Married bi - seeking ways to meet bi FWB - without getting caught

I've been chatting to a local guy, who is also married, for a while now, but because he is local to where I live, it's difficult for us to meet without rousing suspicion.

Looking for ideas for how to meet, have fun, in a discrete way....

Hotels are an obvious one, but unless we travel a long way, hotels are not ideal......plus you have to pay with cash, which some hotels don't like.....

How have you solved this problem?

 

Have you physically met the person yet? If not, meet up for a beer and chat in person. Maybe have a good jo session in the car together as a test run. If all is still good, find a way to become couple friend with wifes. Then start making extraciricular plans together. Good luck bud

 

No haven't met him, but we've talked......for over a year now!

We both travel, but have never been able to get our schedules in sync to meet while away.

Car fun....maybe......it's not exactly us.

I nearly had him come to my home recently when the family was out of town, but backed out. It was just too high risk a move.

 

If I were you I'd meet in public 1st. Have a beer, lunch or dinner. Feel him out.

 

Where there's a will, there's a way...During my first marriage (28 years) I worked different shifts than her so inviting a friend over was easy and the other married guys I was mutually sucking with were in the same boat. Now in my second marriage I don't have to worry about it as she participates most times but also enjoys watching us suck each other off on the living room couch.

 

Lucky guy ! ! I envy you !

 

What I would be concerned about him coming over here is things like body hair left behind (different colour than mine) and neighbours asking her, who was the guy who called over last night.

 

Is your lady so suspicious of your activities with friends that she would have a fit about it? Is she that controlling and untrusting? Or did you give her a reason to be in the past? If she is, you may want to reconsider that relationship. Jealousy has no place in a relationship, especially if your just having a Bud over for a chat. I'm not saying it's ok to hide your motives, but sometimes you have to. As for the neighbors, it none of their flipping business who comes over to your place.

 

Good question. The answer is no. She's very trusting and we have an amazing relationship.

It's very rare we have friends over which is why something like this would/could rouse suspicion. Most of our friends live somewhere else, so it's usually just us and family in the house.

Neighbours....it would matter if they talked.....when things happen that are out of the norm....i'm just being super cautious.

 

do you even know how she feels about bi men?, could be that she is okay with it and perhaps even with you being with another man

 

Motel 6 takes cash

 

have him pick you up and drive around somewhere to play together. i know a bi married friend who picks me up and drives around to a deserted place and I suck his cock in his car

 

finding places to go without raising suspicions. like going out for some gas for your car at night so you dont have to in the morning perhaps. or maybe going to a park with him sometime during your day.

 

i had sex with another married guy in my garage. it is detached from the house and had one or two guys come out very late at night

 

I tried to do the same thing you are and had the same results. Someone suggested going to a glory hole but I cannot risk that, I am not sure about catching something. Another suggestion is if you can go to a park and walk thru and meet, you may have to go back to the car or find a bench to talk. It is a problem if one of you is not single and can host.

 

It is tough sometimes to arrange a place to play. Back when a few public parks were known as places to go I stopped by 2-3 times a week to venture into to the tree line for some great mutual oral sex with guys. Those places began to be patrolled by the police, so my play time had to be taking indoors so not to be caught. Working a different shift than my wife at the time provided a nice four-hour window in the mornings to suck all the cock I wanted.

 

Where I live there is a Korean Spa and a Russian bathhouse within 30 minutes or so of my place. The Korean spa is basically and undercover gay bathhouse and you could meet a partner there and have full on sex if you wanted to. The Russian place you would just hang out naked, maybe a little discreet touching.
I like the idea of going for a hike too but there are a lot of factors out in nature.
My ideal situation would be to have a male friend with a wife who had similar interests to my wife. Then they could go out shopping and to dinner and we could be exploring eachoother doing our own thing. But I think this would be a very rare situation!

 

i read about how one guy hooked up with another guy in his shed and he mentioned it was really erotic to be all around the tools and stuff.

 

To determine how to do this without getting caught, you first have to sit down with yourself and seriously think about how you could get caught and once you identify those things, um, don't do them. Some guys actually "out" themselves because they really change their routine or guys who don't have male friends "suddenly" have friends they want to see and hang out with and such things tends to make folks suspicious and in that "What is he up to?" kind of way that may or may not get them actually asking what you're up to that (a) your routine changed or who are the guys you've been hanging out with... and why are you hanging out with them? Some guys "out" themselves because they successfully sneak out and have that first experience - or the first one in a really, really long time - and it energizes them and can change them in ways that someone who's paying attention to him is going to want to know why he's so happy, upbeat, stuff like that or one poor guy I know went out and spent some time sucking cock and being sucked, went home and kissed his lady - and she recognized the scent of cock on his face and tasted it on his lips and, uh-oh - he had some explaining to do and from what I heard, it didn't go well for him.

You really have to think, "How can I fuck this up?" then figure out what it's going to take to not fuck it up. Like, this is the reason why so many guys can't host, or, in actuality, they won't host because if they have a woman/family, there's no telling when someone will come home unexpectedly and, yeah, they're worried about what their neighbors are going to say about some dude that they don't know standing at their front door... and then being nosier and asking about the strange guy and now questions are being asked that need answers and, let's face it: Some guys suck at lying which, sadly, is usually the only alternative because if a guy tells the truth - that he invited the guy over so they could suck each other off - well, isn't that just asking to have your head handed to you?

And when you're trying to figure out how you might be able to fuck this up, do your best to be realistic and don't start imagining things that have a low probability of actually happening and if you sit down to have this conversation with yourself and you're feeling paranoid, you might want to deal with that first because the truth is that you don't have a thing to be paranoid about other than thinking about how you can suck cock without getting busted or, gasp, caught in the act. You see, gentlemen, this is where you use your intelligence and do your best not let the emotional impacts - fear and paranoia - drive the bus you're trying to ride on.

I have told guys for a couple of decades now to think first - then act if you must... or if you can. Here's the part that y'all might not want to hear: If you decide to go through with this, you will also have to deal with the consequences of your actions should it come to that. There is no escaping or not taking and accepting responsibility for your own actions and there is nothing about doing this that is risk-free so, please, wrap your head around this very real fact of life and act accordingly.