So, as the title suggests, I made out with a girl who has a boyfriend. I did this a few times with the same girl. Without explaining background too much, I'll just say that we're in college at the same school, her boyfriend goes to a different school, and my roommate was gone on the weekends. So, I've grown pretty close to this girl, and she was always subtly flirting with me, and was overtly coming on to me at parties when she got buzzed. All this time I knew she had a boyfriend, so I just kept my distance (kind of). Until, one night, we were both pretty drunk, and we were left alone in my room after people had left. Soon we just started laying in my bed, cuddling, and we eventually started making out. Nothing more than that happened, just made out and fell asleep in eachother's arms, cuddling the rest of the night. Now, let me pause here and make a confession: I'm a virgin and have never had a serious girlfriend before. I've been told that I'm a pretty good looking guy, but I'm pretty shy and it just never happened. Now, on this night, before making out, she brought up the topic of past relationships. She asked who I had been with before. I was perhaps too drunk, and I made the stupid mistake of lying. I told her I had a girlfriend, and made up a little story. I think I regretted this lie right when I said it, but didn't know how to handle it. I quickly changed subjects, and put the focus on her love life, but held the lie in place. Anyway, I never said it outright, but the lie also implied that I was NOT a virgin. Moving on, we had a couple more nights of making out and sleeping in my bed. I never made the move to go further though. Part of this probably had to do with the fact that she does have a boyfriend, and so there was a small element of guilt on my part. And I wasn't sure how far she wanted to go in cheating. I didn't want to "force" anything on her, in that I didn't really want to be the instigator. I guess I felt that if she wanted to cheat, that's fine, but it's up to her and I don't want to encourage her to cheat. Anyway, this was the dilemma going on in my mind. There was probably another part of me saying completely different things. Looking back on things, I'm pretty sure that she DID want to have sex. Why else would she be sleeping with me in my small twin-sized bed? Our make-out sessions got very passionate at times, but then we would hit that point where we just stopped because I wasn't (or both of us weren't) sure if we wanted to make that next move. I don't have too much experience here, so I'm not even 100% sure what that "move" that signals that I want more would have been. I guess I'm just looking for advice/feedback, or maybe just want to vent. I'd really appreciate any opinions on this situation. Should i continue seeing her? The way I see it now, there are four options: 1. Try to be with her, and have her hopefully break up with her boyfriend. The obvious problem here is, if she cheats on her boyfriend now, what's to stop her from potentially cheating on me too? 2. Be her "on the side" guy. I'm not sure if I can handle this emotionally. I get too attached. 3. Try to legitimately be "just friends" with her. I don't know if this could work or not. It'd be weird to try to be just friends when we both know that there's a mutual attraction between us, and we'd probably just end up lapsing into old habits even if we don't mean to. And 4. Just ignore her? Or not necessarily ignore her; still be friendly, but try to part ways? Sorry if this was long. Anyway, I just don't really know how to handle the situation. Also, if I decide to continue to see her, I know that this issue of virginity and having a previous girlfriend will probably come up again. I really don't know how to handle this. How do I go about telling her the truth (if you even think that I should do that)?