Lust V. Intamacy

Would you rather be able to have sex but never cuddle or be truly intimate or cuddle/be truly intimate but never have sex I think this is a truly interesting question and am curious to see the differing opinions if any

 

i don't know. i'd be a pretty angry person either way.

granted, i rarely get either one as it is...

 

too much like work. but affection is always good.

 

If it was someone I loved than I think I'd much rather be affectionate and intimate rather than just having meaningless sex with people I don't love for the rest of my life.

 

I've been down the hedonistic sex route & it can be really pleasurable, but as I've got older & more aware of my mortality I've abandoned the meaningless sex. I've always had the affection anyway, it is better combined with good sex with that person.

 

If you are really intimate with eachother it appears you can even have sex without penetration. So not much would be lost then

 

Ide rather have a cuddle with the one I love, than meaninglessness sex with someone I didn't give a flying fig for!

 

I thought cuddling produced meaningful sex.

I dunno, it depends on how I feel about the person. Cuddling is a sure way to find out how my heart is affected.

 

There's not necessarily a need to put lust and intimacy against eachother of course.

 

So I don't like cuddling that much. But I don't like sex without emotional intimacy. Can't I just have deeply emotional sex with lots of feels then we both get up and eat a sandwich instead of cuddling?

 

I think that cuddling is the ultimate form of intamacy even more so than sex, with sex there is an inherent element of lust which is not present when cuddling. All that occurs when cuddling IS THE INTAMACY love and affection towards your partner the desire to be close to them to hold them and know they are yours and you are there's for me honestly its no contest I would cuddle all day if I could

 

I like to cuddle, but I have sexual urges. Different parts of the brain working here, folks. But to the question, has anyone ever made a list of the top five people you'd like to cuddle? My bucket list includes fucking Emma Stone way before an afternoon under the quilt with Geena Davis.

 

hugs are good. affection.
tricks are for kids. wished i'd had more when i was younger.
not interested in trying to make up for that at the age i am now.

humans are mostly more annoying then to be worth putting up with.
plenty else in the universe to interest and gratify me in other ways.

 

Most relationships start out being lustful. The trick is keeping them that way.

 

I feel like one is just not complete without the other... But if I had to choose... Sex with no intimacy/cuddling. But even then I'd still be unsatisfied. >_< I fucking love cuddling! Lol.

 

Are the two really mutually exclusive?

 

No. It's a if you have to choose scenario.

 

Meh. Both are overrated, but I would pick teh secks. I will say that true love for another person is what is underrated.

 

LOL... How is intimacy overrated? Every individual has need for it, most even more than sex. Sex on itself is also not overrated, most romantic relationships would suck without any at all (besides... there wouldn't be any new people... but I guess this is not what this thread is about!). Maybe you are looking at it from a stereotypical pov again, like how the media brings it or something?

 

Shut the fuck up, a person does not NEED intimacy. There are plenty of people who go without it -- some by choice -- and do just fine.