Married men : how often do you want sex

For married men.... What is your
the ideal amount of sex weekly?

We are in our early 40s, married 18 years and often 1-2x week, but occasionally one of us hits a high libido and we go at it 1-2x day. Loving this right now but wanting to find a good balance. Husbands can you keep up with 1x day after being in a 2x/week routine?

 

I’m 53, my wife is 55. We have been married over 30 years. We have sex once a week I could go for twice, but I’m happy with once. I still have the desire, but I don’t have the drive like I did when I was in my 20s.

 

Likewise. 66 here, wife 61. We are good with twice a week and sometimes 3 in various forms. It really is all about honest and open communications and not taking each other for granted.

 

I'm 58, wife is 53. I'd like it daily, unfortunately a few times a month is enough for her. Big cause of stress in our marriage right now.

 

The first year of marriage, every night. That decreased to once a week for the next 30 years. Since then, it has been twice a month, and that is okay with me after 40 years of marriage.

 

I'm 63. Would love it several times during the week and multiples per day on the weekends.

 

After 33 years of marriage, I'd still go for 3 times per week in some fashion. Just add some variety!! Same exact thing every time gets old.

 

Every day. Sadly, lucky to get it once a year.

I need a friend with benefits!

 

Well, I will speak for my hubby, he gets a BJ most mornings & gives us girls anal most nights. On weekends its more.

 

Married or not I want sex nearly every day. Marriage has nothing to do with my desire to have sex. I think about sex every day, almost all day, and go to sleep dreaming of having sex. I doubt I could go more than twice a day for any length of time but I want sex more often than that. Whenever I see a woman I wonder what it would be like to have carnal knowledge of her even for a brief moment. As long as I can get an erection I want to put it to good use pleasing my desire for sex. I can't put a real number on my wanting sex because want and get are two different things. But if I could get it as often as I want that would be a lot of the time.

 

Sue - I'd love to have you talk to my wife about having no fear to just initiate sex. She's really timid. She's very excellent at the "mechanics" - she's just scared to say or do something to be "the starter."

Bravo for your morning oral love to your guy!! You and other girl(s?) are so hot & sexy! I'm sure you all have some REALLY sensuous times together.

 

I’d like everyday but we’re probably 4x a week with a few solo sessions in there for me.

 

For comparison, everyone please state your age and how long you’ve been married. Some have, some haven’t.

 

Early 50s, married 25 years

 

We are married for more than 20 years. Initially we had sex about 3 -4 times a week before the kids. Now at least once or twice a week. But the quality of sex has become better and better. We almost always climax at the same time. I love to try oral on my wife but she is reluctant now days. In our early years she allowed me to do oral on her.

 

Klimax2gether ^^^ - Ask her why she doesn't want oral from you. Ladies can sometimes feel self-conscious about taste, smell, etc. I assured & reassured my wife that I LOVE going down on her, and now she relaxes and enjoys herself when I'm camped out in her lady zone!!

 

For me at this moment sex is when I can its them dam blood thinners I'm on and I have about 11 days to go, and then I can get back on NOHARDS MIX its something you guys should try, its very good at cleaning out you vein's and gets it working right.

I have a lot of faith in herbs and spices there good for us.

 

Do the ladies just get tired of us husbands?? Are we NOT their "cup of tea" anymore??

So many people - guys and ladies - aren't getting enough sex. It's just the pits when any of us feel like a CHORE to our wives or husbands. It works both ways. Even before menopause hits - why does the interest fade away??

When I read of wives who become "hotwives" and begin dating other guys on the side - they often find their sex drives become very active again. Their husbands seem to enjoy the "re-lighting" of their wives' fires once they begin dating a guy or guys beside them. So is it just mental "boredom" with the husbands?? If it was biological - dating new guys wouldn't have any effect, right?? (Not 100% EVERY case - but generally speaking).

Are husbands just like an old pair of shoes …………. not new and "shiny" anymore - so the shoes get pushed to the back of the closet?? "New shoes" are shiny, exciting, fun to wear ……….. like a new guy & new romance. Do we become like the old pair of shoes to our wives??

 

What are you doing wrong then, women need to be kept happy or vice versa, look at the situation your both in and work from there to get it right.

 

Same here :-(