 1-2 times a week because their wives stopped sucking their cock or did not suck their cocks as I did. I never once questioned them, or even categorized them for their actions. I was in the very same boat as they were. In a sexually frustrating marriage and hooking up with other like-minded married guys for oral sex was our chosen path that provided what it was we needed with no emotional attachments, just sexual satisfaction. I can't recall a single conversation with any of them about being str8, gay, or bisexual. We were all cock suckers married to women who neglected our sexual needs.
All of the married guys I've sucked off were in this boat. No sex at home and just wanted some relief.
No judgement for any guy in this situation. He has to deal with his own emotions, his guilt or his lack of guilt. When I was a member of SBG forum, there was one person who often judged the actions of married men - confronting us that we are cheaters, liars, etc. I think any man who drifts from his marriage bed and, out of sheer frustration finds himself in his spot, does not need to be condemned, labeled as bi or closeted gay, or any other matter. There is the weight of the world on our shoulders as we try to do the best we can. I, like @LowHangers, never questions or asks, or categorizes any man who comes to me for relief. Each man is different. I know by their behavior where they fall on the scale. It is not up to me to call them on it - it is up to them, in their own personal journey, to figure out who they are. Yes, I am curious to know them better and understand them better, and be a friend, or at the least, a comfort for a short time in their day... but all of this is up to the man himself.
There's some part of me that I am not necessarily proud to admit - but there is some sense of satisfaction for me when I am kneeling between his legs, and taking his cock into my mouth - when I see his hand resting there - and I see his wedding ring... maybe it comes from my own frustration with my wife, who was not willing to suck me to completion - and didn't really want to do this oral sex thing in the first place... I had a new guest stop for a visit this morning. We've been trying for a couple weeks to coordinate this. 48 years old, married. Veteran- served in both the Army, the reserves, and the Navy. He was quite talkative. Told me about his son, just graduating from his classes in the Army as well. Told me about his marriage and his wife's total disinterest in him - turned out he wanted to 69 with me so we got naked. Once again, though - like I think I've shared before about another first timer who visited me - within just a couple minutes he said he felt like he might cum already - and wanted to warn me. Then, we laid on the bed and he talked. He didn't seem to mind me touching him, while he talked - but he did not want to kiss me. And I am never aggressive that way with someone I don't know. I would not have minded if he had kissed me - but it is a boundary for some guys. I am fascinated by these times I share with total strangers - and I think, to some degree, depending on their level of involvement in our meetings - this is something like therapy for them. It is release for them. Men are built so differently than women in that we continue to need to empty the contents of our balls. It does something to us in a number of ways - not just physically - when we cannot get that kind of release - and it is a destroyer when our wives do not seem to understand that.
My first visitor of the new year is stopping over this afternoon... it's been a long holiday break with my usual buddies too busy or distracted. Looking forward to his visit.