Man's opinion on this

Well by tired or depressed I meant something along the lines of going on 48 hours awake, or best friend just went into a coma or something... But you got the idea.

 

its probably they either aren't attracted to you, they are scared they won't measure up, or maybe some slight anixety disorder. If its meaningless sex probably one of the latter two. Like for me personally if a girl flat out said let's have sex I wouldn't turn it down, unless she was a beast. But a couple times girls have really teased me or like tried to be sly and hint about sex and I get really uncomfortable. Like I dont get that loosen the tie, gulp thing I see in movies I get more of a claustophobic 'I want out' feeling.dunno hard to explain, guys and girls have all kinds of issues.

 

Thats where you are going wrong

The type of guy you throw yourself at probably already has a girlfriend, a couple reliable booty calls and gets a girl throwing themslves at them every second day, and even with that half the time he'd rather just save you up for the spank bank so tension is released in 5 mins and he doesnt have to deal.

Guys hit on girls and its usually out in the open for all to see cos its just as much about ego. Girls hit on Guys and its usually in secret, when no one else is watching, so they dont get labelled sluts.

What really spins me out is that even the girls that are aggressive and like that take decades to work this shit out

 

Most guys can get sex, so they can afford to be picky.

 

Girls need to know that guys are more like them than they think.

Guys need to know that girls are more like them than they think.

Guys don't want to be labeled as gay or lacking confidence, so we act like we think about sex all the time, and would fuck anything with a hole. We're horny, and we think about sex a lot, but not that much. We turn down offers now and then, too, whether they're direct offers, or just "that look," and it's pretty much for the same reasons women turn down men. Maybe you're not our type, maybe we're more interested in someone else, maybe there's just no attraction, and we can't even describe why. Maybe we just don't feel like it. Men go through hormonal cycles too. They just aren't as predictable or as obvious as women's. Ask on a different day, and you just might get a different response.

And of course, women don't want to be labeled as sluts, but they're just as horny as we are...maybe more. The "slut standard" isn't as harsh as it was when I was growing up, but it's still there. I've sat back and watched this with younger women, but middle-aged single women (my target audience ) now act the way that teen-aged boys did when I was one!

 

i shouldve told more info. he does find me attractive, hes single and hasnt got sex in over 4 months, hes the honest type, really dislike a lot of type of women---doesnt fall for the dumb broads if you catch my hint. so we talk like 2 pals. he says hes going thro a lot of shit so im giving him time but he did say call him for a hook up, last time we hung out

so its not like hes getting booty. he finds me attractive, hes single, we have good connection. I dont get why he wont give the go ahead. I dont really know how to confron him in a non-frustrating way and im not about to wait around for him. even though i kinda need him.

i seriously think he thinks he wont measure up to my pleasure

 

a lot of guys are not attracted to chicks who are full of themself

 

Not if the guy really just wants meaningless sex. No man trusts any woman to not try to turn it into more if it happens more then a few times.

 

Guys want a challenge. If it's too easy it can be a turn off.

 

Oh, right...

 

If you have had this depth of conversation with him, why not ask him???

If you're going to be in a booty call/fuck buddy relationship, you need to accept that sometimes he has other plans and isn't going to ditch them. Or just plain doesn't feel like it.

Ask him why he didn't want to.

 

Can you give me an example of "turning down?" I know women feel turned down, when they in many cases they haven't made it even remotely clear that they want to have sex.

I turn down a lot of "interaction" with women, even the ones giving me signals, on account that I think they might be cockteasing.

But, probably more likely, I'll turn down if I"m not attracted.

As for other men, lol. Yeah, they do that. I've seen it. It's called puritanism.

 

Get fucking used to it. Guys get turned down all the time.

Just having a pussy isn't a golden ticket to getting whatever you want out of a man. Maybe if you only deal with chumps, but yeah. Shit. I don't know why this thread annoys me so much. lol

 

That's not always true

I have turned down offers sometimes unintentionally and sometimes because I was just too shy. But there were times where if I felt if the woman just wanted sex I felt turned off by the idea because some are looking for something else other than a one on one.

Maybe these men want something more so they turn down the opportunity.

 

That's true. There could be many reasons. Everyone's differnent.....also what I said can go both ways. I've turned girls off in the same way. Just human nature it seems.

 

True, I've done the same

There really is no clear answer to this

 

Cherea, I get turned down sometimes but its when theyre not busy and say no cause they dont feel like it. and I dont ask much but when i do and they dont feel like it or wanna play video games instead, i feel im being taking advantage of and i drop them. i mean i Ask for sex may 3 times a week after they work or not busy

and again he doesnt want something more, he wants sex, but hes not being aggressive about it which might mean he might not be good in bed

out of the guys ive slept with here, one never did refuse me, was on that shit. i do miss him

and now i go back to dealing with guys that wanna play video games instead

oh and he tells me he has problems to deal with, but he goes out and parties every night and he cant have 10mins with me?

 

Maybe he doesn't think you're as hot as you do. Or just doesn't like you as a person.

I just think that's worth considering.

 

sam thats only you

 

The funny part is... I'd still hit it.