In Yogic philosophy, they teach you to let go of the results, not to be dependent on the results. A need to be appreciated can become a dependency that does you no good, unless you learn to keep it in check, only expecting good things from people who have earned your trust. Sometimes we try to change the world for the better by extending our good intentions and trust, blindly, to those who have yet to prove themselves to us. It's best not to have such good intentions, until people have shown themselves trustworthy. But for the most part, most people have not been proven, and so we need to exercise due caution, for our own sake, as well as the sake of others. We also need to help others to grow by expecting them to prove themselves, and not just giving them a free pass. Sometimes that free pass is just given because it's too difficult to shepherd people all the time. It's no easy task. I was at the car wash the other day, and this Mexican guy was drying my car, and I gave him the benefit of the doubt, not having actually been keeping an eye on him, and gave him a fiver for a tip. After getting in the car and driving away, I saw what he hadn't done, on the side of the car that was not in plain view. I thought,,,"never again",,,
i knew there was more that i wanted to add to my previous post, and that reminded me. if i don't trust someone entirely, i just keep an eye on them and make sure they don't have a chance to do anything shady. i know it's not quite the same, but i'll still use this as an example: i was a very dedicated pothead for about 5 years; i still kind of am but not nearly to the same extent... but during that time i managed to keep almost every lighter i bought until it ran out of fluid. this is because i generally did not offer up my lighter to the smoke circle unless there were no other lighters available, and if i did use mine, i never let it leave my vision, because i knew that as soon as it did it would go into someone else's pocket. i'm famous around here for catching lighter thieves in the act. i don't know, i guess you can still do nice things; just make sure you don't let your guard down when you do.
That is AMAZING. It's just irritating. SO irritating. Now I have to pay 10 bucks a fucking pot cookie so my dog doesn;t barf in the car. The ones I made were low-sugar and chocolate free, just for her, so now she has to get all that crap I don;t like her to have i there too. I just don;t understand how you can go through life not knowing how your action affect other people, or rather not caring. What kind of existance is that? I am done with nice things for awhile, unless it's for dogs or family members.
You know what gets me? Are the people who think I have too much who spend their money on crap from WalMart everyday they have money itn heir pocket. If I spent 50 bucks a day at WalMart, I'd be broke too.